HI, first time mum and dad here. Finally we are entering second trimester and I feel so much better, so now I am working on what should we buy to prepare for little one's arrival.

Here is my initial list and hope anyone will comment or suggest a brand/series. This is our first time and we basically compile the list from what we heard from friends, so please correct me if the list is wrong. We had went to baby mummy shops but the range so big and we don't know how to budget for them.

1. Electronic Breast Pump - Medela/Avent? Is RM500 enough to buy a good one?
2. Baby Cot (wood) - probably going to buy 2, one for our home and one for the nanny's house. Planning to buy second hand through online.
3. Baby Seat - going for the 0 - 8 years type, not the baby capsule type since the capsule can only be use for 6 months. (budget: <1.5K?)
4. Playpen - for bringing along when we travel or go back hometown
5. Baby bath tub - just any brand will do right? We are looking at Ikea's

6. Baby bath tub stand - is it better to have this? I wonder if it's stable enough.



7. Baby bath support - is the clip on better or the type we straight away put inside the tub?



8. Baby blanket - done, we bought the zip type
9. Baby mattress

10. Diaper changing mat



11. Won't be buying diaper changing table cause I already have a spare table with drawers. So I will just change diapers on it and keep the diapers handy inside the drawers.

12. Baby stroller - looking at Combi brand. How much should I budget for this if I am looking for something less than 5kg.

13. Newborn diapers - probably got covered because my friend had bought too much.

14. Feeding bottle - which one is good Tommy Tipee, Avent or any brand? Glass or non-glass? Or I should wait after baby's birth since I will be latching while on maternity leave.

15. Sterilizer. Some friends say it's a must, some say just use hot water. Which one to believe? What brand to recommend? My budget is RM200+-.

16. Milk warmer. Actually very concern about this cos some friends commented it takes too long and their babies are impatient to wait even for seconds.

17. Baby clothing - shouldn't be an issue cause many friends already offer to pass us all their baby clothes. Can add on new ones when he arrives.

These are all I can think of, but I guess I am still missing some?

Added:
18. Thermometer

19. Pacifier

20. Yuyi oil

21. Baby carrier

22. Baby monitor

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Oct 19 2018, 05:09 PM

plan your budget bro. im first timer too. do the calculation before u buy to me no need branded one la.

I can't plan a budget until I can see the feedback. The price range is so big. I don't want to save money but getting very poor quality item or the item broke down so soon. But at the same time, not going to go for too expensive item.

2. You dont need a 2nd cot. Most nannny will provide a playpen for newborn but its best if you get your own.

I recently bought 4moms breeze plus, its probrably the most portable playpen, bassinet acts as a changing table.

12. Ive yet to get a stroller as well, looking at Babyzen yoyo+ for portability but it has no leg rest, but its super easy to move manuever around, might consider Quinny Zapp Flex Plus for more added comfort with the - of portability.

14. Avoid Tommy Tipee at all cost , currently using pigeon.

16. I have a portable warmer (bean) but its not that good and take 15 mins to warm the milk up, instead i just use hot water from my cuckoo dispenser and dip the bottle with milk to warm it up quickly. Anyone has recommendation for milk warmer?

Congratz on being a first time parent! Below are my comments:
1) My wife used Medela before but it was spoilt so we changed to Spectra S1 breastpump. Still working though but we seldom use it now coz my young child prefer sucking directly.

2) We got a wooden baby cot from a friend but we never put the baby inside coz all my children prefer to sleep on the bed or the baby hammock (yao lan). The baby cot is used to put baby stuff, lol..

3) I would suggest u to buy the Chicco Nextfit zip. U can check their Malaysia Chicco facebook for warehouse sales. Btw, wat car are u driving? Do u plan to put another car seat in future? Will u need to ferry an full size adult too?

4) I am using the Summer Infant Pop n' Play Portable Playpen. It is very portable and light. The only con is that the base is just a piece of cloth. I normally put the playpen on a carpet, sponge carpet, bed, etc so my child wont hurt when fall down.
http://www.mothercare.com.sg/summer-infant...le-playpen.html

5) Just any brand of baby bath tub will do. No need to buy from ikea, lol..

