Frankly she might blow her top...

BUT... i dont see a wife leaving for merely 60k... infact most of the time women wouldnt leave for money, its trust/fidelity/emotional reason that they leave

thanks for the kind words bro. i'll confess and accept the consequence anyhow.
no mistress. i talk kok a lot but i only want her in my life.

she's not the typical illiterate pasar aunty but has been investing and already accumulated quite some wealth one, also supermom and kind, i'm thankful to have in-law like her. but nvm, i won't borrow to risk the relationship.

Good husband. Good luck bro!

yes tell

if u lie now
u need to use new lie to cover old lies
and its never ending

one day when ur relationship with ur MIL turn sour, she will tell ur wife
at that time it will be worst



This post has been edited by ahchun: Oct 20 2020, 03:40 PM

why dont lend from your parents instead? lending from in law is worst man.....

Imagine what would her mom think? cant even take care of her daughter.

Edited: Read everything and I still dont suggest to lend money from MIL. This can go from worst to even worst.. I wish u all the best brother. I think i saw u posting the same in reddit MalaysiaPF

This post has been edited by Zenph: Oct 20 2020, 06:27 PM

Not necessary to involve mil.

If you dont want to pay interest, you problem cannot be solved.

Tell you wife about it and your plans how to go about solving the problem except borrowing from mil. Tell her your mistake and poor judgement investment and plea for her understanding. Definite she gonna get mad, but accept it and dont fight back. Inform her that certain unimportant family expenses need to be reduced or stopped while you sort out the money problem.

Personal loan is your only option.

This is not a financial advise but DON'T and I mean DON'T defend what you did. You might have your reason to dump the money in, but in her eyes and losing that big sum of money in the spur of moment she might just blow up at you (don't know your wife character but high possibility).

Just set the expectation first. Just apologies and say nothing. Everything you say will be used against you. Saying the wrong thing might haunt you rest of your life.

Do come up with a high level plan in mind on how to save back up the money without her sacrificing much if she ask.

Speculating is more like gambling, you are hoping to win. Ts should just get over with the loss and dont borrow from anyone. Just start saving from scratch.

Good to have richer in-law than poor in-law...

my wife always give money to her family.... 6-figures already to bail out their family business.... until she hutang with me... can't repay.

Borrow from in-law is ok if you can repay it. Your wife just want face.

No it’s not okay, especially if you are going straight to your MIL without going through your wife.

Honesty is the best policy. Talk to your wife.

You are right.

He's trying to hide the fact he "gambled" their savings and then try to borrow money and cover the losses.

And the worse thing is he wanted to borrow from her because he didn't need to pay interest and god knows whether he really will pay back or not..

Ok enough with the assumptions. I have replied above that I won't be borrowing and will confess.

hope to hear the outcome

Yes bro, good luck and let us know how it turned out please.

I planned to tell her tonight, but just received news that she's having some abnormal health complications and she's currently taking a rest. I'm heartbroken.

OH dear. Best of luck to both of you and a speedy recovery to her!

This post has been edited by hksgmy: Oct 22 2020, 09:24 PM

Can you apply for PL to sort it out first. You can tell her later when her health and mental well being improve ... unless you think she has a chunk of money to help you.

I can't afford to service any loan bigger than the one I have now. I barely can survive until month end.

How about your siblings or parents ?

How do you intend your wife to help you after telling her your situation ?

How much RM to settle? Have a car fully paid ?

This post has been edited by mini orchard: Oct 22 2020, 06:23 PM