Yeah, I'm 25 and single. So.. Anyone else have this feeling where, the older you go, the more the scary thought of "Oh, I will never find a date / gf / cuz I'm not getting any younger". That thought seriously scares me.

I've tried Tinder, Tan Tan, and so far thats the only 2 I tried. How does dating even works these days??

I need tips. And no, simply walking up to a girl its like a creeper move.

Ppl keep telling me, "you're still young, you're still young". Erm... I'm only as young as my age. And let's face it, the older guys go, the harder it is to find. Especially in this day and age. Dating used to be so simple. Now dating apps are just filled with attention seeking insta models. I swear, I swiped more lefts than rights.

This post has been edited by Post-Je-Ape-Ape: May 17 2020, 12:03 AM

perhaps you should swipe right more and get to know someone instead of judging their picture/profile. sometimes they can be incredible people/personality behind the profile. ask for lunch or drink. talk and see how it goes.

simply walking up to a girl is not a creepy move, it depend on how you approach. sometimes thing just happen like that.

same age here, nothing to worry about, in fact the older you get, the more powerful you'll be in financial terms, which opens up to higher end of girl quality for dating, you know what, a 30 y/o guy snatched my girl (same age) away about 2 years ago, there's nothing wrong about aging in man, it will only get better.

1st tip is to drop dating apps, they're useless, filled with garbage matches, wont get anyhting meaningful from it, thats my conclusion after giving a fair shot to dating apps.

Either you meet people in real life (classes, work, social circle), or you get to know via online.

I have much success in online due to i have small social circle, i dont get to meet girls in person often, i just randomly add pretty girls in FB, and try to chat with them, if they dont respond then let it go, sometimes they did respond and things will keep progressing and eventually dating.

I find it much better adding girls in FB compared to dating apps, people in dating apps swipe each other, while FB is not meant for that, FB girl could be not using dating apps and if they interested in you and reply, they're most likely focusing on you rather than swiping here and there like tinder. The key difference is the purpose of the social platform.

Last but not least, you gotta be handsome i guess, it's online after all, they dont know you, you must have the looks for them to get interested to even reply you.

The thing is, 80% of the time, I try to keep the conversation fun, light-hearted, and not bring up too deep a stuff at first. Most of them just don't keep the conversation flowing with 1 word replies. That shows how uninterested they are to keep the talking going..

Ok that aside I understand that some people are bad at texting, I'm no exception. So if you're bad at texting, let's try talking then. I mean... that's what relationships are for. We try, right?

Thing is, how to try talking when..... I can't even get the conversation to flow to the point of asking her out when the conversation is so stagnant at 1 or 2 word replies...


Then nextly, is language barrier. I'm a Chinese born who can't read a word of chinese. Tan Tan and Tinder are marketed to different people, the former being more chinese-oriented. (My choice la... I prefer Tan Tan profiles) but being Eng-ed, the language barrier is strong on this one, even down to culture clashes.

At times, I really feel like giving up texting on dating apps.

No la I'm not that good looking la. Above average I guess. Hahaha, Mostly I make the first moves. Sometimes they reply great, then the conversation slowly dies down. Some just downright give 1 word replies or answer your questions directly without any signs of continuing the conversation.

About the FB Method.. errrrr... I dunno man, it sounds like quite a kinda not my style. Maybe because I'm staying in penang and the culture here is different. The guys here are more despo (This is realised). Among my mutual girl-friends, during college time, they had had experience with random dudes messaging them over fb and calling them creepers like super despo move then ultimately get ignored.

I understand that FB and dating apps cannot be compared to each other. Perhaps its the area / state I am in which brought about this culture that made them think its a creeper move.


Btw, did you score any using the FB random add method?

im going to have a gf soon using this fb method, had our first date last week, things going well.

some will give one word answers, or not enthusiastic, some dont even reply, no biggie here, as long as you continue trying, there will be one or two respond nicely and having the ending im having now, it's great.

Edit: you also need to have good chatting skills, but you still cant do anything if the girl dont cooperate, chatting is a 2 way street, both have to contribute and keep things going, this current girl of mine did this very well, it truly felt like a 2 way street, thats what you're looking for, not those which made you feel like talking to a wall.

A girl is attractive or not, depends on their cooperative-ness.
If a girl is very pretty but doesnt reply, theres no use.
Not super pretty ones but still pretty, and replies to you, wins over the one with much prettier face.

This post has been edited by Sasuke95: May 17 2020, 12:58 AM

Do you play any sports or join events like hill climbing
Introduce yourself more and get active
Online dating apps don’t work as good as interaction.
Good luck

Hi ts,

Im almost same as you. Chinese but english ed. Above average hensem but not really good at sms. Talks fine if face to face. Also in penang.

I had quite a few gfs. Some are hot stuff too. All of them i scored by talking face to face, get their number and asking them out. Use your + points. If you are weak in sms, well then ask them out. Or during those occasional group outings, try to talk to them naturally.
I also tried tinder and i also score as long as i manage to get them out.

From young with no transport to bike to old 30 years old uncle car, i still score chicks. Of course those chicks are attracted to me and not into money which i wanted to avoid.

