Because you never experienced hardcore poor like TS

People who had never starved before will not appreciate the precious of food, for instance

Being raised under extremely unfavorable environment can really drive a person to the extreme end.

You sound like someone who's insecure in relationship and with negative outlook in life. It's common among many people.

Anyway, insecurity is a major problem that most people face in relationship, mostly felt by girls. Worried that their bf/husband will leave her, betray her, then become paranoid and start controlling him.

Not me.

Thirdly, I might be young physically in age, but I went through a lot and accomplished a lot for my age. Have you heard of anyone who did a pioneering research in Malaysia, at age 24 that have high commercial value? Or, becoming a lecturer at age 25? Or, owning a property at age 23? You haven't come across people like this, and judging them by their age & dismissing their claims as "You're still young, so your opinion is flawed" is a logical fallacy.

wah where? this thread is still continuing debating in her "world".

hahaha.

https://mothership.sg/2018/07/louis-vuitton...g-relationship/

What do you girls or women think about this man who bought the LV bag for his GF, a modern day Prince Charming.

Someone who is willing to go the extra mile for his partner.

He is not rich but has drive and ambition influence by his GF.

Hi readers,

I think we usually refer to rich ppl as millionaire (with net worth >= 1M) but not how much he earns within a period of time, cus someone who spend as much as he earns without accumulating any wealth by any means can never be rich, agree?

So is TS' fiancé a rich guy? Well it all depends on how much he inherited from his parents.

So is TS a gold digger? Only TS would know, EG if her fiancé failed in biz later and could never maintain TS upper social lifestyle anymore, will TS marries him ?

To be honest, no women do not prefer average income, if she has better looking, such as Instagram girls, every day eat good foods with wearing a good dress for show off on daily basis... Also, go travel around the world.
I don't think TS was not a gold digger, she has her standard required for a future husband.
Money is secured for women.
Travel to HK, Japan, Taiwan needs to spend more on more money.
If just pass by only not shiok at all.

In my 7 sense, you're female.
You have a diff point of view.

what hobby ur hubby has? collecting branded watch?

Hmm hmm, waste a place to collection huge stuff..

What about collecting all those old money notes.

Look for what's within reach. Not being funny though.

Interesting thread to read.

First and most importantly, congrats to TS for getting engaged!

Next,

IMO I think TS is being crucified because she's improving herself not for it's - the activity - own sake but rather as a means to something else i.e. to attract rich men.

Quoted from the first post:

1) She reads finance and investment topics not for her own benefit but rather so that she "knows what to chat with them, and impress them";
2) Cooking and singing not because she enjoys it but again to not be an "empty vase".
3) Having high earning power not for herself but because "Men find rich/high-earning women attractive too, so be one."
Then she ended it with "
Lastly, love a man not for his money, but for his personality, his character, dreams and ambitions, and earning potential. The truly rich man is one who can lose everything, smile and start all over again, and earn the same pot of gold in a decade or two. Now that is what I call true wealth. "

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Thing is her underlying motive is already attracting "rich men" (however defined whether T20, M40), everything else is secondary so she literally just contradicted that entire conclusion.

All the guys she's listed are rich firstly. Once they've cleared that threshold then only does she looks at the personality, which is why she didn't settle for the the first couple of guys despite them being rich.

Because she identified being an over achieving strong independent woman, I would assume she wouldn't undermine herself by making money her primary concern when seeking a relationship. Also, since we're living in times of gender equality where it's not uncommon for females to earn considerably more than their male counterparts. So why can't the female become the main breadwinner instead of the male and the male becoming the househusband?

She isn't the typical gold digger with all the negative connotation that is attached to the label but she's undoubtedly looking for a man with money making the relationship contractual and transactional fundamentally. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that because she's entitled to her choice.

What people find off-putting, IMO is her stance of marrying someone primarily because of his riches let alone writing a "how to guide". From her tone of writing, I would agree she's an alpha female (being assertive). So why marry for riches if she herself can attain those riches and marry any man she wants, for example someone with a more noble goal who's poorer?

As many has pointed out, a compassionate, hardworking and genuine person won't necessarily be rich.

And I being a single male in my mid 20s hope that her stance isn't representative of the general female population. Although sometimes it does seem the case hence spawning the ever popular saying " Ada Wang Ada Amoi."

I strongly feel that if she worded her title " How to Marry your IDEAL Man" rather than rich, she wouldn't have gotten nearly as much shit.

Just want to ask you on this point. Let say if someone was to work in a public sector due to his believe that he can do more good for the country rather then working in the private sector where he can earn 5x more then his current earnings. Would his principles stands out for for women like yourseld ? Its not like working in the public sector means you are poor but to achieve a satisfactory lifestyle would take ages, usually only in the 50's (before that its more of just "cukup makan"). So do you see young people who are sacrificing their income to contribute to their country or for their principle as something that women like yourself can be attracted to or even willing to sacrifice to be with?

there are many people who willingly relinquish their high earning job and chose to serve the community, need no look further, just look at our MP/DUNs in PH, eg Tony Pua and Rafizi, both are capable to earn more than 5 digits, had they not chose to join the then opposition, but chose to be exposed to risks from getting imprisoned, exposed to the tear gas, went to lockups during previous administration. There are also many capable doctors/engineers/lawyers which chose to serve in public sector, instead of accepting the otherwise lucrative offer in private sector. What are your view on these people?

What are your view on these people?
It is their personal choice.

But, IMO, if you pursue your personal ambition and aspiration without much consideration for your own family needs (and expose them to danger), you are a failure no matter how successful you are outside.

What's the point of having a father who, for example, is an international medical doctor who volunteers his service FT to war-torn countries, when his own wife and children are suffering in the home country? Will you respect such a man?

Err... define rich first. 5 figures is not that difficult nowadays. Can mean anywhere from 10k to 99k. My last year annual was 200+k. Some people say I'm rich but I don't agree. I think I'm average at best.

How high value do you think she can be? Stop putting women a bove your head.