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Need a little marriage advice, Wife is asking for monthly allowance
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ameliorate
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 Jun 12 2021, 12:08 PM
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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 11:56 AM) When I enquire about her money spending she says the make up I buy is so I look good for you. You don't want to be seen with a run down wife right? Clothes? Also same. She says she wants a maid and I said no eventhough she doesn't do any house chores. I ask about her cc and it seems to be always maxed out. When we first got married I was shocked she was just paying her maxed out cc with monthly minimal payment & had to settle it by closing one of her ILP & close the cc. Now she's back with the cc problems. She doesn't do any house chores and have credit card debt? These 2 already red flag but nasi sudah jadi bubur. Good luck to you TS. |
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ameliorate
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Jun 12 2021, 03:44 PM
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I don't like to get into people's marriages. Like the famous chinese saying la. So no advise, just observation and assumption on what TS wrote only.
He is resentful of the wife due to he doing everything but the wife did not and yet demand more money. It's not so much the 5k, I'm sure he can afford to give. The wife does not show appreciation for the burden he is carrying.
It does not seem the marriage is a partnership anymore and there is no trust.
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ameliorate
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Jun 12 2021, 05:21 PM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 12 2021, 05:07 PM) treat a woman like a queen or celebrity, you will become her fans. You mean her only fans? Sorry can't resist  |
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ameliorate
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Jun 12 2021, 09:41 PM
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QUOTE(Aurora Boreali @ Jun 12 2021, 08:52 PM) A lot of red flags if you read back your own thread TS: Famous last words right there. What kind of conversations were you having with her in the 5 years so much so that you didn't know she was maxing out her CC? And that you didn't know her financial mindset and spending habits? EDIT: Can't help but dig more into your past posts. Your relationship started off with sooo many huge red flags. Sorry I have to bold the "desparate" part on RO Player's prediction You need professional marriage counselling, seeing your relationship started off with so many red flags. It has just culminated in a baby and no sex and wife demanding more money. The ugly truth just reared its heads EDIT2: SO TS KNEW ABOUT HER ATTITUDE TOWARDS FINANCE Why did you marry her again? Wow! This just open a can of worms. So TS knew before they even got married.... |
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ameliorate
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Jun 14 2021, 03:12 PM
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The problem is that the wife don't have respect to ts. Marriage is not difficult if you marry the right person and both have similar temperament.
This is a mismatch from the beginning and is akin to swimming upstream. The wife don't contribute because she is not interested anymore and is staying because of money. I guarantee you if she found another guy she respects, she will automatically do housework and contribute.
This post has been edited by ameliorate: Jun 14 2021, 03:18 PM
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