So as per topic, what should i do? He is standard 5 iinm. I dont care if he watches straight porn since i think most of us did the same at that age

Found out by checking the browser history since he always use the computer in my room whenever im not around to play games and watch youtube. But one particular day he locked the door whereas normally he wont even close the door properly. Since then i always check the history and yeah he did watch it on other days as well.

I want to tell my sister about it so that something can be done to correct him before its too late, but at the same time i dont want my sister and my bro in law to be very disappointed that their son is gay. And also im afraid he will do something with my kids if i expose him, although i can ask my sister to say she found it out herself by checking the browser history

Another possibility would be he was simply curious on how to masturbate

His google search was always “boy cum”

how do u know boy cum is gay porn for sure?

could it be him curious of why is he cumming n wanna check n see if others are the same, or also just checking the way of boy cumming?

i think he's just curious since he's at the stage where he discovered his body is changing.

better talk to him early and give the right guidance.

Oh that was the google search. Then theres a list of porn sites with gay titles like hot twink jerk on cam, sweet hot big cock asian twink, etc

Not sure bout being curious when he watches a few times already with many different videos. But I agree about guiding him but I definitely wont be the one doing it. So u reckon i should tell my sister?

You are not the parents

Just tell the parents

If you don't want. Then you do you

and it is sorta challenging nowadays especially during this pandemic where kids are left unsupervised and have lots of energy on their hand without school occupying their day time.

I think if you guys haven't initiated the talk with him yet, now is the time. Don't corner him and seat him at the dinner table like some sorta intervention, it should be done in a safe and casual environment.

Maybe bring it up with him after his fap session over a comedic tween flick, I'd suggest American Pie. Do not strategist a battle plan and even a bailing sentence, remember sex is not a form of punishment but overloading on dopamine is long term.

Do not expect this talk to be a one time thing because he's a growing kid and these talks will certainly occur more frequently as he grows older. Let him be comfortable, let him come to you willingly on this topic.

Good luck TS.

that little kid only 11 years old..i thought we only can classify other people gender only after 18 years old..maybe he a she trapped inside male body..until then that person is genderless..#genderlesscommunity
#freedom #dontbestraightasruler

I fucking love this.
It's his self-discovery.
And it is totally fine if he is gay.



Also, on your question, whether you should act upon it or even change him

YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO DO SO.
You have no right to expose him.
You have no right to force his coming out.

He should be doing it on his own and on his own terms.

There is completely nothing wrong with being gay.

he probably have bukakke fetish

jokes aside, its better to have man to man talk with ur nephew.

Whatever he chooses to be...just support him.

I have a nephew too. I am ready for him to be either straight or gay. I will be supportive in any way

Honestly, I hate it when people like to put matters in their own hands.
This is about sexuality and it's private.

He's a kid you dimwit. He could be curious and exploring that doesn't mean he's gay. A dimwit uncle you are.

Though it's still prudent you show the browser history directly to the parents. Don't be sohai and use words like gay. Just show them and let them draw their own conclusion you dimwit.

If I am you, i would tell my sis about it. But i will ask my sister to say she found it out herself by checking the browser history. Then let his parents decide what do they want to do next.

this I agree

unless if TS caught him red handed watching gay porn, well...

things can gone wrong in so many ways

most likely the sis will accuse TS of being busy body and cari pasal with the kid

If he is gay there is nothing you or his parents can do about it. Gay or straight is not something anybody can control.

If he is just curious he will grow out of it. I would suggest do nothing.

Leave the boy alone. Would a 5 year old you want your uncle suddenly ask you why you surf porn?

Watch with him and finds out what interest him.

Parents dont take lightly on nonsence by their children especially reported by 'others'. As uncle and a third party, you are more neutral to handle the situation.

This little secret between uncle and nephew is best sorted out b4 informing the parents so that they can keep an eye and to help him if necessary. They may even have to accept his 'wish' in the future.

Teach him the right way to fap and the right content to look at.

I don't think you should tell his parents. This is not your info to share. He can come out whenever he feels like it. He's too young for you to break him out of his shell, out of his comfort zone. You'll just destroy him.

Would you do anything differently if he watched straight videos?
Do you really think a person's sexuality can be guided? So if someone guided you, you could also bend?

