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 Need a little marriage advice, Wife is asking for monthly allowance

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post Jun 12 2021, 03:45 PM

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" I am paying for the house loan, the utilities & groceries (milk & diaper for my baby) "

This more than enough already. Not all married man can do like u
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post Jun 12 2021, 04:24 PM

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QUOTE(dickybird @ Jun 12 2021, 03:56 PM)
This is already a bad sign.
Experienced it myself,  I hold up the household,  exwife worked and agreed to foot for certain bills end up didn't pay so I had to pay.
Early on,  she dissed me by asking why I have no money when I paid for everything.
She made her own money, when she hit her target Incentive she would spend on herself mostly. Holidays she went with her bff, if I wanted to come along she'd loan the money. Wtf?!
Last last she asked for a divorce, said she wanted her freedom,  dunno what freedom she didn't get when she made her own money and spent it on herself.
Anyways,  years later I'm free and happy with my kids and she still looks sour and unhappy.
Divorce isn't always a tragedy,  sometimes it's a blessing in disguise.
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How much u need to pay your ex wife when divorced?


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post Jun 12 2021, 06:40 PM

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QUOTE(acbc @ Jun 12 2021, 06:33 PM)
Basically if u plan to be calculative, the wife may opt for a divorce or worse, cheat behind your back.

Seen this happening among friends before.

Marriage is all about cooperation and learn to do everything together.

Otherwise, why bother to marry for? Might as well have some one night stands instead.
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Make sense too. Marriage is like gambling. If choose wrong partner die lol.

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post Jun 12 2021, 07:21 PM

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QUOTE(Chinazi @ Jun 12 2021, 07:09 PM)
Kesiannya, house core x buat lagi nk pau 5k, bini ko memang x besyukur bang.
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Same like ex wife. Pemalas kerja rumah also tak buat. Kaki penipu pula.

Luckily managed to kick this rubbish out. She even try tipu court because she want cancel my permohonan cerai. Lousy shit penipu.
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post Jun 12 2021, 08:31 PM

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QUOTE(New Klang @ Jun 12 2021, 08:10 PM)
were you blinded by her before marriage?
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Yes. Black magic. Luckily i sedar earlier. If not i also dont know what will happen to me now. Become lembu just follow macam orang bodoh

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QUOTE(New Klang @ Jun 12 2021, 08:36 PM)
How to prove that she used black magic?

Did you visit a bomoh?
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Cant prove. But be careful when choose and wanna married.

Just hope we will find good life partner. That its

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post Jun 12 2021, 09:04 PM

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Her hutang all that shitt thing ( CC, personal loan, any shit loan ) .Dont ever be stupid and help her pay.

All that shit thing. Should be her parents or her family to help clear that debt she make.

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post Jun 12 2021, 10:32 PM

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My own exp. The ex sister in law can even msg her sister. asking me (as husband) to pay this fccking shit ex wife hutang personal loan

Fccking shitt family of them. Luckily im not until that level of stupid to pay other people hutang lol.



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post Jun 13 2021, 01:58 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 13 2021, 12:33 PM)
2016 she already shown some red flags and hasnt been resolved
dragged until today
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Sometime people blind by love..

Like me i kinda nerd person and always thinking everyone is good like me. That how i been scammed by shitt liar ex wife.

People asked me how come u dont know your wife like that..etc etc..

Yes i dont know at all before married this person. I just knew this person for few months before married. This was biggest ever mistake in my life

Luckily managed to kick her. And its not easy task. Shitt scammer like her wont easily wanna go away just like
that.

Be careful if wanna get married

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post Jun 13 2021, 02:04 PM

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QUOTE(blueblueoutofblue @ Jun 13 2021, 01:40 PM)
Yeah, u r..

I gave 90% of my income to my fiancée

She handle all household stuff and pay for everything using her salary , which about rm4k

My pay ? Just enough

Although she will ask me every time she wanna buy stuff
Clothes, make up or things

Usually I say go ahead
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post Jun 13 2021, 09:07 PM

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QUOTE(duplicated @ Jun 13 2021, 08:32 PM)
Some girls will wait until they have kids to demand such allowances. Because if this happens before having kids, the husband can just divorce easily. After having kids, it's harder and costly.

And they will not abandon the kids during the divorce because kids can be used as their leverage.
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Make sense too. They can use kids to demand montly payment from ex husband.

My case luckily i knew earlier. No kids at all. All safe my asset too. Kick this scammer out. Court order said i dont need pay this person any single sen. Maybe because just few months of married. If already married for many years.. that could be more harder to settle.

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post Jun 13 2021, 09:48 PM

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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 13 2021, 09:40 PM)
you're lucky msia law is more loose
if you're in US you will definitely get fcuked.
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Yes. Agreed with you. At last this scammer send msg to my mother. She want money for few month of married. Lousy shitt person. Luckily my mum straight call me. I forward that msg to court officer. And they said she wanna scam your monther. The officer said never ever paid anything without court order from the judge.

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post Jun 14 2021, 01:13 PM

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QUOTE(JimbeamofNRT @ Jun 14 2021, 12:55 PM)
she is a bad spender

even if TS give half of his earning it won't be enough

by now TS Avangelice you should need to check her financial background, see if she got invest in any MLM scheme or got gambling habit, worse still if she otang with any ah long.

later if ah long come to your clinic, well then it is too late already.
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Just need to siasat all her hutang statement. Its can be use on court in case.

If better if ask her print CCRIS record. All of the hutang loan u can see clearly inside that CCRIS record. Now more easy as this record we can get online.
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post Jun 14 2021, 03:25 PM

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QUOTE(dickybird @ Jun 14 2021, 02:15 PM)
Her hutang her problem
As long as he no sign guarantees, he's Scot free
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That correct. Her hutang is her problem

But this kind of "scammer" they will try asking for money. Nak pinjam husband money.

Last time my own experinced the ex kaki hutang wife asking me. She wanna pinjam my money rm 40k. Really kaki hutang shitt person. Off course i not that stupid to simply give her money 40k lol.

Anyway is better be really super careful if your life partner kaki hutang loan.

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