Hi, fooym (& also other readers).

Thanks for the time to write your feedback. I really appreciate it.

1) & 2) Yes, I am aware of that. The purpose of this thread, as controversial as the topic may be, is to actually show that if you wanna pursue what you want in life, you gotta pay the price for it.

It is a social reality that there are many gold-diggers in the real world out there, and many young ladies & college students have signed up to be sugar babies, for whatever reasons they may have.



Back to topic, we can't eliminate gold-diggers, but at least, this thread has provided an alternative way for them to see how marrying a rich man can be done, without getting into the flesh trade or becoming sugar babies. I didn't sell myself for money although I experienced poverty; could have easily done that, but didn't.

FYI, TheSugarBook has 200,000 members across Malaysia, Singapore, Hong Kong, the US and Thailand to date. That's just one of those platforms, and the figure is growing every year. You can point your finger at these women, but remember who creates the demand, and pays for it-- men.
3) I did that on purpose (mentioning achievements). I could have chosen not to mention that in response to the forumer. Remember, I'm a strategic thinker, I understand human nature well, and I do things with a purpose.

Yes, people get uncomfortable/ misunderstood, but why?

We all experience jealousy/envy, but not all of us admit it. For example, when you see your friends posting about their glamorous life on FB or IG, or about their wedding, bf/husband, babies, expensive presents etc. There are generally 3 types of responses:

- 1st type, you sincerely feel happy for them and congratulate them
- 2nd type, you like the post or congratulate them, but deep inside, you have some sour feelings. How sour is that, you know.
- 3rd type, you don't like or comment at all, just scroll and ignore, and think "Show Off!", and probably unfollow your friend after that, if he/she keeps posting such stuffs.

How you deal with your jealousy of other people's happiness, success and achievements, is an important indicator of your emotional health and self-esteem.

If you can't even take a forumer's one-line mention of achievements (out of the many posts written), well, imagine how you will react to FB & IG posts, on a daily basis.... Not to mention LinkedIn, plenty of self-praising posts there, written by high-flyers.

People choose to react here (lash it out on "Ralna", in this case), because they can't do that in real life. Coz if they do so, they lose friends and connections. They suffer the consequences. Here in forum, ID is anonymous. People can put on their worst behaviour, get away with it, and feel damn good after that.

That is false pleasure. The jealousy is still there, the insecurity and low self-esteem is still there. The more you feel, the more lack you have-- whether you admit it or not. To deny your own flaw is easy, but to admit and accept it is difficult, not to mention working on it. But the thing is, as long as you don't see your own flaws, or admit them, you cannot heal emotionally, coz you can't work on them. You can't move on in life.

As I write this, I know it is uncomfortable to read. I'm not writing this to criticise anyone, coz I myself went through this, so I know how it feels like. This is my another story:



4) I hope my above sharing will give people some ideas about overcoming jealousy. Jealousy is very common, actually. It's one of our negative human emotions, like anger and sadness.

& the thing is, the more successful/beautiful you wanna be, you need to be aware of this: 不招人妒是庸才 (There are gonna be haters). Just look at those Youtube celebs, Insta celebs and FB ones, you'll know how many haters they have-- probably as many as admirers they have.

So, as you aim for success in life, be it in career or other aspects, be ready for others to dislike/hate you. You can't please everyone, and there's no need to, either. What's more important is: Those people who matter to you, like you and support you. If you don't even have that, you got a prob. Fix yourself then.
5) Thank you. Same to you, I wish you all the best in life too. Feel free to pm if you feel like it, or need to. You seem to be a nice person to know. ^^
& for those who have been following this thread, thank you for the attention (and participation). I'm sure this thread has sparked lots of interesting thoughts and different emotions.

Glad you guys had fun, coz I did. Cheers!  :thumbsup: