From all the replied I see from you above...
I think you are not ready for a family.. better divorce...give the lady more freedom...

Have you even asked her to help the housechores? Do the housechores together, not leaving 1 person for it.

And of course, in the first place before marrying her, you should know how she's like. The lazy trophy wife or a real life partner.

Just give 5k and when you’re home no need be so tired need another round of fighting

Depending if the wealth TS earn or the assets TS bought are before the marriage or during. If before, they don't have to be split 50 50. Alimony is only if TS cheats right?

Later give 5k ,years later not enough also problem (human never get enough)

I earn and have sufficient to spend for myself, same as most of you guys, house etc he pays

But sometimes my SO gives me some random allowances to spend on. recently I bought a thermo flask (it's by far the most expensive bottle I own, cuz I've always been a cheapo). He then banked in the amount to me in silence without telling...I saw the transaction on bank statement days later.

Not that I die die want the money, but I really love the affection...so yea, maybe your wife is seeking some sort of affection?