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whyseej00
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 Sep 10 2020, 02:52 PM
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QUOTE(AnAngel65 @ Sep 10 2020, 01:44 PM) Hi All, My father is a serious gambler and despite saying he wants to quit, he kept falling back in. He's living in a different city from me and he doesnt really talk to us (his kids) much. He went to this anti-gamble support group once but its based on Christianity and kinda scared him (he's a bit anti-Christianity), so cant really find other support group thats suitable. Im hoping to find some whatsapp group or discussion place at least he have some other fella he can talk to. Thanks all for your help. Seems like the same place that I wanna recommend. Got one church in Sg Besi and centre in Johor? Can tell him that no need to join the religion but can still get support from them |
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whyseej00
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Sep 10 2020, 03:53 PM
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QUOTE(AnAngel65 @ Sep 10 2020, 03:50 PM) He is in Sarawak Kuching. Any support group online is welcome. Yes he can not join the religion, but the overall support and ambience is different, he is old man and gets sensitive when it comes to religious. Unfortunately I don't know any support groups in Sarawak. Also points to consider: 1. Online support don't really work, need human interaction and face to face to get that raw emotion out 2. Also in order for him to get help, he needs to let people in and not shut people out 3. He also have to realise that it is a problem 4. Remove his access to excessive money Good luck! |
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whyseej00
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Sep 10 2020, 03:59 PM
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QUOTE(AnAngel65 @ Sep 10 2020, 03:57 PM) We already remove his access to money, and its been a battle for a few years already. He says he want to change, but then he falls back from time to time. Thanks for taking the time to reply anyway, I will try my best to give him support. Very normal to fall back from time to time. Can't undo a habit overnight. Another way is for him to find another hobby or activity to occupy his time |
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whyseej00
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Sep 10 2020, 04:08 PM
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QUOTE(AnAngel65 @ Sep 10 2020, 04:05 PM) Suggested, but I think its from the stress where my mum health is unstable and declining. Hence, hobby suggestion always got denied. I just wish I know the right word to say to him, or what i can do more. Nice words won't work. Harsh, cry if you have to, beg, shout, scream....as I said, need raw emotions. Need it from him as well. Else it won't be impactful enough to induce change |
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whyseej00
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Sep 10 2020, 05:15 PM
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QUOTE(AnAngel65 @ Sep 10 2020, 04:45 PM) I feel like he knows the impact and he is willing, but when the stress comes he cant control... I'll try my very best to get him to start new hobby. Man, very hard to express their emotion. Very very hard for them to even talk. I held myself from those big emotions as he very rarely find me to talk about it, dont wanna spook him and that he never even find me to talk to. Highly judging myself whether I do the right method. People rarely budge when still in comfort zone. If you wanna see change, push him into a corner. My 2 cents from personal exp |
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