random note, my parents was pushing me again for stuff like having kids so i told them that the cost of having kids mahal, and confinement center was one of the topic

mum was like no need confinement centre la, they tiok money wan. last time we made do without anyway

so... is it true can make do without confinement center? seems like all my other peers who recently have kids paid a huge amount to one (RM10-15k even)

u ask ur mom last taim she walk or bicycle nia why now use car?

last taim her mom (ur granny) jaga her now she willing to jaga ur waifu or not?

can u make do without confinement center?
yes, but u have to do all the work of caring for mom and baby, cooking, cleaning and deal with the sleeplessness and stress associated with it. if u have a large household and have support, this is ok.

and i tell u, if u have not done this before, u will likely be completely overwhelmed if u do this on your own

i was like u last time, save money ma. so the first one we took care of the baby with a confinement lady. my second one, no questions asked, straight to confinement center. we didn't even ask the price, just pay it. but that's just me

reply back:

old folks cakap leksi (history), we youngster cakap lansi

true, cause friends of my age (30s) said that theyre kinda being too much of doting parents that theyre spoiling their kids

stuff like kids want new toys? BUY
need stuff for kids that use few times? BUY
and so on...
not until that reasoning la, its more like for her case she said nowadays all tiok so much in terms of cost

so dont need to go to that hassle to go confinement centre, but opt for others like hire maid/stay with parents etc etc

Since my wife is expected to give birth next year, a major cost and concern is regarding confinement centre or confinement lady.

Those who have gone through this before, please share your experience and cost.

From what I heard mostly is around 10-15k.

On my experience, better go confinement center

Pros
1) more people take care of your wife & baby
2) fixed cost
3) insta worthy food pictures

If you taking confinement lady

Pros
1) stay home

Cons
1) 1 person settle all, she will be very tired and may not give your wife & baby 100% focus
2) variable cost, week week will ask buy this buy that ..
3) if the lady is a creature of habit, then your wife will everyday eat same kind of food until she jelak
4) your house will be dirty unless you got maid or yourself clean the house cos confinement lady wont clean

it is also a gamble sometimes with confinement lady, sometime you get good ones , something nightmare ..

pricing wise, confinement center 10-15k like you said but its all inclusive
confinement lady last year i hire was 6.8k and havent add all the food / herbs / what ever other shit she ask ... it was a nightmare for me, i asked her to leave after 4 days.

some extreme case for 1 child expenses when born.

my koliq, went private for natural born, cannot come out, then c section, this part cost more than 10k already.

then baby ate own faeces, infection masuk nicu, another 10k, and private will send the baby to gh also after that.

then confinement center another 10k.

cost is not in selangor lagi.

so 30k for 1 child at least. she is having another 1 now.

some extreme case for 1 child expenses when born.

my koliq, went private for natural born, cannot come out, then c section, this part cost more than 10k already.

then baby ate own faeces, infection masuk nicu, another 10k, and private will send the baby to gh also after that.

then confinement center another 10k.

cost is not in selangor lagi.

so 30k for 1 child at least. she is having another 1 now.

lol this is almost exactly as my friends wife did. apparently gynae said her uterus not stronk enough during pushing so they ended up C-sec her and cost extra few k

dahlah they went to private hospital + hire one of the bigger name doctors lel
but they can afford though so.. biarlah

at this rate im more turned off by having kids ughh, so mahal

yah thats how i replied, cause obviously want best for wife after child birth stress. not like we males get long ass paternity leave to take care of other half also

theres only one you, how to juggle time with jaga waifu and work?

my wife did surgery before to remove fibroid around 7cm in womb which worry it will affect the fetus if pregnant, so the gh doctor straight say week 37 go do c section. inside there she said she saw alot women with difficulty of giving birth. some there hanging 2 days already.

some told her she is lucky to have c section (by right c section is a worse way). my wife on pain killer almost a week after c section.

when both u and your wife aren't getting enough sleep, baby crying every 2 hours, house chores etc etc, u find find both of u highly stressed and arguments isn't uncommon.

if u can afford it, just pay it

my wife last year in little xxxxxxxx.

28k for 28days.

worth or not?

personally feeling worth if you’re first time parent and your parent explicitly told you they won’t help you to take care of the baby lol.

of course next child we will go for cheaper options like 15k to 18k.