You know last night I had dinner with a friend & found out a mutual friend of ours have now separated. Likely will go for divorce after this & not counseling.

We both agree that, one is getting more laid back and the other is slowing spreading her wings because her career and new opportunities and getting aplenty. Mind you HE, her husband can provide. A landed home, comer lot in excess over a million plus (just putting a hypothetical figure) and he works in a industry that’s pays well.

It’s sad that relationship of a common friend (we both know the guy and the girl) has turned south. Blame her?

Or perhaps she didn’t quite vet thru her criteria properly earlier. What is enough for ladies or what’s is enough for men?

I certainly wouldn’t want to be in their shoes. Right now. It’s bitter. 2 friends of mine now became strangers because relationship problem.

I did it on purpose. Why? Coz men's ego is what makes them blind to the improvements they need to make, so that they can see their flaws and do something about them.

To be real honest, as an alpha female myself, I wish there were more alpha men around.

Can betas become alphas? Yes, they can. They really can, but they don't believe they can... although they aspire to be.

Isn't this kinda sad? I mean, men are supposed to be powerful and take the lead, like those Marvel heroes. You might start off as a beta first, but once you start building yourself and are strong enough, you can either defeat the alpha of the pack, or start your own pack as an alpha.

I grew up having more male friends than female ones, and I know, guys don't talk about how insecure they feel when they are with other guys. They do the reverse: boast and exaggerate what they have. They don't lash their frustration and anger out on other dudes, but lash it out on "Ralna" or other women (their gfs/ wives?).

Why? Women mah, easier to bully and intimidate (in their opinion). & that's why "Ralna" and her writing is seen as narcissistic and boastful... coz, most people have never been there, never done that... so, too good to be true = must be real fake, as fake as what they boast of, of themselves.

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Anyway, back to your question, the dynamic control of a relationship... ok, see it this way. A man is the head, while his woman is the neck. A man can decide (make plans & set goals = lead and navigate the relationship etc), but his woman can decide whether she wanna shake or nod the head. Get the analogy? 

For a guy (me) it's natural, that I hope they will sort it out,  but for my lady friend, she understood that at present moment it's inevitable, while it's not a huge surprise to me as I'm been observing their timeline.

Just be clear, I have not interest other than sadness for their relationship was over 10years n married the last couple of years, no kids (maybe one of the reasons too(?) )
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Sidenote in regards to your reference.

Oh yeah about, any lady who has been there, done that (places with ex). How you one even muster the courage and stay afresh if one were to pursue. 😶
Anyway just a thought