Now he's being discreet. If you force him to come out, then he'll no longer be discreet. He might get bullied and discriminated in schools. His whole childhood and relationship with his parents will be different. If his parents hate him, that'd be even worse!

If you expose him his parents will be aghast and put pressure on him. It may destroy his childhood. In the end nothing will be achieved because he will still follow his gender preference. Just let it be a secret between you and him.

Being gay is not a choice, if you not sure your sister family can accept that kind of 'abnormality', don't tell her, u may end up destroying his/their life (being forced to marry, or worst abandon his parent for his gay partner)

Interact with him more ... U will can find out first he straight or gay before telling ur sis... Does he behave like a normal boy or a gay boy

Please thread lightly, i'm studying psych now and there is a lot you can do wrong to fuck his whole life up unintentionally

Don't regret your decisions, don't force it out of him, don't drive someone to suicide

agreed! If the parents are not going to be able to accept it's best to wait until he's older rather than risking emotional and maybe even physical abuse of the child they might resent

first, teach him to use Incognito mode
second, let him be whoever he wants to
third, act dunno

Ok based on most of the replies, im gonna do nothing bout it and let him choose to be gay or straight or whatever, because like some said it would pressure him and my sister to correct his sexual preference if he is indeed gay

dude, it's not about being gay or not ... it's about developing an unhealthy masturbating habit at a young age.

Since your oredi know something, is difficult for you to ignore him. Have more interaction and you can guide him that way since he still young. Otherwise, he learn from others and come home with unwanted things.

What he wants when he reaches adulthood is up to him.

nyies

Intro XMM to him.
He need more interaction with opposite sex.

Mixed school, boys n girls should play together.

Uncle FINDING a Standard 5 XMM for nephew is going to get uncle into even more trouble than nephew LOL

This post has been edited by ViktorJ: Oct 31 2020, 08:39 PM

Show your D and cum infront of him, if he didn't enjoy then he isn't gay

No, seriously, learning to cum doesn't mean he's a gay, yet.

Truth is, people want to be progressive, but simple responsibility like telling the parents is so hard because takut of blow back

Truth is the way forward, whether you like it or not, that's my opinion on any issue. Clarification and explanation is required and everyone to be open about it. And lose the assumptions on every damn thing.

The acceptance gotta come sooner or later. only the weak minded like to hide stuff here and there.

I would just leave him be, and give him advice only if you can see something is really ruining his wellbeing.

Also, correcting someone sexual preference is just not gonna be worth it, it's like trying to tell YOU, to start sexualizing guys instead of girls

I fully agree with you. If he is gay, then it is what it is. If you force him otherwise, nothing good can come out of it.

Just let him grow see he dating girls or no....maybe he just at curious stage, dont expose him like that, it would ruin his childhood

he's just curious la. talk to him in a positive way and encourage him to speak out, then give proper guidance and knowledge.

There may be 2 other factors to this situation:

1) No girl wants to date him because he is ugly. In this case, have to have thick wallet or own business.

2) He thinks the only girls he should date are Asian.

Talking about gay this and gay that misses a point, that some men are gay because women don't want them.

Don't ignore women causing men to become gay, thanks

Will wait for someone to prove me wrong as usual, with anecdotes or insults, because that's how most people argue

Probably ask him if he is interested in straight porn.
He could be just curious, if a hetero and become a homo then a homo can become a hetero too.

cant you guys just leave him alone?

Teddy found new blood.

Dang, I can imagine TS getting swarmed with Leftist LBGT SJW activist telling him to mind his business.

Kids at one point may get confused. I remember back at school, kids at that age, look a bit girlish, especially at a boy's school, some boys could get attracted to one another.

I used to know this guy who was attracted to one pondan at school. He even told us his story that he had sex with the pondan, when they went to watch movie at cinema in the toilet. Dunno how true, because he has many fantasies.

But he grew over it, and became heterosexual. He married and have kids.

Yeah by all means, TS please tell his parents about this.

1) Not sure how many Standard 5 girls are up for dating, and if he has to think about money, he should ask his mother for more pocket money.

2) There are probably not many Ang Moh girls in his class and/or school at this point. Maybe when he is in college?

Some kids are already having sex in primary school.

And that's a truth few like to admit.

And, exclusion is the easiest way to see who is wanted and who isn't.

Every action has a reaction too ...

Send him to Taiwan
He will be free there

He maybe curious when his school mates talk about it.

