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V429
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 Nov 14 2019, 12:18 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 14 2019, 11:17 AM) Yeap I actually manage to fell asleep accidentally while reading on bed cause too tired. But yeah woke up with my heart beating very fast and feeling very worried for nothing. Really hate that feeling.  Well, you just gotta let it go my friend. What happened has happened and you paid the price already. All those worries, what-ifs and guilt.. Let it all go.. And start anew. Life have so much more out there waiting for you  |
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V429
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Nov 16 2019, 12:57 AM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 16 2019, 12:17 AM) Thanks for asking bro. I still breakdown every now and then but I know I need to get back on my feet soon. Seems like you are doing better now all the best Bro. |
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V429
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Nov 16 2019, 01:28 AM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 16 2019, 01:13 AM) Thanks bro. You have been a good virtual friend and listener ever since this happened to me. Please do visit this thread time to time and chit chat. No problem Bro, I still do keep an eye here for updates haha. Sounds like you have a good talk with her, hopefully she'll slowly understand. I'll be rooting for you Bro |
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V429
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Nov 17 2019, 04:58 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, is she in general a sensitive person? Does she always remember all the not so good stuff? If everytime you talk to her and all she can remember are the bad stuff.. Then it's kinda difficult for you.
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V429
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Nov 17 2019, 06:33 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 17 2019, 05:30 PM) She's very very sensitive. Like a lot of times I thought I'm doing well yet she can still feel hurt from my actions. She has low self esteem as well. I guess all stems from her losing her dad in a young age and unhappy memories growing up. I see.. Seems to me her other half would need to be very sensitive to her feelings. Not an easy feat. And I suppose to win her back you need to be overwhelmingly positive and very persistent similar to Twenty-fifth Baam. You're going to have to be able to handle her constant anger and rejection along the way to your goal. |
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V429
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Nov 18 2019, 03:38 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 18 2019, 02:51 PM) Bro, can you define what you mean by overly positive? Does it mean to be able to move forward from this break up and be positive we will get back? Like how am I gonna show her the positiveness? Well in my message by positive I meant like.. Not appearing sad or worried in front of her I guess. Although being positive in front of her may help win her back, but it's not healthy for you in the long run because it might become the case of you wearing a 'mask' in front of her. Unless it's a shift of mindset like what Twenty-Fifth Baam shared with us before. It's good for you to grieve and let your emotions out. Though I wonder does she do the same to let her emotions out? I tend to think bottled feelings & emotions will cause ppl to accidentally lash out at others, like what just happened to you. |
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V429
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Nov 18 2019, 04:21 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 18 2019, 04:11 PM) Actually she did. One of her church mentor reached out to me and told me she is praying for me. Ask me to be well. I apologize to her, asked her why pray for me since I hurt her friend. I was really just breaking down la when she reached out to me. She told me she knows I'm suffering but my ex is in also not having it easy. Maybe she thought I think it was easy for her. She told me she called her and cried too. So yeah, dont think she is bottling it in. I see.. That's good to know. Just that seems like she still have somethings she couldn't get over with, hence her angry message to you yesterday. Just wondering. So.. Any plans now moving forward? |
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V429
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Nov 19 2019, 09:50 AM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 18 2019, 11:30 PM) I dont know if directly wish her morning night all these will make her annoying or not. Or maybe I need to give her sometime before I start to wish her this and that. Haih dont know la so many dilemma I would suggest give her some time first. Maybe 1 month? Or 2 weeks? Then start slow, maybe 1 message a week? Then after a period of time become 1 message every few days. Just a suggestion. |
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V429
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Nov 19 2019, 03:54 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 19 2019, 03:04 PM) Yeah this is what I thought so too. Give her two weeks break and then start slow. Haih, thanks for hearing me out bro. Can only talk here. No problem Bro. So I am guessing both you and her mutual friends are unaware of the situation? I was thinking maybe they can sorta help inform you on how she is and stuff. This post has been edited by V429: Nov 19 2019, 04:03 PM |
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V429
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Nov 19 2019, 10:03 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 19 2019, 05:21 PM) Our mutual friend knows. My friend dunno. Most of our mutual friends are from church so they know since I stop going. Today reminded me about our happy moments together. Feels painful to blow it all off because of one mistake. How did your mutual friends treat this news? I hope they aren't too judgemental. Also have you thought of letting your own friends know? I suppose sooner or later they might casually ask about you and her? |
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V429
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Nov 19 2019, 10:33 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Nov 19 2019, 10:20 PM) I only talked to one cause he's like the leader of our cell group. So he's helping me and telling me I should not be blame entirely. My own friend I havent been seeing anyone so I also dont know how to tell. The thing with my group of closest friend are a bunch of girls. I know they will be supportive and all but my ex is sensitive when I hang out with girls so I might stay away from them. My guys friend are married with kids so I dont really wanna bother them. I see. OK. Maybe you can consider finding your guy friends to yumcha / limteh a bit once in awhile just to socialise a bit, you know, just hang out. Since you gotta go 2 weeks without contacting her. |
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V429
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Dec 4 2019, 03:48 PM
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QUOTE(prelude23 @ Dec 4 2019, 02:48 AM) Okay bro. Hope you can find your sleep back. I know the feeling of wanting to sleep but just fill with so much thoughts inside you keeping you from sleeping. In fact, I slept early just now at 10 cause was really tired but woke up now cause I dream we patch back dy in my dream. Somehow we are together in KL and having a lunch with her friend and husband. The friend mom bought her a bag earlier. When she showed me the bag, I asked her you will use this meh implying that the design is not what she like. She told me the strap already putus. Funny is I only saw her friend and the husband once before. That is quite a dream. Do you still wake up in the middle of night regularly due to anxiety? |
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V429
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Dec 17 2019, 08:10 PM
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Hey, that's an improvement. Good to hear |
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