i can see where TS is coming from. I currently have 2 girls, and the youngest is 5 years old, my wife wants a 3rd one and set a limit to have the baby last by 2024 (we'll be 55 years old by the time the 3rd one is 20 years old).

We both agree to see if it would make financial and social sense. So far, she has brought it up, since we are financially stable. I said give it 1 more year till 2023, and we'll revisit it again.

The crack of it is, BOTH parties have to agree to this. if you feel your wife is "blackmailing" you into it, you will have REGRET ALL THE TIME after. Dont ever do it unless you are 100% sure. Last thing you want is resentment towards your wife and let alone your 2nd child.

My advise (along with other people's advise) is talk to your wife, if both could not come to a conclusion, seek counselling as to why both cant achieve the same goal. you guys are a team, and if teams have 2 different directions, its not a team at all.

good luck TS.