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Need a little marriage advice, Wife is asking for monthly allowance
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 Jun 12 2021, 05:25 PM
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QUOTE(Avangelice @ Jun 12 2021, 11:12 AM) Hello everyone, Just a gist of it, I am paying for the house loan, the utilities & groceries (milk & diaper for my baby) and my bring home pay is around 30k per month & the Mrs is bringing home around 5k a month. We had a fight this month and she exploded saying she doesn't get any money from me & her colleagues husbands all "put money in their purses when they see its empty". I am reluctant to give because majority of the money I make goes to my son's education via investments & I do not expect her to chip in at all for the maintainance of the family well being. Am I the asshole? A little bit of an asshole. Use your son education to deflect the argument not very nice. Should just say u need to invest the money so can retire happily. But you should still give money to your wife. This is 2021. This post has been edited by Solar Calendar: Jun 12 2021, 05:30 PM |
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Jun 12 2021, 05:26 PM
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QUOTE(zeist @ Jun 12 2021, 05:04 PM) She is doing office job or freelance? She is just comparing you with her friends Let her taste the bitterness and repent As long you pay for all the bills, insurance, groceries, house and car, this is good enough Recipe for divorce. |
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Jun 12 2021, 05:29 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 04:31 PM) I'm sorry to tell this, you're not the asshole here, your wife is. Having said that, I gave all my excess monthly salary to my wife since I am the big spender in the family. I will splurge on useless thing if I have the money with me. My wife on the other hand is a good Finance Minister. You just proved the opposite that TS is an asshole. Already 2021 still cannot give one cent to wife. Woman are entitled to your finances. This is to compensate centuries of woman suffering and the fact you are physically much more domineering. The whole idea is to compensate whatever disadvantage women have. |
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Jun 12 2021, 07:11 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 06:09 PM) I gave my wife all my money since she is good at controlling the money, not for her to spend randomly, and I am the opposite of her a.k.a the big spender. All the money I gave, she will put in my kids' saving account & buy groceries. If I have wife like TS' wife, I wouldn't give her a single cent. So, TS did the right thing. TS is a male chauvinist. |
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Jun 12 2021, 07:17 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 07:14 PM) If TS is a male chauvinist, he wouldn’t be doing laundry. From what I see, TS’ wife is an ungrateful person. But that doesn't negate the fact that women have been and is still suffering under the oppression of men for centuries. Every man should tolerate his wife because they are born with privilege. If not, they are male chauvinist. For me personally, I always let my wife do anything she wants. |
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Jun 12 2021, 07:20 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 07:18 PM) But TS didn’t even oppress his wife  It is called social contract. The whole society should take responsibility for past and present action. I am doing my part. They need extra protection, meaning more privilege than they actually performed to deserve it. |
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Jun 12 2021, 07:23 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 07:18 PM) But TS didn’t even oppress his wife Also, if you are born a male, you are already oppressing woman. You have more chance to get a job than another woman, you have more chance to get your parents love, you eat more food, you are smarter, even sex position you are on top of her. That is why we must give them much more power to compensate for an inherent disadvantage. |
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Jun 12 2021, 07:23 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 07:22 PM) But I don’t see how TS’ wife deserve anything more than what TS already provide. TS is a male. Naturally, she should be entitled to get more stuff from him. |
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Jun 12 2021, 07:31 PM
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QUOTE(blanket84 @ Jun 12 2021, 07:28 PM) Tell that to feminist SJW. Anyway, my opinion remains that TS’ wife is just an ungrateful person. Yes, I am a feminist, but not the extremist type. If got free time, look up feminism social contact theory. |
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Jun 12 2021, 10:14 PM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 12 2021, 10:11 PM) you're encouraging bad behaviors down the road if you let go of your boundary. i'd doubt marrying her in the past was a good decision since we havent known the dating history I am just shock to read this. Honestly. I cannot bring myself to even fault my wife for tiniest issue like not washing dishes. Let alone blame her for any cracks in the marriage. If anything, it is men's fault for misrepresenting themselves to their female idol. |
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Jun 12 2021, 10:16 PM
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QUOTE(-mystery- @ Jun 12 2021, 10:13 PM) single moms raise weak male generation I have seen how my dad used his dominant position to bully my mom into submission. The same thing is repeating in the newer generation. I can see it clearly like this thread. Chinese and Korean dramas are making it worse by portraying male domination as alpha like and sexy. It simply isn't. |
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Jun 12 2021, 10:21 PM
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QUOTE(9m2w @ Jun 12 2021, 10:16 PM) You and me appear to be on the same page. Red flags here are all on the wife. The husband is doing it all, providing, chores and even thinking about the future. The pocket money is just a symptom of a bigger problem. I hope they can talk it out. I understand that she is not putting in a good effort. But have you thought how worse her ancestors went through? Women were only given the right to vote a hundred years ago. It was only the prior generation where women were expected to take on passive, submissive, degrading role as housewives were still rampant. I say she deserves a pass so we as males can atone for our sins. Sacrifices have to be made to reach an equilibrium. |
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Jun 12 2021, 10:24 PM
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QUOTE(rtk74 @ Jun 12 2021, 10:21 PM) But Men is much more vulnerable when it comes from minorities though    https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-96...hite-women.htmlDoesn't that mean I can just rape white women and cry racism if they reported me? I don't follow your point. But all male rapists should be hanged or electroshocked |
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Jun 12 2021, 10:32 PM
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QUOTE(rtk74 @ Jun 12 2021, 10:26 PM) But Feminist & LGBTQ+++ say kenot if minorities. So how? You guys keep deluding each other with your ideals while breaking up the fundamentals of a family unit. The majority of feminist don't support such garbage. |
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Jun 13 2021, 04:11 AM
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I can see most ktards here are overwhelming males. Need to have more female voice. I believe women will not blame everything on a woman.
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Jun 13 2021, 04:17 AM
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QUOTE(sammm33 @ Jun 13 2021, 04:14 AM) in this case , the bad person seems to be the wife , no ? what is your point to TS case actually ? I realise males have privilege. If u ditch ur wife, she will find it hard to remarry. But as a male, you can easily marry again. That is why I said women are born with inherent disadvantage. I used to be like you guys, blame everything on the wife, but after a very depressing phase in my life where I took up feminism study, I realised i must be the opposite of what I was. |
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