I have been together with my GF for about 6 months. A month ago I was on the brink of breaking up with her. We always respected each other's privacy, and we do not check each other's phones before this. Last month, out of curiosity I casually asked if I could have a look at her phone and she agreed, without hesitation. In her line of work, she frequently communicates with suppliers from European/Asian countries. I found out that she has been using words like "my dear" "my love" "darling" to her suppliers regardless male or female. The phrase that really ticked me off was "you'll always have a special place in my heart" being sent to one her male suppliers who gave her lots of sales for the past few years. Not to mention there were kissing emojis. They would also talk over phone calls sometimes which I never knew prior to that incident. According to my GF, that particular client (from an European country) is a divorcee and tried to woo her in the past.

I told her immediately I felt disgusted and depressed cause I would never say those phrases to anyone else who's not my partner. She agreed never to use those words to her clients again, except for calling them "my dear", which apparently is a norm in the "business world".

I couldn't fathom why would someone say things like that cause I thought those phrases/words are exclusive to your other half.

Since then, I never checked her phone ever again, but I'm having a gut feeling that she's still practicing those phrases. Am I being an insecure a-hole and should calm my tits? Or I should just clear doubts by asking her/checking her phone again?

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