Hi, how to approach type D girl? She told me that theres no chemistry because of her personality as she takes very long time to bond with people. We went out twice before but after that she's always busy with work, or something came up after we set the date. So I always can't get to ask her out. She felt guilty for wasting my time and energy, told me that I deserved someone better. I felt like I bother her too much but according to her, i'm not a burden to her but it's due to her own personality problem, so she said it's better to just be friends. But then she told me that she's happy to get my msgs. She would just go with the flow, 顺其自然.... I feel she's not sure and not really rejecting relationship.

For my case, she never see getting into relationship as a thing for her, maybe just optional. She's always busy with work, work day and night. I msg her but she could just leave it for days before she bluetick me and reply. Even on weekends, she would just ignore her phone for the whole day. Usually I only text her on weekend, but very less interaction. If I never initiated, I think we would have been strangers. At the same time, I'm worried that I'm being too pushy.

How did u get your gf? What are your tips?

We both jokingly agreed to go for dinner after the first meeting in my office. First date was great, but after that, she got really cold in replying. After few weeks, went for 2nd one. But 2nd dinner was a bit rushed, as she was busy, and arrived late. Not that great I guessed, I think I asked stupid question about her thoughts on marriage.

I thought of asking her out for 3rd date, but she was always busy. So I thought I might just go for Christmas dinner, I knew she's busy, and she went for 2 weeks holiday in Japan. Had a good chat before she went off for holiday, I asked her what she wished for Christmas and I told her I wished for her time. She said she would arrange. I told her about the dinner before she got off but she never reply. After she was back, I tried asking her out for the Christmas dinner but she rejected because she had a lot to do as she just got back. I was disappointed as I had already prepared gifts and handmade cookies and Christmas cards for her, it had been a long time since we last met and I actually wanted to initiate physical touch on this one but it never happen. I sent the gifts to her office, she said she was impressed and a bit guilty for me spending money for the gifts. After that, never really had chance to meet her till now.

Damn I just saw your thread and I think I have missed my chance. I thought of physical contact on first date but I was hesitant about it. Should have done that earlier. Do u think I should go for it if I managed to date her after this? It's a bit awkward now, she rarely reply. She knew I was going after her and this could be pressuring her. I am thinking to tell her that I have no more expectations and to just let things go naturally, so that she won't feel pressure going out with me again.

First date was around last october.

I only met her twice for dinner last year. After that not really got chance because she is always busy or something got caught up after we set the date. She always offered to pay, and not sure why she refused me to walk her to her car after dinner,. Everytime i asked about her parents occupation, she would just say they are running their own business but refused to tell what kind of business. But now i guess i know the answer. I saw what car she drives after we last met. She is from well off family background and before we met, my feelings already told me that she is working in her dad's company, no wonder she's willing to work days and nights.

She told me its better not to be in relationship due to her personality. Perhaps she felt guilty for wasting my time and effort. I told her if this is the case, i will not bother her anymore but then she told me she feels like she want to just let it go naturally. I said just give it a little more time to get to know more about each other, im ok if we just met once a month. I was a bit surprised when she asked me for dinner before CNY, not sure what she was up to. But then as she was very busy, she cancelled both last minute 1 day before CNY break, she came during office hours and we met up for short while as she said she wanted to see me and she picked something for me turned out she gave me a box of mandarin

I still like her very much and of course I wish to continue dating her. But I guess perhaps I did it wong from the beginning?? As after that I did some research on the net and found out that we are supposed to go the opposite direction than normally what a typical guy would do when he is dating a girl. Always try not to chase and act nonchalantly towards someone that u want to attract, not to exposed your neediness and this will show your value, girls will then be attracted, let them do the chase. We tend to get worried when got treated by girls through this hot and cold approach and we should treat them the same method too. If she just wanted to be friends then just be cool to move on, stop chatting stop dating and say goodbye. If she still has some interest, eventually she will come back after the cold approach. But Im not sure if this works, i have distant myself from her and see how things go after that.