My son will be turning 4 this April and he just started day care at a nearby kindergarten for the first time on Jan 2 onward. Thing is he has been crying every time when i drop him off at the center. I know this is normal but it has been going on for almost 3 weeks! Being a kid before myself, i know the feeling going to a place where there are lots of kids and teachers, first few days can be uncomfortable in new place but eventually we all adapted. My son just cries in the morning when i drop him off but after a while, he will be okay and join the other kids do stuff. When i pick him up at the end of the day, he seems normal. I asked if he wanted to go school tomorrow he said YES! Then the next sun rise came, and it was the same day again for me and my son. He will follow me to the daycare but eventually before stepping in he will say "i dont want to go school". I have encouraged him, telling him that is is alright to go school, there are other kids there as well, you learns things and bla bla bla. All the talk but still same thing. I even said if you go in and dont cry, i will get you new toy or what ever, but it didnt work.

Now what is the problem here? I believe it is all down to individual which is my son's personality which will take time. I have spoken to a few parents, some say it could be the teachers or kids there that made my son dont like to go. I do not think that is the case because he has been crying since day1 until now. He comes back happy but next day is a different world. It is sad seeing him crying every morning but it has to stop one day, just that i dont know when. I will still encourage him with all the positive thing about the kindergarten and hopefully it will stop sooner.

Want to ask parents out there how do you tackle this problem? I have heard someone kid cry for 2 months straight before it stopped which will be a nightmare for me every morning.

ur kid just love u too much ...u should be proud haha
i used to work in a kindergarten ...every new intakes they would have lots of kids cry in the morning because their grandparents/parents left them there. But its a common issue, certain kids took 1 month to be used to the environment. They just dont feel secure leaving their comfort zone and parents

This post has been edited by cytyler: Jan 18 2019, 11:29 AM

Ask your spouse to send if possible.. Myself, if wife send the kids, so much drama.. So when I send the kids not trouble at all..

Manja too much with their mother.. This year the abang go to standard 1.. Seeing her mother would make him cry.. Seeing me already know I don't layan.. Hahah

just told ur kid u will gift icecream if he dont cry , if he succeed the belanja him icecream... or anything that can get him happy ... theres many ways to encourage him to go to school. just be creative

This is pretty normal for most kids. I recall my son even more candid. First few days, he cried. After that, he reluctant to climb up the car knowing we sending him to kindy, then next he dun 1 to get out the house. And the final tricks was "I got headache, Mommy" and don't want to wake up.
My cousin told us her daughter even superb. Lock herself up in the room and ignore the adults. Even the kindy teacher came to persuade, she totally ignore.

It takes lots of trial an error and method to tricks them to school until they feel it is normal routine for them to go kindy. Don't worry.. your kid will gets better.

But don't think you tell her that is the right thing to do is working. Try to ask her bout her friends.. and identify her best friend. Then go buy some candy .. tell her share with fren.. she got a mission to do that is to show her fren the candy.. etc.

For my son, when he was much younger seeing us (adult) reading newspapers, he also flip the papers. And I recall teasing him for not knowing "words". So everytime I praise him saying "see.. you go to school and finally you can read what we read".

I understand what you mean, it took my soon 3 month to get accustomed to the school. We tried contacting the daycare etc and ask whats the reason, the teacher said that he has no problem in school, after we leave, he would simply play around and listen to teacher and infact is very playful and kind. The teacher considered him to be one of the well behaved ones and he has a favourite teacher to which he will run to incase of anything or he needs something.
Every morning he would cry not to go to school. Then we consult the teacher, the teacher gave us some helpful info
1. Never trick your child into going to school.
2. Keep reminding him of school and all the fun activities.
3. Show him a picture of him at school and playing and happily having fun.
4. Never bribe the child by saying if you go to school you get this and that.

After we tried that, within a week every morning we would enter school happily and said bye bye to us. He is okay now.

My daughter will be the opposite.

She will behave when my wife drop her in the morning, but will cry once she heard my wife arrived to get her from kindy in the evening.

The only reason i can think of is because she might miss her mother. We just had a twin, so recently might fell that nobody giving attention to her. Lack of attention at home and suddenly being left at the kindy for the whole day.

Maybe she feel that she's being abandon, we don't want her anymore. Something like that, maybe....

Anyway, we still send her to the kindy. But occasionally will let her skip for a day or two.

This would be my response as well.

So after 3 weeks, my son stops crying already. He goes in, put his shoe in the correct compartment and say by to me. These 3 weeks seems long or me!

Great to hear that. What method did you use? Or he just eventually stop crying?

Does your child get enough sleep ? Kids get cranky if they don't sleep enough or get enough quality sleep