Try to talk to your sis indirectly about the need to have sex education with her son. Emphasize it if she still doesn't get it. If she still doesn't get it then talk to her with a peaceful heart.

It's bad if people only depend on 🦐 for sex knowledge. All flawed and too exaggerated.

Just tell his mother lo.. make it as a joke to reduce the tension

This isn't about you. For children under 18, it is up to their parents and/or guardian to decide. Don't make it personal

I.... really do not understand.

Are you encouraging TS to get his nephew to earn money so he can be attractive to females so then he can have sex with girls while he is in primary school?

We all know such things are going on, but why are we even encouraging that? How is that even addressing problems?

Buat tak tahu je, if you tell his parents then you will become the bad guy instead.

I.... really do not understand.

People choose what to do in their life, the girl can also say no, and the guy may also say no.

Telling people what happens, is not the same thing as telling them what to do.

Do you see that?

(P.S. Don't concern troll or whiteknight here, and don't assume on my behalf )

What girl and what guy? The kid is 11 years old.

Telling who what happens about what?

All I am seeing is you having a weird kind of SJW agenda in this thread.

So ... someone who is 11 years old and male is not a guy?

"you are having a weird kind of SJW agenda" ... by pointing out that people can become gay versus born gay?

So explaining how things happen is SJW agenda? Maybe you are the one with the SJW agenda, to dis-allow people from explaining how things happen

Just monitor first. If it get worse, maybe you can have a word with him privately. No need to involve other people. Kids have privacy too mah.

This isn't about me nor YOU
this is about his privacy and sexuality

You,
don't make it personal

It’s not necessarily a gay development. Give him some personal privacy and space.

This post has been edited by Amideva: Oct 31 2020, 11:49 PM

Correct what

Teddy is not wrong

He just got his own preference

Owai

Let him search for his own sexuality. And you think you can correct a gay person? Don't do it. Let him be.

I am thoroughly confused as to who you are talking about now.

I thought this topic was talking about a child possibly discovering about homosexuality.

Who is whiteknighting who? The boy? The uncle? The mom? Wut?

I neither sided with "keep it a secret" nor "tell the mom to correct him". I cannot disallow anyone from talking about anything. I am not a moderator. I believe in freedom of speech, which incidentally also applies to me.

Why did I bring up about you being a Social Justice Warrior? Because you think that a 11 year old boy can choose to do anything in their life. No they cannot, because they are a minor and therefore underaged sex is illegal in Malaysia. No idea why you are encouraging something that is both ethically and legally wrong.

You keep adding questions that you already know the answers to,

and telling people not to do something has rarely stopped them.

Underaged sex still happens.

Pointing that out is not "encouraging" it.

Good to know my replies keep you occupied to think how you want to be the person with the last word.

The child may or may not be homosexual, and pointing out that it may be a reaction to how he is treated by the opposite sex is perfectly rational.

Would love to hear you explain how the way other people treat you, doesn't affect how you behave.

But you will probably reply with more questions (whataboutism seems to be your forte).

This post has been edited by AnimeSinceForever: Nov 1 2020, 01:24 AM

A small population of people are born that way.

But better to tell the parents for the sake of the child before he lands in jail.

I laughed at the search term.

Anyway, just let it be. You cant pray the gay away.

I'd puke if I saw cumming P video at his age

I'm perfectly straight I guess

Ghey sudah plotek.

this.+1

talk to him man to man.

Don't allow him access to your PC anymore by putting a password on it. Tell him you know what's he's been surfing and you don't encourage it. Nothing to do with gay porn, at his age he should stay away from any porn. You do not have to inform hi parents but allowing him to continue accessing porn is irresponsible.

Let the parents know. You don't know his circle of friends like parents; they are supposedly in better position and hawkish to do something to curb it.

How they'll correct the kid is up to them. Don't intervene unless they didn't.

This is serious k, don't make it to your personal venting thread la. Whoever or whatever you hate, go voice it out in k, not in this thread or section.

Nothing against gays but don't make this thread about yoy

I think it is perfectly normal for boy to surf porn even he might curious what is gay porn
As adult u should give him a proper sex education and I think this should be man to man talk
Teach him about the physical change on his body during puberty and mastubation and sex topic ..I think this is nothing ashame about
Let him be open with u and give a correct sex education, consequences ,usage of condom and sexual health

Standard 5 is too young to know about such things in details, It's about time to have a serious talk of sex education with him. Kids are curious, but make sure they expose the right and correct info, don't put the blame on what he's done.

how he knows word cum?