6) I rather put the baby bath tub on the floor. More safer.

7) We use the rubber baby bath support which is place inside the baby bath tub.

10) We bought the rubber dimple diaper changing mat.

12) I have bought two strollers (Silver cross and GB Pockit+). We seldom use it coz my kids dont like it. They always want us to carry. Now they can walk, even worst. Most of the time, the stroller carry our baby bag instead of our child.

14) We prefer baby glass bottle coz it is easier to clean and can last very long. But handle with care coz we already broke 5 glass bottles in total amd it is not cheap. We use the Basilic Glass milk bottle. We changed the silicon nipple to the Pigeon Soft Touch Peristaltic Plus Nipple. Remember to buy a pouch for the glass milk bottle so it wont break so easily.

15) We didn't use any Sterilizer. We just wash and use hot water to rinse.

16) Just dip the milk bottle into a cup of hot water for a while. No need to buy a milk warmer.

Other things i would recommend u to buy is:
a) Silicon bottle brush
https://www.littlewhiz.com/pd-lucky-baby-si...ottle-brush.cfm

b) Lekebaby bag. Alot of compartments and quite stylish.
*I purchased from Lazada.

c) Britax Back seat mirror (install on your car)
https://www.amazon.com/Britax-S864600-Back-...r/dp/B008HCXIU2

U can check out littlewhiz website. They sell a bunch of baby stuff there. But i prefer to walk-in coz it is not very far from my house.

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Thanks I will have a look at 4moms breeze playpen. Quinny Zapp, it does not come with the 'baby basket' right, cause I will have to add on right?

You just confirmed for me that I won't buy a milk warmer. I think I will just use my electric kettle and boil water (only take a few seconds) to warm the milk bottle.

Thanks. For car seat, we had visited baby product shops and the salesperson told us we can just buy the car seat 0-8 years, which is the type without basket. Can soft newborn really sit there?

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Sep 13 2018, 12:50 PM

remember to buy milk powder for 0-12 months.
cause first 2 weeks will be very less or no milk.
diapers don't buy too much yet, your baby may allergic to certain brand.
for breast pump, buy dual type thus pump faster.

For formula, I plan to get samples from major brands. If really no breast milk, then start feeding with the samples and see which one fits him? Is this workable?

Which dual pump you would recommend? I saw Avent >1K while other brands (Pigeon if I am not mistaken) is cheaper.

Yes, there are convertible or all-in-one type child car seat that can fit new born. But always refer to the manual.
I dont really trust the words of Salesperson when it comes to child car seat. Some are even inexperienced and give wrong info. I encountered such incident before. Ever since, i do my own research and study more about child car seats. Now i just go to those baby store and ask how much is the child car seat model i want. If the price is right, i will see if it can fit my car or not.

I agree with you about Tommee Tippee. 🤭

Btw, you can keep hot water in the flask to warm your milk.

Congrats to you! Seems like you have got your shopping gear on..I am still taking it easy. Thanks, your list helps a lot.

yes it is workable and make sure your baby poo everyday but not diarrhea.
wife is using avent, never try other brand before so no comment.

This post has been edited by blindmutedeaf: Sep 14 2018, 09:36 AM

one more thing, if your wife is having placenta previa: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditi...es/syc-20352768
then you should goto GH instead of private cause it will be a costly deliver. GH will make your wife sleeps in hospital till 38th week

when are u both expecting?
all parents and babies are different.

i bought many items as well, some unused.
anyway, there are many baby fair/baby expo around. i think the TCE baby expo just ended last week, and another one Todays Baby Expo end of September.
Go there, see the things they sell, they u can see what u might need.
also can compare prices.

Thanks for the pointers.




No worry, we had already fix appointment for FPP at a GH in November.

