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Amedion
post Jun 15 2020, 11:17 AM

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Why i see a duplicate of myself here. lol.

Same 37 years old married with no children and all the issues like successful friends, anxious to go interviews/meeting till kenot sleep well, public speaking, etc.

Its all in your mind bro. Don't keep looking what others have. Start thinking there are many ppl who dream of what u have.

Go meet more ppl so you will get used to it. Though you will still get anxious. Just don't mind so much how ppl look at you. No matter how good you are, there will always be haters.

Just be yourself. Filter out those friend who look down on you.
Amedion
post Jun 15 2020, 11:51 AM

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QUOTE(monkey_wrench @ Jun 15 2020, 11:37 AM)
Thanks for the feedback. Yes, it is normal  laugh.gif and I also understand but when thinking about it, I wonder what is holding me back from progressing?

Amedion, sorry I just talk your profile and check your topics, https://forum.lowyat.net/index.php?showtopic=3098833&hl= this for example, I once went to gym back in 2011 but stop going after 2 months because I feel inferior with other gym goers around me. I know they didn't even think about me but it's me who feel that way.
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Its okay bro. Posting in forum is made public. Not consider stalking.

Depends on which gym you go. I don't bother looking at newbie at all even if they do it wrong, unless they start asking me. So don't mind what other ppl think of you. Just put on your favourite music and do your thing.

Yeah i understand very well how you feel even now i still think like that. Like if i post something in social media, how will ppl think. If i do this & that, will other ppl look down on me. So, i just do what i feel like doing only. Just be yourself can already bro. But don't la over-confident like many youngsters these day in tik-tok.


Amedion
post Jun 15 2020, 11:52 AM

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QUOTE(MoneyChaser @ Jun 15 2020, 11:49 AM)
I would suggest do a PI test and find out your personality types  and work on those strenghts there will always be introverts and extroverts ..

following this thread as im an in a similar dillema year of the pig !!
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laugh.gif laugh.gif Guess are all pigs are the same? Sorry to muslim bros. Its chinese-zodiac or something like that.
Amedion
post Jun 15 2020, 12:51 PM

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QUOTE(sweet_pez @ Jun 15 2020, 12:36 PM)
I see myself the same way several years back. Don't be surprised that a lot of people are more introverted than they seem. It's work requirement for some people to appear more outgoing but really, they could be more passive than others see them as they are. Almost nobody would believe I'm actually quite the introvert. Work and social environment has 'forced' me to get out of the comfort zone and adapt.

Seems like what you're facing is more on anxiety issues if you're worried about things going downsouth. It's normal to worry about interviews because we tend to feel discomfort about the 'unknown' and especially when something isn't within our control. Recall what a senior of mine said long ago (and it helps):

Look at it this way. If you're not worried about something - it means you didn't care much for it. If you're worried (despite being well prepared), then it shows you care about the things you do.

Conclusion: do your due diligence at work and try to relax. Tackle things as they come wink.gif

One more, you don't have to compare yourself with others. Are you content with your life now? Or you're seeking changes? What you 'see' on social media may not be the reflection of reality. People rarely share the struggle and harsh reality of life, and only display the rosy part of them.

Sharing 1 example of someone i personally know. On this person's social media is the glam life of flying, hotel stays, holidays and everything colourful. Behind this person's life is a lot of credit card debt, sleepless nights and depression - that most people don't know of.

Really now, if social media is part of the reason, consider doing 'social distancing' from it (pun intended ha!).
There's no need to feel inferior. Everyone starts somewhere. Just ignore the toxic ones and try getting to know some good folks at the gym.
Yes huhu in the gym it's most MYOB unless someone asks. Not everyone welcome advice or correction.

Honestly social media is such a headache so I've mostly cut down. Rarely check it, only when friends tag me, will receive notification and respond. Or occasionally when needed to ask opinion about something/ check news on pages followed. Otherwise just find that it doesn't add value. Having 1-on-1 conversation with others via WA or messenger gives a better connection imo.
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People always judge the book by its cover. Very normal. I'm skinny so ppl don't take my advise. They prefer to take advise from bigger guys. So usually i just keep quiet and do my thing.

Social media is a must for most business now. My personal one i just use occasionally to upload my business pics / vlog for gym / food to educate my friends. Not really into uploading what i own.

 

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