So it's okay as long it's something you did before?

Sneak in some lesbian bookmarks instead and see his reaction

As though only can access pc at home.

He may be able to access other PCs but you don't have to make it easy for him. Just because a person is able to buy guns outside doesn't mean you have to give him the key to your gun cabinet.

Is education .. not locking up things or reprimand him. The more you deny him, the more he is curious ... normal in a growing up children.

The topic is about pc and not gun.

A child needs to access a pc for school work but never a gun. When it involves a gun, it will be different advise.

This post has been edited by mini orchard: Nov 1 2020, 12:14 PM

The parents should have the birds and the bees talk with their son... but never bring up the issue of him watching porn... kids can be sensitive and you don't want to create a barrier between them and you... else, they may just shut themselves away... give them the time and space to discover and experience the world on their own... guide where necessary... but don't judge...

Watching porn during primary schools isnt it too early, no?

TS you need ensure he doesnt get addicted and highlight the cons...Gay or not gay porn doesnt matter..Porn is the issue and not his sexuality...His sexuality leave to his parents to sort it out when he gets older..

IMO, dont need to bring up to parents...could embarrass him and affect him mentally and end up being a lifelong scar....Talk to him and be the cool uncle

I think for our generation, it's probably too early; but for kids these days?

Nope, let the parents handle it. If uncle doing the talking could lead to misundetstanding. Worse case, uncle could be accuse as pedo. Best person to talk about it, is the parent.

Agree. Parents are responsible for their 11 yo boy

Ts can only help highlighting some important issues like this

Please talk to the parent. Sort it out as soon as possible. You might think he is only curious. But worst case senario, he is being groom by someone. Please do something about it. Better sort it out now rather than being to late.

Actually no, I really want answers to my questions. Please do answer ALL of them, I am quite curious. They are not rhetorical.

In all honesty, I do not want to have the last word, I am quite happy that you keep replying.

You are saying that his alleged homosexuality is nurture rather than nature, therefore he is thinking about turning gay because he got turned down by girls in primary school. Are you serious?
You are saying that because kids have sex in primary school, it is not too early to start redpilling, especially before they even sit for UPSR.

I am saying that he is 11 years old, too young to be thinking about either homosexuality, be concerned about his looks to woo females (especially non-Asians? since you pointed that out), making money to impress girls, or even dating and especially sex. He can explore all of that slowly. He has a little more than half a decade to adulthood.

So what is your actual advice to TS and the mother to remedy the matter?

I watched porn at 12yo, and is it too early? no
Given that the technology and generation nowadays, don’t think too early.
Just need proper guidance and governance.

This post has been edited by fish_hoo: Nov 1 2020, 07:54 PM

11, 12, 13 year old kids kill themselves because of bullying and non-popularity,

and you are so dense to say they know nothing about sex and relationships?

Remedy the matter means give guarantee ... can pay me or not?

Otherwise all you get are suggestions.

You want to say they're crap, carry on.

But the world has changed a lot since your days old man ...

It's okay. Encourage gays please. There are more guys than girls in Malaysia. Need more gays to balance it out.

Plus women also like to say that guys that are not good enough should become gay, have heard that before

Never hear that before.

But a lot a lot of people said I'm gay. Because I was badly hurt before, most of them automatically have the impression that I like guys more.

TS, disallow him access to your PC. Even if he can access other PCs he may not get the same privacy as in your room. Like the other guy said, no need to make it easy for him.

If he needs your PC to do his homework it must be under supervision in your presence.

It's possible his parents may get him his own laptop or PC after you restrict the use of your PC so a word to your sister to monitor his web surfing and show her how to check is a good idea. No need to mention gay porn. Let his parents find out themselves.

gay or no gay, a 11 yo kid watching porn is not a good thing. Confront him, or tell the parent. Your choice. if you are close with him then better you confront him rather than telling the mother.

There are two issues here , one porn the other it being gay porn. And the implication that said nephew could be gay.

I honestly would have a heart to heart talk with the nephew first. Sure parents should be the one parenting, but this isnt just a talk about the birds and the bees. Its their son potentially coming out of the closet.

better tell your sister before he makes you become his bottom. im being serious.