We will skip spring cot and try to let baby get used to baby cot. My mum used to help people babysit, and I can say 90% of them experienced falling off the sarung (even when we just turn around to go toilet for a few minute).
But Yuyi oil, definitely.

Due early Feb19.
Trying to buy the essentials first before tummy got big and tired to shop.
I will check out the baby expo this month. Maybe grab the car seat, stroller and pump first.
Thanks.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Sep 15 2018, 11:43 AM

I regret buying stroller before baby is born. My stroller doesn’t suit my baby after she is older😕

Adding
Thermometer (Forehead or ear?) I don't think baby will quietly let me put it in his mouth.
Pacifier
Yuyi oil

yeah, stroller? check around. perhaps buy a cheap one for the first one if u really feel u need to buy one?

if not, just buy after baby is born.

i bought 3, when my baby not even 1 year old yet.
(this is something i regret)

so i sold one and now i have 2. one for around home use ( we live in a condo ) and another for car/travelling purposes.


car seat, perhaps find one that can be use from newborn up to 2 or 3 years.


Pump? bought for my wife, in the end use it a little and then now no use at all.
my son directly latches onto my wife everytime. now that my wife is no longer working.
Will the mother be working? plan to start working again after delivery? then u need a pump.

there are a few shops where u can actually try the machine. i suggest u go and try.
again, best would be when u lactating milk (after delivery).

Again, i bought 2. one before birth, just in case ( a cheap one ) and another one after my wife start producing milk properly.

1. Breast Pump : we are using Spectra M1 + Freemie as it can be handfree

3. We bought Joie Every stage about 1.1k, can sit 0 to 12 years old

14. Feeding bottle: We used Pigeon, and for storage bottle for breastmilk

15. We didn't really use any sterilizer, mom used hot water, we just use Pigeon cleanser (that kill 99% germs) and kept in closed dish rack

16. If allowed, don't use hot water to warm milk as it might kill nutrients in milk, need to warm the milk earlier and keep warm for unfinished milk


We don't really use stroller when the baby grow bigger as stroller is troublesome to bring along, baby carrier will do just fine

Seems like most people regret buying stroller including me, lol..

Lol! Got it.. I think I will buy stroller later. It's not like I am going to take him around so soon except for doctor appointment. Maybe I will get a baby sling.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Sep 19 2018, 03:57 PM

By the way you can download ‘BabyCentre’ apps to give you a rough ideas.

Ts, how many weeks is your wife now?

Likelt for a year, not advisable for baby to go out of the house to avoid virus infection. Their immune system is low. So don't have to buy pram yet

I'm considering similac brand for baby..

I also heard it's good for mom, but my gynae has r advise me what milk brand to drink. My church friend drink lots of soya bean and her baby's skin became so beautiful even until today (6 or 7 years old now). She looks exceptionally with really good skin due to her mom taken lots of soya bean. I might want to do that too after informing my gynae during my next visit.

I would recommend to use Avent brand as it's a reknown brand and you don't go wrong with branded stuffs lol

The rest of the items, I'm not too worried to buy as just yet.

The hankerchief must buy more.. baby tend to smile and milk drooling from mouth. And they tend to vomit milk from their mouth every now and then

The bolster and pillow try to buy minimum two sets. Else, once baby gets use to it, they forever want it and then you have to wash it with lots of care else got germs. Especially when they grow older, they drag their soft toys and pillow/bolster everywhere. So I'm considering to get two sets

And don't ever let them play phone. Let this generation live like ours, without phone when we are small

My generation live a lot in front of TV. My TV burnt one day because I over watched cartoons.

owh ya, dont forget the baby expo end of this month. (this coming Saturday & Sunday) at Mid valley.

there's a lot of baby expo, the TCE Baby Expo and Today's baby expo are one of the biggest i guess.

and they have it a few times a year.

End of last month also got one, not end of this month is another. i know upcoming TCE baby expo is in Mid valley as well in late November.

perhaps you can window shop first, then buy it next time?
or just go and buy also if u think u need to.

