May 9 2023, 12:51 PM
QUOTE(maxmahen87 @ Mar 23 2022, 10:58 AM)
We’re in our mid-thirties and have a 2-year-old daughter.
My wife has a very good relationship with her siblings (5 of them), so she feels life without siblings is boring.
I’ve lived far away from home, most of my life, almost independently, struggled through without much help, so don’t feel so strongly about our daughter having a sibling.
Her biggest concern is that once we both are gone, if our daughter remains the only child, she would be all by herself in the world, with no one to share her life, with other than her spouse.
My argument to this – there are millions of kids like that, so what?
This is not a financial related decision, I have a well-paid job and am financially stable. I think I've been a great father to my kid and have done the absolute best for her and will continue to do so.
But I have to admit, parenting has been hard. Takes away a lot of your time and interest in doing other things. Adding another just going to overwhelm me psychologically.
Too add fuel to fire, this topic of another child started when I told my wife I got another job, with a significant increase in pay compared to my current job but we have to relocate to another state (KL to JB).
Initially, before I received the offer, my wife agreed to relocate.
However, after accepting the offer, when I was looking for places to stay online, she dropped the bomb having another child.
She told me, if I don't agree, she and my kid will not relocate and she has given me a week to decide.
I got no issue of relocating on my own (I would do it anyway even she disagreed to relocate the first time) but to emotionally blackmail me using my kid here is unfair.
What are your thoughts about having another child? Have you had a similar experience on this topic? Would like to hear your thoughts and feedback.
I can see some sibling rivalry go up to adulthood for some children, hmm.My wife has a very good relationship with her siblings (5 of them), so she feels life without siblings is boring.
I’ve lived far away from home, most of my life, almost independently, struggled through without much help, so don’t feel so strongly about our daughter having a sibling.
Her biggest concern is that once we both are gone, if our daughter remains the only child, she would be all by herself in the world, with no one to share her life, with other than her spouse.
My argument to this – there are millions of kids like that, so what?
This is not a financial related decision, I have a well-paid job and am financially stable. I think I've been a great father to my kid and have done the absolute best for her and will continue to do so.
But I have to admit, parenting has been hard. Takes away a lot of your time and interest in doing other things. Adding another just going to overwhelm me psychologically.
Too add fuel to fire, this topic of another child started when I told my wife I got another job, with a significant increase in pay compared to my current job but we have to relocate to another state (KL to JB).
Initially, before I received the offer, my wife agreed to relocate.
However, after accepting the offer, when I was looking for places to stay online, she dropped the bomb having another child.
She told me, if I don't agree, she and my kid will not relocate and she has given me a week to decide.
I got no issue of relocating on my own (I would do it anyway even she disagreed to relocate the first time) but to emotionally blackmail me using my kid here is unfair.
What are your thoughts about having another child? Have you had a similar experience on this topic? Would like to hear your thoughts and feedback.
For eg, I got a friend, he and his brother not get along due to their wives rivalry.
But this is up to the ability of the parent to foster closeness between the siblings. Some parents fail, that's why some siblings when they reached adulthood, their rship is so bad.
sometimes a second child can be a blessing. I remembered a story of a doctor who already had 2 kids, he didn't want a 3rd child, he hated the idea. Then it was an accident his wife got pregnant and was a girl. Then the girl was so cute to him, that youngest became his favourite.
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