Sorry this may hurt your feelings but I think she is having affair at work.

She may think that she is the breadwinner, she thinks she doesn't need you since her pay is higher. But fact of matter is, nobody raises the kids as good as you do. She needs to realize whichever guy she is going to bring home, he is going to fall short of you in impressing the kids. Even if she divorce n raise the kids herself, she will struggle.

She needs to realize that if she does divorce from you, her life is going to be bleak. Why ? because the kids will hate her and all she has left is her career.

I know a story of this woman who divorced her husband, migrated to Australia became a successful real estate agent there, and married an ang moh. but she wanted to encourage her daughter to follow her, the daughter wanted to stay with the exhusband, no matter what even to this day, when the daughter became adult.

So that lady even how successful she is in austalia, she felt lonely and unfulfilled.

i think is pretty unfair after 20 blady years only she brought all this up....about mismatch with you (way of thinking, mismatch). What the heck, just live with it lah, this woman. wHY she didn't think of this when you both pak tor and asked for break up, she is 20 years too late.