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 Need a little marriage advice, Wife is asking for monthly allowance

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The Residences
post Jun 12 2021, 04:28 PM

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I can understand if a woman don't know or cannot cook well.

Still can learn or the husband can cook.

But I cannot tolerate if wife is not helping you to do other housechores such as wash dishes, basuh baju etc, vacuum rumah.

It's not even hard to do it especially if you have 1 kid only at the moment.


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post Jun 12 2021, 04:40 PM

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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 02:21 PM)
And what does It leave me? I cook everyday after coming from work. I do my laundry. I wash the plates. I hired a nanny for my son & is with me at my clinic everyday.

So how is it that she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough?
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QUOTE(hirano @ Jun 12 2021, 02:24 PM)
Have you even asked her to help the housechores? Do the housechores together, not leaving 1 person for it.

And of course, in the first place before marrying her, you should know how she's like. The lazy trophy wife or a real life partner.
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Maybe you can apply a simple rule.

After you eat, you wash your own plate, bowl, cup etc. Your partner also need to wash on her own.
My family has been practicing this for a long time and it works.

Except if you're cooking and need to wash the cooking appliances, then the person that cook will have to cook/clean it by their own.

I don't even think it's so hard to wash the dishes.

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The Residences
post Jun 12 2021, 06:18 PM

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QUOTE(HalseyFrangipane @ Jun 12 2021, 05:37 PM)
1. You pay for all the living expenses, expenditures, maintenance, etc. She isn't.

2. You are investing for your child's future. She isn't.

3. You are doing house chores. She isn't.

If she's doing all the house chores, then I think she deserves an allowance as house chores on a daily basis is not easy and tiring as well (not half assed).

But based on your replies, I can't seem to point out a single contribution from her besides spawning a child. I don't see why she has any rights to ask for an allowance in the first place.

Of course, people might say she's your wife, you should do it out of love, etc. The same can be said for her as well. But there seems to be no contribution from her part at all, it doesn't even have to be in numbers or financially related. If she's actively contributing in other form of ways, then I don't see anything wrong with her asking for the 5k.
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I think TS still can understand and willing to give money if she's contribute her part in the small family.

But in this situation, only 1 person that doing everything, so I guess that's why TS is frustrated and thinking twice to give her money.
His wife is so entitled.
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post Jun 13 2021, 10:02 AM

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I think 1 of the big mistake that TS done is he declared on how much he earn as a doctor at his own private clinic at East Malaysia.

Salary 30k every month for a young guy with 1 kid and wife considered huge for someone that live in East Malaysia. You know the income for people makan gaji at East Malaysia is seriously low compared to people that live in Peninsular. Young people below 40 years old that achieve 30k every month considered a good achievement.

If TS just declared that he have income for 10k as example, I think the wife can still understand after you had declared how much you pay for everything and tell her how much left after deduct money for expenses. Cost living at East Malaysia also quite expensive. It's not a sin if TS tell a white lie to his wife. This is for both own good.

Even let say I'm TS wife, I'm also will ask for a little bit of money to be honest.

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