Go out and have fun man. If you are having fun during the outings, most probably she is too and will high chance be attracted to you. If not, take a day to mop and whine if needed, then get the next girl out.

Post your profile picture then we shall talk further. That's right, the current profile is me myself.

Easy love approaching list:-

1.) You need to be a SugarDaddy
2.) Your face and look must be outstanding

Tatata, those are the 2 basics for winning someone's heart.

Sorry to hurt you but the outside World is cool-blooded.

Tell you one thing, I owned a Toyota Prius C and Toyota Vios G 2019, I didn't even have any GF in 2019. But thankfully, I met my first relationship in 2020 early =)

This post has been edited by nagasaran: May 17 2020, 08:50 AM

U wanna know how i look like? U know the "Swipe" series by JimmyboyTV on YouTube? Ya abit like the main character. From hair, to face, to glasses.

Nope, im not a sugar daddy type. Maybe thats whatever that floats your boat la. But happy that it worked out for you =)

Nahh due to privacy reasons, I dont just post up my picture just because someone ask me to, sorry bro.

That is the issue in this day and age, face to face is no longer a thing. Thereby, no longer a norm, and dunno where to even start bro. I wanna challenge that, but seriously I dont know where to start. My social circle is pretty small, with no girls in it. Not only that, working life has put me in a tighter spot too. Thats why perhaps it'll be nice if I have someone to guide me. Bring me to meet people, expand my social circle.

Apa this issue in this day and age, you make me sound like i'm from the dino era . I'm around the same age as you buddy.
I don't often go out or go night clubs or any social activities.

Some of the girls I went out dating with are:
1) My previous school mate. Came back to hometown, meet her in supermarket. Chatted for awhile with her and somehow sparks fly. So get her number there and then.
2) Cashier girl. Just talk to her when she is free and I got her number.
3) Company colleague. Well just pikat her and ask her out for dinner.

Take the initiative to ask them out once talked to them and feels good. Also, exercising helps. It increase your self confidence and your mood which is very important.

+1

My wife now is from ex company colleague.

Started with simply ask for weekly / monthly badminton outing.

Do you have Netflix? Watch Terrace House, all of them, and learn how to approach and talk casually to girls without appearing thirsty. What behavior is desired, acceptable, not acceptable and outright rude. Sometimes it's hard to explain in words, but when you watch how other people do it, you will pick up the little nuances and understand better.

My personal adv, for men, 28 baru better start cari gf, by 30 get married if u have a stable n better income...

try improve on your perspective, unless you are really attractive and have charisma, if not you wont even need to open a thread here saying dating app not working.

asking people out dont need to have flow or something. sometime, ask them out try, it might work. if you dont do first step they always find reason to justify you not doing it, how to success.

language barrier is not an issue, if you know you cant speak chinese, just untick the chinese. you also can put "only know english & BM" in your profile to avoid those forseen language barrier.

Expand your social circle. Go to the gym, chill at the cafe or join any activities by your alma mater and so on.

I am 26 and enjoying single life. Trying to know someone at the moment but taking it easy. You can do it too

In fact, you gain more resources as you grow older as a guy

And women love resources (eg. material wealth, career, education, property).

Even for those women who don't prioritise material wealth, at least with your available resources, you can shower them with romantic stuff. Remember that women are very emotional. Use that to your advantage.

Having said that, it doesn't mean you brag about your resources to them. Your personality counts too.

to be perfectly honest, dating apps are a tool for the attractive. if you're good looking or post pics that attract, you will be swimming with matches.

a friend showed off his tinder profile to me once, quite impressive. however, he told me a few things, the stuff he posted on his profile are stuff girls like. tattoo, expensive watch, drinks, act macho etc. he pointed out, that they love what they see and not him. which is sad but it's the harsh reality of life.

how bad is it on apps? imagine this. look at yourself in the mirror. rate yourself 1-10. even if you're a "7", imagine a girl getting tons of matches from 8-10s. they swipe away MUCH faster.

being single can be a sad thing, but its not bad to be honest. finding the right one is really not easy.

i m reaching 40, still single. i havent given up, just that i went thru many phases of life. one phase that i went thru was the feeling of life's not fair. why do people have partners, why don't have?

the reality is i could have a partner. i could have got one a long time ago, i do know there are people who like me but i am the one who's too choosy.

also, i've come to learn that beauty really is skin deep. there were so many people who legit cared about me but i didnt give them the chance just coz of their looks. i always wanted someone prettier.

those girls that are pretty? they have higher requirements, they are more demanding, they can do that because they have market value. sadly many choose to exploit that.

in anycase, i learned that being single can suck but worrying/bitching about it accomplishes nothing. the sooner you accept that you are single, the better it is for your mental health and happiness.

if it bothers you that much, focus your efforts on self improvement. hit the gym, look for money, improve your social skills. be yourself.

funny thing about the game of love is you win by not trying too hard. girls are not dumb, they can see.

Thats why dont date girl, its complicated ..

hi, does no.2 approach requires you to be a regular member? as in constantly visiting her work place?