Thanks for reminding. I plan to window shop this Sunday at the expo and work out my budget. I have the tendency to impulse buying so need to be careful. Probably only purchase things in November expo once I work out what exact brand/model I want and within budget.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Sep 27 2018, 12:23 PM

this weekend is Today's Baby Expo and in November is TCE Baby Expo.

But mostly same companies and same brands will join.
If you go this Sunday, and see something u want to buy in November, do ask them if they will join the one in November.
If they will join, then u can buy in November, if not, then maybe u need to buy there n then.

Went to baby fair and my head pening.... how many milk bottle should i get for first time? Buy one to try during maternity or buy whole set cause bb will be with nanny 24hr 5 day straight after this?

I use 6bottles 😅

Thanks. Is it recommended to buy 6 at one time or buy one to test first? Buy all in 0-3mth size? Or a mixture? I am considering buying starter package.


Is this useful?

https://www.lazada.com.my/products/picardo-...SQZyt9&search=1

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Oct 12 2018, 06:48 PM

I bought Tommie tippee starter set comes with 6bottles. My baby outgrown the teats we just the tears instead bottles.

I didn’t get one I co sleeping with my baby.. this is not encouraged.

Thanks for the helpful advise. I won't buy the smallest bottle then, but buy something medium, then change the teats as we go.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Oct 14 2018, 12:00 PM

Im first timer here too. Good list for me to refer too. 😊

Yup, btw don’t buy Tommie tippee, I regret buying this brand.

My friend recommends Simba cause it solved his son's colic issue. But it's expensive about RM60-70 each.

I am also looking at Kuku and Pigeon PPSU range.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Oct 16 2018, 12:40 PM

I bought upis ppsu is a Korea brand is about rm70-80

I just talked to hubby about not buying stroller first and he's like, "what to do if you have to bring bb to doctor appointment by yourself?"

Yep.. we agreed to take turn to bring bb to injection and appointments. Hubby can carry the baby seater basket, but if I am alone, I am not sure I can carry that or using the baby carrier. I have lower back pain.
That day I saw a lady bringing her baby alone and she was using stroller, not only to put bb, also to put her milk bottle, supplies and handbag. Seems like a lot if she didn't have the stroller.

Can I trust this website?

https://www.motherhood.com.my

There are some stuff like baby cot, selling even better price than baby expo.

#Add to list:

Baby carrier
Baby monitor

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Oct 19 2018, 05:09 PM

i went to the expo in viva home last month
registered and got few voucher as well

What is the best baby cot size to buy so i can easily find suitable mattress size? Seems like there many different size.

U plan to buy both separately? Normally baby shops have package for both cot and mattress, and they offer in cheaper prices.

Yeap stroller can buy later when u think it’s needed. We bought an expensive one but seldom use. (Cause we rarely go out for long hour shopping etc). Baby carrier is more useful and convenient. Get a good one.

It’s a platform for seller to sell stuffs. U may check if the seller has a shop then u can visit to view the item.

Yup they have package. Just thinking when I need to buy replacement mattress, don't want the hassle of looking all over the place. But recently at baby fair I see that the normal size is 60X120 and another bigger one. 2 standard sizes.

Oh.. that's helpful. Thanks. Prefer to visit their shops.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Nov 10 2018, 08:40 PM

Yeap u can easily find the standard size 60x120. If u think u might want to change mattress in the future, then survey on mattress first, roughly get some idea where / which brand u can get the mattress based on the required size. I saw a lot r selling bumble bee brand latex mattress. My lo was using Geetha latex, they have both 60x120, 70x130cm. Btw my lo refused to sleep on her cot since 14m. So I’m now looking for foldable queen size bed for her to sleep on the floor 😆

How’s other items in your shopping list? Almost done? 😄 If u are able to fork out extra budget for steriliser then go for UV type. Really save a lot of time.

