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 Need a little marriage advice, Wife is asking for monthly allowance

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SUSrtk74
post Jun 12 2021, 08:47 PM

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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 11:56 AM)
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Now she's back with the cc problems.
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QUOTE(9m2w @ Jun 12 2021, 12:44 PM)
Sigh
You got to have a heart to hear talk. What you make is beside the point, and from what you say you're more than pulling your weight in the family. I fear you give in its never gonna be enough. Elephant in the room is frankly her attitude . Shes not acting like an adult and a wife and mother
Good luck 🤞
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Truthfully I emphatise with TS. In terms of monetary, you did more than enough. But in frank I believe you made a mistake when you payed off one of her CC debt. That opens up a new can of worms. Like you said, the actual issue is not about giving the actually money but where it leads to, not to mention her lack of contribution towards the marriage in terms of chores, money and sexual.

I believe, its possible that's she's easily affected by her environment; friends, family, internet etc etc. Easily swayed by her friends. Comparing friends receiving this and that are signs of trouble. With my past relationships, these type of women are quite hard to coerce. The only method that work is using her own ways against her; her friends husbands give them money but they also do chores, spends on household groceries etc, etc.

Quite frightening when I read that you're also the one to cook. Hiring a nanny is a solution but a stop-gap one. Main issue is Trust & Responsibility.

Also my ex that I talked about in the end cheated, citing that whatever I was giving her wasn't enough. Hopefully it won't happen to you.

QUOTE(xPrototype @ Jun 12 2021, 01:10 PM)
What does your wife even contribute in this relationship lol
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This is a serious question unfortunately

QUOTE(Oklahoma @ Jun 12 2021, 03:03 PM)
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I've seen far too many similar scenarios like TS, and I can tell you it doesn't end well...either you start feeling contempt, your wife start to stonewall, criticism or defensiveness.. the 4 horsemen of divorce..
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Lucky you, I'm compelled to give a min of rm400 if I earn less than 2k. Essentially 15~20%.

TS already said she maxed out her CC again even after he payed it off prior. Doesn't contribute much to family expenses.


QUOTE(biggie @ Jun 12 2021, 07:54 PM)
Wifey got 6k per month from me and no questions asked. Also a cc for her to use. As she not working I pay for everything.

With everything need it do some financial juggling from time to time.

But a happy home is something that I love to get back to everyday.
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OK laa like that since shes not working. Taking care of you, the kids & home.
But the key difference is she knows what to spend on like blanket84's waifu



Good luck TS, like Oklahoma has said, its a well written script that has ending known by the looks of it. Also ignore shiteheads like Solar Calendar.
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post Jun 12 2021, 08:49 PM

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QUOTE(Solar Calendar @ Jun 12 2021, 07:17 PM)
But that doesn't negate the fact that women have been and is still suffering under the oppression of men for centuries. Every man should tolerate his wife because they are born with privilege. If not, they are male chauvinist. For me personally, I always let my wife do anything she wants.
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Can't wait till you get cucked and she blames it all on you
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post Jun 12 2021, 09:32 PM

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QUOTE(Aurora Boreali @ Jun 12 2021, 09:16 PM)
TS enabled her since they were just 2 years into the relationship:
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If same girl GG TS sad.gif
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post Jun 12 2021, 10:21 PM

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QUOTE(Solar Calendar @ Jun 12 2021, 10:12 PM)
Wow, I am concerned that so many males, if not all are dismissing the existence of oppression towards the fairer sex. I hope serious kopitiam will have more female voice so male privilege don't go out of hand in real life. I blame mothers who don't side their daughter in laws and enable their sons actions. Mothers should recognise that females are vulnerable to male chauvinism. They are part of the same gender after all.
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But Men is much more vulnerable when it comes from minorities though

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-96...hite-women.html

Doesn't that mean I can just rape white women and cry racism if they reported me?


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post Jun 12 2021, 10:26 PM

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QUOTE(Solar Calendar @ Jun 12 2021, 10:24 PM)
I don't follow your point. But all male rapists should be hanged or electroshocked
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But Feminist & LGBTQ+++ say kenot if minorities. So how?

You guys keep deluding each other with your ideals while breaking up the fundamentals of a family unit.
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post Jun 14 2021, 02:14 AM

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QUOTE(JimbeamofNRT @ Jun 14 2021, 01:56 AM)
The solution is workable, only that TS will missed the childhood moments of his kid, I think by now he already attached to the new born baby. since the kid is almost 24/7 with him.

Something that you cannot trade with money, summore 1st kid.

haih. what a sticky situation.  sad.gif
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You're guys are making the wrong assumptions.

> Does she wants to take care of the kid?
I understand this is a stupid/insensitive question but a serious one still.

Also Jim, TS did mention he payed off her CC debts prior.
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post Jun 14 2021, 07:50 AM

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QUOTE(joe_star @ Jun 14 2021, 06:53 AM)
Hmm TS then seems adamant don't want child

Now look at what transpired.

Seems like TS is indeed waterfish exploited as fuark

How ppl so capable to earn 30k/month end up trapped like this when it comes to relationship?
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Loneliness is a bitch brahh. Having someone connecting with you on a very personal level is kinda for some people.

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