I would suggest you to post in Cupid corner actually. In your situation, sounds like with women you usually jump to dating stage without going thru friendship stage. If that is the case, try to develop stable friendship with the ladies first before dating them, so that they really get to know you and have time to ponder on your conditions and may come to accept them with time.

Do you have good female friends around you that may be a potential partner? Maybe worth giving it a shot?