Hi, have you found the foldable queen size bed? Please post here, thank you 😊

The other items on shopping list? Actually we've barely bought half of them. Instead we bought a lot of things that are not in the list
This is what happen when I go to an expo. Too many things to see and I lost focus. while hubby is the type who's ok with anything.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Nov 14 2018, 05:26 PM

Hi there, not yet 😊 still doing survey. Will share the info if I buy

Haha, don’t end up keeping those things in the cabinet without using it. 😆 u will have another round of shopping when comes to solid food later (6months)

new daddy

my next purchase list
1) baby car seat (any recommendation?)
2) restock wiper an diaper

Gonna do it 1 by 1 ... ($$)

Thank you. I think I would like to get one too 😘

bought the kooper balero car seat RM 999 at tce baby fair today

initially target combi 360 which is RM1699 + free kid tableware RM250 ++ seems quite a good offer, but feel the size is quite small not really can tahan till 3 year old. But mesh cushion is really nice.

save the budget for other...


too tired and heavy...restock diaper , wiper through shopee ...seems price no much different

This post has been edited by frequency: Nov 24 2018, 08:58 PM

Baby wet wipes 'cause food allergy', new study warns.

www.telegraph.co.uk/science/2018/04/06/baby-wipes-cause-food-allergy-new-study-warns/amp/

What brand of baby wipes you're using?
I bought Aleva Natural big packet, plan to use it first in case baby allergy. Also bought Fiffy and Pureen to see if baby is okay with these brand.

I was torn between buying which top to toe wash for baby - Johnson? Pureen? Anakku? Or Cetaphil Baby Range? I myself have been using Cetaphil for years. Those selling at baby expo are in big bottles so I didn't buy cause want to buy a few brands in small bottle and see which one fits.

Also looking for baby massage oil cause I read it's good for baby's sleep.

Is baby powder still recommended these days? I might buy the pure cornstarch type if needed.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Nov 26 2018, 06:58 PM

I replaced Pureen wet wipes with K Mom. K brand seems more natural and my baby is ok with it, I also use it to wipe her hand and face. But price is about double of Pureen. Earlier she has some nappy rashes with pureen. Body wash Im using Buds head to toe since new born till now, personally like it.

Luckily I bought Pureen in small quantity only. If allergic, I will use it for cleaning up table only. Will check out K Mom and Buds. Thanks.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Nov 27 2018, 10:13 AM

I’m using buds too. I try not use wipes as much coz my daughter developed some rashes. Previously used pureen, huggies, drypers, mamypoko, kmom, genki and many more.

pureen..so far so good

During confinement, the confinement lady using cotton + water only to clean after bb poop poop

yeap for new born. And I did this until Lo 7 months then i mainly switch to wet wipe. I use cotton ball.

why never wash using water straight from the tab or warm water from water heater water?

I have mummy’s thumb not easy to carry baby and do other stuffs.But like now she’s 1y+ , i can do so but using wipes is faster haha

This post has been edited by neenee: Nov 28 2018, 11:48 AM

Hi, I went to check Buds. Which top to toe are you using? I saw two for infant - one is with clear see through bottle (liquid color like honey) and another in non-see-through white bottle.

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Dec 4 2018, 10:20 AM

Expectant parent here.

Thanks for the to-buy-list TS. We are also in the midst of preparing for the grand entrance of our baby

Regarding item no.2: Baby cot.
What do you guys think about a Korean style bumper bed instead of cot for newborn?

Been getting a lot of feedback from friends/relatives about the baby cot end up collecting dust at the corner of their house. Because newborn baby end up sleeping on the same bed with the parents

* Apologies if I should be creating a new thread to ask about this.

