No offence but beware ppl like your wife, she is manipulative and making you feel guilty. If you give her money now, you will just enable her behavior and there's worse to come as you go down this path

My friend's marriage really suck the soul outta him, he keep giving in for years until the end he don't even recognize himself... now also divorce and had an ugly custody battle as well as financial. Lost all confidence and direction in life, now getting his life back together slowly...

My advise to you is stay firm, stand by what your gut is telling you and don't give the money. Even today you earn 100k/month, it doesn't automatically means you need to give her money.

It's not to be calculative but if she can't contribute financially or can't even take care of herself or family and still think there's nothing wrong with her self AND still think she's entitled to your money, this is the worse type... sorry to say.

whether you give rm100 or rm1000, you are giving in... from there it'll be a slippery slope.

Before giving your wife money, she first need to understand
- just because you're a man, means need to give money to wife?
- just because you earn 30k, so means need to give?
and so on, it's not the sum that matters, it's the principle. If you blur that line, eventually you will lose yourself

If she earn 5k and don't need to pay for home and kid expenses and still can't sustain herself, then she should first look in the mirror and fix herself before making any demands.

Even the credit card, she wont care much racking up the debt since she knows at the end someone will step in to clear it, when someone live with no consequences, their life will be reckless

This post has been edited by dizoriso: Jun 13 2021, 02:47 PM