Boy, don't go chase for girl. Chase for wellbeing then girls will come to you

Which girl doesn't like a guy who knows how to dress up well, have their own career, drives a decent car, at least have their own shelter.

Anyway, coffee meet bagel can be a good platform. At least the people there are serious for relationship. As for TanTan and Tinder, really depends on your luck. I've met a few person from there, not really what I wanted. But still "Law of attraction", if you want someone quality, then you need to be the magnet that attracts them.

Good luck

Thanks for all the advices guys,

So what I've done so far, (may not be much), but I focused more on myself. Like what you guys said, focusing on your well-being and be a magnet. Be a good catch.

For physical appearance, I took care of myself, upped my skincare game, took care of my weight, having my confidence up, though its still not the level where I want it to be.

Skillset, finding hobbies and stuff to do. Make myself and at the same time, my life more interesting. I took an interest with restoring my car, hahaha weird right? But its what I once used to love doing. With the help and guidance from my friend, my project took full swing. I love it that I am finding back the love I once lost for so long. I do play the piano too, but I can't afford one. >< Thinking to at least rent a studio so that I can just relax and play. All of these I once used to do whilst I was single.

Learning about skincare is what I like doing as well. Having more knowledge and well-equipped with this did help my ex... I know it sounds weird, but hey, who like sa greasy guy who knows ntg about grooming.


As for monetary and financials (this is where I am weak at), I will search for bigger opportunities if any door opens. Taking and learning about investments etc..etc.. Trying to also start up a side freelance photography job. P/S I am a part time photographer too.

I think tats about it. =)

Speaker already 31 and still single. Enjoy selagi boleh and I'm comfortable with it already.

TS, i think we are on same page. I'm 27 yes been single my entire life. On dating apps for 1 year managed to get 3 dates(no more now). You ask me deeply am i still cool ? Hell no, i got countless of dreams happened that i am actually dating so you can imagine how deep my subconscious wanted to me get in love.


Right now, i also kinda tired of this. So I'm also chasing the wellbeing. Which includes : New hobby, self-enrichment(investment,stocks), gym(physical), travel( explosure to open my minds).

This is what i am very agree. My friend used to tell me , don't get into relationship for sake just only get into a relationship. Now I understand,many of us who seeing our friends very sweet together on instagram, jesus we can't never imagine how they living behind us.


Single at some point is great. That freedom let me tell you its priceless. Most important don't rush into shits.

25 still young
come back when u r 30

what about okcupid and cmb(coffee meet bagel) ? you need lots of patience with tinder as they're filled with too many bad matches

For me, I've made changes in these 3 things to start gaining attention:
1. Fitness - I was round and chubby but putting some effort into losing weight and having broad shoulders helped alot wiht masculinity
2. Fashion - Don't have to splurge on expensive BS but don't look like any other guy out there. Be different and stand out a little
3. Self care - Much alike you, I was acne ridden and once I had it under control things became better (surprisingly some girls think acne scars look kinda badass haha)

+ confidence - just strike a conversation with randoms/acquaintances from work/school etc. You'd be surprise even women that are out of our league appreciate gestures like these.

My luck on dating apps are as troubling as yours but as long as u do the above 3, even an average joe like me could attract the opposite sex. More so favorable in the nightlife scene.

Good luck and all the best with your seduction game!

Dont worry to much about it, enjoy your life being single, instead of focusing on your love life, try look into other life goals that you really wanted to achieve, like sports, being able to do a flying kick in taekwando, ride a bike/scooter (solo) across states, meet new people, sky diving, play an instrument and being in a rock band or whatever things that you fell like you wanna do as long as it is not your love life goals.

At the same time, be financially prepared and solid because you'll never know things that will happen in the future plus with the economic downfall (COVID-19) issues.

Love will come at the right time and at the right moment when you start to appreciate and love yourself. The right partner will come to you!

For example (me): I had a relationship for almost 8 years and things didnt really go that well the last few years. Later on I start to focus on myself, doing things that I love, than after 1 - 2 years later, a friend of mine randomly introduced me someone. At first I was just wanted to get to know her, but because I know I had loved myself, motivated myself to do better than who I was before and my relationship/friendship with the lady that my friend introduced to me when really smooth (due to our mutual understanding and vision towards our life goals).

Cutting it short, she is my wife now.

So dont give up, love yourself first , enjoy life and be happy!

cham

I am almost 30 and also single

Anyway, already planned for forever alone
Also never had a gf before

Well I don't know how to advise but my experience is mostly toxic : X how toxic you won't want to know it, but anyway good luck ^^,

first of all, face & height how you'd rate yourself?
secondly, by 30 i assume you're earning good, can compensate the first point just in case
thirdly, are you boring that made girls unable to continue chatting? or you'd say you got no prob in maintaining conversation?

lastly, if all else dont work out, it's fine being single, at least you're free to do whatever you want, if want to satisfy your needs just do it outside using your money, think it positively as you're going to get to try many pretty ones (albeit at a price) instead of fixing to only 1, and perhaps saved yourself from "wife sex" or no sex, it's common married people gradually moved to no sex, usually caused by 1 of the party, and caused another party frustration, end up eating outside too.

single or attached, each has pros & cons and no clear cut advantages, pick your poison.

Eh, plenty of people think that they are hot shit but in reality muka mcm kena langgar lori.

And what is the benchmark for height anyway? 180? 190?

The legendary 180 set by the girls, i don't seem to meet many of them so far, i myself is below that, in the range of 170 to 175, would say that's just nice to be taller than most girls, even at that height I sometimes find myself not tall enough when meeting taller girls or girls wearing high heels, and worst of all height can't be changed like the face lols

175cm. Face average lor. Definitely not leng zai, but definitely not ah beng

Doing office based work, not earning very good. Reasonably to earn a living lar. Another fellow M40
Drives humble car. Commited to a condo under construction, so dont think i got plans to change car anytime soon.

but i think, i m boring. LOL. Abit anti-social type, nope, no problem of maintaining a professional conversation, i am good at those.
But not anything else LOL

This post has been edited by prozfromhell: Jun 28 2020, 08:51 AM

honestly no matter what age, if you are still single, that's not a problem...maybe there are times you feel lonely need a companion but after all just don't hunt love so desperately...ayam in late 20's, single but happy!

sometimes I also ask myself is it that ayam too enjoy being alone lol

- want to eat xxx, EAT!
- lazy want stay at home chillax, STAY!
- need travel/short escape, GO! but usually travel with fam or friends, every year have 1 or 2 solo trip

so don't worry much and take care of yourself first

25 y/o and worried about being single...common dude !
Wish I was 25 again and being more carnivorous than before..haha.