Congratulations!
Third time round father here, sorry for the long post, here are my 5 cents:

Other things to consider buying (which others might have posted as well):
- Bottle/ nipple brush (we use K-mom)
- Bottle wash liquid
- Diaper Wipes
- Diaper Cream
- Diaper bag
- Swaddle (i'd recommend Love to Dream swaddles,can get from Mothercare. Works well especially at night)
- Head to Toe wash
- hooded towels
- Laundry detergent (baby clothes)
- Wash-cloths, Burp Cloths
- Bedding (pillow,bumpers, covers)
- Nursing wear (mamaway seems to be popular)
- Breast pads, nipple cream
- Ice packs to keep breast milk cold.
- Milk bags to store breast milk.
- Baby Mobile toy to keep them entertained.
- Nighlight

This post has been edited by Castreal: Dec 4 2018, 03:16 PM

Hi, I am thinking whether to get baby cot or this too!Price starts at RM999 for the basic to RM1600 for bigger and more versatile type (baby expo). A korean tv show shows celebrities using this for their babies. Hubby thought it will be good and later can use it as play area for toddler, or fold and keep away when not in use. But I wonder how a few pieces of normal foam can cost so much.

Also need to consider when taking baby in and out, you will have to squat down.

Most probably I will still get a baby cot from Ikea.

Thanks Castreal, for adding to the list. In fact, I need to buy a bigger fridge soon to keep baby food, breast milk and weekly worth of grocery (I don't think I can go grocery as frequent as previous time).

No problem. As for fridge, we own a 600+ litre fridge, and during confinement, it was packed to max! Like what you mentioned, you will most probably have time only for weekly grocery, unless you stay/work (hubby) next to a Grocer/Market, and weekly shopping means filling up the fridge fast.

As for the IKEA Cot, do be aware that the sides of cots cannot be lowered down, the position is fixed.

May I know 600L fridge is used for how many people's grocery? I am planning to change to 450L type (my old one is less than 300L) but now I wonder if it will be enough..

For the cot, yeah, I'm aware of that. I read on Babycenter that drop side baby cot is banned in certain countries due to safety reason? Do you have any baby cot brand to recommend?

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Dec 6 2018, 10:31 PM

The bumper bed does seems overpriced if you put it that way, a few pieces of foam
We'r trying to justify the purchase by thinking it can be used till baby is at least 5 yrs old. Anyway, still undecided...

We might receive a hand-me-down barely used playpen. Planning to use it like a cot.
Any thoughts on playpen vs cot? The 2 looks the same to me except for the materials (cloth vs wooden).

1. Electronic Breast Pump - Medela/Avent? Is RM500 enough to buy a good one? ————— I have both medela&avent(double pump) avent better. Cost RM 1000 - RM 1500

2. Baby Cot (wood) - probably going to buy 2, one for our home and one for the nanny's house. Planning to buy second hand through online.————— 1 enough, Ikea sunvik + jattertrot mattress. Cost = RM499 + RM 350


3. Baby Seat - going for the 0 - 8 years type, not the baby capsule type since the capsule can only be use for 6 months. (budget: <1.5K?)——- car seat or what???



4. Playpen - for bringing along when we travel or go back hometown ———— Graco or babybjorn, real wood playpen I use geuther



5. Baby bath tub - just any brand will do right? We are looking at Ikea's ———————- yes any brand is ok, consider rohto or ok baby(I use both).

6. Baby bath tub stand - is it better to have this? I wonder if it's stable enough. —————————— yes!!! If you want to save your back . But chose the reliable one, the one without tires.



7. Baby bath support - is the clip on better or the type we straight away put inside the tub?————— the one that made of fabric/cloth, straightaway put inside



8. Baby blanket - done, we bought the zip type
9. Baby mattress——————— already above

10. Diaper changing mat———————— I love my ikea hehe



11. Won't be buying diaper changing table cause I already have a spare table with drawers. So I will just change diapers on it and keep the diapers handy inside the drawers.





12. Baby stroller - looking at Combi brand. How much should I budget for this if I am looking for something less than 5kg. ———- depends, for newborn-4months they’re more comfortable with travel system (car seat). But I saw one compact and light combi that full recline for NB at KLCC I think around RM2000. Cannot give comment because I don’t use this brand.





13. Newborn diapers - probably got covered because my friend had bought too much.




14. Feeding bottle - which one is good Tommy Tipee, Avent or any brand? Glass or non-glass? Or I should wait after baby's birth since I will be latching while on maternity leave. —————avent or TT, I use avent. Non glass. 1st if your baby grown up and start throwing things you will understand why non-glass more efficient. And at the age of 4-6months they’ll learn to hold their bottle, the glass one not really practical.

