Hi all, wanna ask if anybody knows if this is a ED or PE.

My hub & I just got married. During the intimacy, our foreplay can go up to about 20-30 mins. His stick can get hard easily whenever I stroke it, Bj or we kiss.

The problem is maintaining the hardness. Whenever want to insert time, his stick will become soft & cannot insert d. Then i have to give bj / stroke it fast to make it hard again. Then when wanna insert again, become soft again.

At time he can maintain the hardness, but will come after in out for 1 min. Cannot change position, if change/try different position, will become soft again.

He can come quite fast when I bj him or stroke it fast. Just cannot insert. It can be quite frustrating because I have to DIY when he’s not around to satisfy myself.

Does it sounds like ED or just PE? I asked him if he’s anxious, he said he’s not anxious at all, quite chill. But why though?

Best to see a doctor.

If you and your husband is worried about that, best to see a urologist if your husband is open minded about it. I think you could classify this is mild ED.

How old is your husband? general fitness? any health problems? How often do you have sex? Using condom?

Its not an uncommon problem. Once we get up to our late 40s, this sometimes becomes a problem. We arn't spring chickens any more at that age.

Nowadays there is that little miracle blue pill, but talk to your doctor before taking any medication.

This post has been edited by jaycee1: Apr 22 2022, 11:30 AM

Aged guy most likely got health issues like cardiovascular or diabetes that cannot make them tahan longer.

Most likely will discuss & see a urologist. In his 30s, very sedentary lifestyle. We both very caught up & emerged with own work, usually just 1-2 a week & unprotected.

Coming within 1 min of in/out is too fast isn’t? Not too sure.

If no underlying major health issues, then it could also be work stress or lack of concentration. But some additional fitness will definitely help in his case.

Your husband can do some kegal exercises to train stamina and hardness also. Yes, men can do that.

eh...that is pretty quick. Maybe seek medical advise on that front also. There are things that can be done to "train" men to last longer, like kegal exercises and mental disipline.


the more important advise is for you, this is a sensitive subject, please be gentle when approaching the subject.


Hope all works out for you. Best of luck.

Try magic tissue, it really helps

But didnt you said you BJ him to get him hard before inserting? Maybe already close to climax plus the power of your tightness. Another suggestion is to use lubricant. Men or women, their body changed as they aged. I personally find the natural lubricant is not as thin and slippery like when she was younger. If you are doing it raw, then you will still feel the wetness but it has a greater friction. However when you put on a condom, thats when you start to feel that it is not wet enough.

I think maybe your husband can try cock ring. Personally I have never tried but the description for cock ring is to prevent blood from flowing out from penis to maintain erection.

regular smoker / drinker gets erectile issues, perhaps he need to practice healthy lifestyle? to the worst , can consider Viagra or cialis

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This is an important point, a holistic approach starting w a general health checkup might be a good approach. Not suddenly self medicating with ED prescriptions

It is due to blood flow to penis is not at maximum level. Try to get manhood massage to treat this problem. Hopefully it can helps after several session.

For my experience as a therapist, its look like the tapak or base hv problems

I have a sense that he has stage fright. See, men grow up putting their entire worth on his manhood, so whenever they feel they are not 'up to it' the didi shrivels.

Best if you comfort / encourage him by saying all's good, that he need not worry, and he should be fine. He should be able to maintain his hardness until you both climax.

I've read the ED has 2 versions;
Physiological or
Psychological.

Since your hubby can get it up, means it is not Physiological.

It is Psychological and supposedly it is the most common type of ED....

Not quite sure what is PE though...

Probably also some low testosterone issue due to sedangary lifestyle.

But yeah it could be psychological as well. Seek specialist doc help