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🏳️🌈 LGBTQ Community, Discussion regarding LGBTQ
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V429
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Feb 13 2020, 01:56 PM
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Good day, may I ask a question please?
I've noticed some lesbian or gay couples have.. Roles. For example, one tends to be more masculine and the other tend to be more feminine?
Sometimes for some couples this is rather obvious and for some others it is not apparent. I usually notice this in Chinese couples, but less so in Caucasian couples. (Just my casual unscientific observation).
So I am wondering does this role thing apply to most lesbian or gay couples? Just that some are more apparent than others?
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V429
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Feb 14 2020, 09:27 AM
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QUOTE(internaldisputes @ Feb 14 2020, 09:13 AM) My partner and I are both "versatile" and we don't really have any roles that we play. We both due house chores and we both go to work. We are equal in all ways. Thanks for sharing. Can I ask in your experience, does 'family dynamics' affect a person's sexual orientation? I am asking because I noticed 2 cases where seemingly the lesbians lack stable fatherly figure? I suppose this is an oversimplification, a very surface level observation and probably have more unaccounted factors to be considered, but I am still curious and hope you can share you views on this.
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V429
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Feb 14 2020, 09:58 AM
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QUOTE(internaldisputes @ Feb 14 2020, 09:43 AM) Can't speak for lesbians but in my case I'm not so close to my dad and most of my family of 10 siblings are female. Maybe the lack of father figure and constant feminine interactions affect me or maybe they don't. I can't say for sure.  I do have guy friends who are closer with their dads more than their moms and still end up gay, though. Personally I think homosexuality is genetic so regardless of how I interacted with my family, my parents should be held accountable for passing me the gay gene.  I see. Interesting. Lastly I wonder what are the things that people not familiar with LGBT community do or say that may unknowingly cause offense, annoyance or discomfort to people within the community? I was going to ask how should people not familiar with LGBT community treat people within the community, but I can already guess the answer : to treat them just like how you treat anyone and everyone else, hence the above slightly tweaked question.
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V429
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Feb 14 2020, 10:26 AM
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QUOTE(internaldisputes @ Feb 14 2020, 10:12 AM) At the top of my head is men saying , “Wait, you’re not attracted to me right”. But yeah, just treat LGBT people that you meet like everyone else. If you feel what you about to say is offensive, it probably is. Asking transgender people what pronoun they prefer is totally okay though. I think this article pretty much covers the rest: 'Are You the Husband or the Wife' 6 Things NOT to Say to LGBT PeopleSource: https://www.diversityinc.com/are-you-the-hu...o-say-to-lgbts/Thanks for the share. It's quite informative. Speaking of pronoun, non-binary gender is something I discovered on twitter recently. Very new & confusing and is quite a big paradigm shift for me. It's going to take some time to learn. Have a nice day. This post has been edited by V429: Feb 14 2020, 10:28 AM
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