15. Sterilizer. Some friends say it's a must, some say just use hot water. Which one to believe? What brand to recommend? My budget is RM200+-. —————— Definitely need!! Cheap one Avent around RM300.





16. Milk warmer. Actually very concern about this cos some friends commented it takes too long and their babies are impatient to wait even for seconds. —————- no need, my baby fine with formula+evian water directly. Never sick, bloated, gassy, etc etc since newborn till now(11months old)




17. Baby clothing - shouldn't be an issue cause many friends already offer to pass us all their baby clothes. Can add on new ones when he arrives.——————- do buy one or two sets newborn clothes before he arrives, it’s once in a lifetime, he’s special. RM100-RM200 won’t hurt


These are all I can think of, but I guess I am still missing some?

Added:



18. Thermometer—————- need


19. Pacifier —————- depends on you, I never introduce pacifier since born.



20. Yuyi oil



21. Baby carrier —————- need, ergobaby omni 360.




22. Baby monitor——————- try yi 1080p camera, it’s cheap, but for me it’s more than enough.



23. Lansinoh/lanolin cream



24. Nipple cover



25. Diaper rash cream



26. Muslin blanket


27. Breastfeeding pillow



28. Swaddle ————love to dream



29. Baby bath+wash products i use all sebamed



30. Bottle nipple cleanser with brush




By the way congratulations for your pregnancy!!!

This post has been edited by Mrs.A: Dec 8 2018, 04:49 AM

First time father, dealing with extreme depression, any ideas how to feed baby if she refusing the bottle. She only wants to latch.

Also, tantrums, how to calm her down when she is really crying and doesn't stop. We tried pacifier, but whenever pacifier comes out, she gets frustrated and starts crying top of her lungs again.

First of all, both of you (you+wife) need to get help regarding the postpartum depression, many parents look down upon this problem, but postpartum depression is not a joke. It’s not only affecting you and your wife but also your baby well being. I hope you can find a supportive community around you.

1. any ideas how to feed baby if she refusing the bottle. She only wants to latch.??————————— try another nipple, try another bottle... be patience.. she still learn to adapt with the life outside the womb. Give sometimes and keep trying.


2. Also, tantrums, how to calm her down when she is really crying and doesn't stop. We tried pacifier, but whenever pacifier comes out, she gets frustrated and starts crying top of her lungs again.???? ———————- not every baby are the textbook type. You can calm her down by carrying and rocking her softly, Sometimes baby throwing tantrums because they feel insecure and uncomfortable start to pay more attention for every details. Pacifier, why would you give your baby pacifier if she doesn’t like it??? I know it’s become a trend amongst parents as the shortcut to soothes their babies. But doesn’t mean that it gonna works for yours. I never introduce pacifier to my LO, and he’s perfectly fine.



I know it’s hard as new father to deal with your new baby, wife anger, her mood, and frustration during the postpartum depression because right now your wife life is changed, New responsibilities and her hormones are bouncing like nobody business. Try to get as much as possible help, find a quality time for both of you at least once a week. When both of you transform in to a happy parents, I believe your daughter would be a happy baby too.

There’s no bumper that safe for baby. For me baby cot is one of the most important gear. I have no idea why your friends and relatives let the cot collecting dust and put their baby in a greater risk by co sleeping on the same bed??? I’m surprised many parents are unaware of the SIDS risk.

I am seeing a psychiatrist now and taking meds for depression.
I think the lack of sleep is the main killer. That's why we try to calm the crying baby by using the pacifier. Coz we are all too tired to carry and rock her to sleep. Nevertheless we try our best. Thank you for the reply btw.

On the latching part, we try our best not to force her to drink from the bottle. I just hope she uses back the bottle as latching takes longer time and my wife is about to start work soon and we are so very exhausted

I can feel you... Good point you already reaching help. No nanny or somebody else who can help you? Be strong! It’s only temporary, once your your baby bigger it would be easier for both of you. By the way I heard many cases baby would prefer latch over the bottle. Well you know that the skin are softer than rubber. If possible start to stop the latch first. Give breastmilk by the bottle exclusively. She’ll have no option than taking the bottle and get used to it.

Trying our best to stop latch, do u know of bottles and nipples that are the best most effective for 3 month old?

Getting desperate now. I can't endure baby crying or anyone crying man. It will gv me anxiety attacks.

Oh dear .. We only use avent since NB. The small bottle(125m), but I change the nipple regularly following the age group. I only switched his bottle to 260ml after 6months old. First of all you need to introduce her the feeding schedule, do not wait until she’s angry,overtired,too hungry or over-feed. Second, be extra patient. Your baby can feel your anxiety+stress+desperation. Owh she’s 3 months old already? Have you check if she’s teething?

Not teething yet, she actually refused the bottle since 2.5 months or so. We are trying to feed her before she actually gets hungry, because if we wait until she is very hungry, she will keep crying and doesn't even want to drink. Thank you for your input.

A question here; what do you bring back for baby to sleep on, if balik kampung?
I look at the plastic playpen, but not very interested with it. They looks wobbly?

Will a bionic bed better suited?

Bionic Bed

or this?

Foldable crib

This post has been edited by lowlowc: Dec 10 2018, 01:36 PM

Probably she wants different nipple also. Because the 3months+ stage got a bigger hole. Good luck..

Both will require co-sleep with the parents which actually a big “No” for me. How about chicco zip and go travel crib? I use innovi coccoon and switch to baby Bjorn once he’s bigger.

Hi guys, seriously need some tips, I am new father.

-Baby 3.5 months now, previously didn't swaddle to sleep and no sleep routine.
-initially drinks breastmilk from bottle, baby at 1.5 month refuse to drink from bottle, so breast fed on demand and bottle feed while baby sleeps
-doc say baby allergic to milk protein, ask us to use ha milk formula
-lately been crying heavily especially early evening.
-and refuse to drink even from breast
-sometimes Dun want to sleep, want ppl to carry around. We have to do many things just to get baby sleep, like sarong, cary and rocking etc
-sometimes we can see she has nightmares and start moving and kicking around in sarong, sometimes she will wake from the nightmare and start crying big time

I am at a loss, exhausted,depressed and desperate.

1.What type of ha milk that would be recommended?
2. i notice wherever baby start to get fussy, it's even harder to feed her, can we feed her even before she get hungry? Or do we need to start to fix a time table of feeding, nap and sleep time?
3. How to train baby to recognize it's nap time and bed time at night? Any links that u guys used personally and found effective?
4.is bo ying compound by euyan sang effective?

Not that I am lazy to do research, it's that the info in internet is too vast and I am getting paralysis by analysis, also, I dun gv much time to research

Thanks for highlighting that Mrs.A. We just wanna keep our baby safe and find the best way for baby to sleep comfortably.
How about a korean style bumper bed like this?

Have you try apply yuyi oil on the baby's stomach, back and foot?

When my baby after 2 months she was fussy like yours too i tried let her sleep on her tummy/side sleep and problem solved BUT i strongly not encourage to do so because it's really risky.. or the parent need to take turn to watch the baby.. or you can try my colleague's way, she used the baby bouncer (put on the bed) let the baby sleep on it with tummy/side sleep at least it's still breathable.. BUT this is some risk too

Thanks, we did apply yuyi oil but only on stomach and feet. Will try the back if she gets fussy again. We also tried sleeping on side but when she is frustrated, she doesn't like it. Thanks for the input though. For now, we just try to feed her before she gets extremely hungry, else she will be too frustrated to suck. Sometimes she falls asleep when sucking and end up didnt suck enough, so wakes up super hungry and cry. We really tried our best.

Thanks for the info. I was planning to have it on a separate bed in the room.