There are decent ladies out there; you obviously found yours


Taiwanese girls are more feminine and obedient la, why bother with Msian bossy and materialistic girls

Share ler wei, I'm really curious but not hardworking enough. Just a link to one of the interviews is good enough

What an interesting thread that garnered 6 pages from last night. Good to hear that the relationship dept is working well

Just wanted to say to TS, I'm a tad bit dissapointed that you couldn't survive SG working culture. Surely such a confident and highly competent Msian could shine in Singapore corporate world

My statement was meant to mess with you, sounds like you took the bait

I've been dealing with Singaporeans and took it out on you, no offense please. The truth is their working culture can be really messed up and so what if we can't survive their style? Msians are into short cuts or finding the best way to do something, we question way too much to their liking

Hey guys and girls, let's take a step back

Is life really so checklist and template based to you? That guys want the hottest girl and girls want the richest guy? If you really think like that, then please skip the rest of my short post.

My point is, life is so much more than that. To me, compatibility is a lot more important; and tolerance too. How do you last a lifetime with just the hottest girl or richest guy; life continue to throw us curveball, all the time.

If I wanted to boast like TS, I'd probably tick most of the boxes if I follow her template (took me great effort to brag like this)
- Looks (okla, not that great) but hey, I've good genes with great skin
- brain - absolutely; consistently rated high performer at work in a very competitive organisation and industry; topics on economy, politics local or international is fine with me; it's usually the guys who can't keep up and give me blank look
- filial to parents - no issue there
- can be a good mum - proven record here
- talented - can cook; interested in personal finance and work out cashflow projections for fren's plan biz ventures can count or not?

Anyway, one more story to tell
So I know this woman, since young she wanted to marry rich because she came from an ok-ish family but wanted more. She chose this guy with family business although he may not be her first choice if $$$ is not a factor. Had a child with him. He tried very hard to please her financially but she's not happy as she has a bad fall out with his family. Without the family wealth, the guy is not good enough for him.
Eventually, they got a divorce, she has to come out to work again. Gotta say she's a resourceful person, even with gaps in her CV and limited years of experience, she managed to climb to 5digit salary in a short time. And guess what, she met a guy who can't provide for her financially, but could meet all her emotional needs. This time round she's mature enough to realise sometimes money is not everything. She's still materialistic, I think nothing can change that about her, but she is now willing to work for it instead of working for a rich husband

My point is, there are more than one way to get what you want. Let's not be so template/checklist based. Life is more interesting than that

Recently I learned (the hard way) that, there's a type of person who genuinely believe that they are perfect, that they can do no wrong but happy to jump out at the first instance to point our your mistakes. When someone try to tell this person anything negative about her, she will just argue back that it's not her fault, or when failed, ignore the negative comments and continue to brag about how perfect she is and how overachieved her whole life is. And you will have to suffer through her same achievement over and over again, since the person is only 30 year old

Sounds familiar?

After much observation, I noticed something else, because the negativity was never accepted and digested; it's parked in somewhere in the body and the body will start to react negatively

My personal take, while ego is not bruised with this method. It hurts your body someway or another. As much as I hate failure, I'd rather deal with it than to keep a ticking time bomb in my body

*This person that I'm talking about is not TS. It's a real person I met in real life unfortunately

I think it has nothing to do with whether you are successful or not. It's more of a sense of insecurity or emotional hollowness. A contented person I believe would not act that way, because they would not feel the need to convince anyone that they are worthy

This post has been edited by Zero Correlation: Jul 20 2018, 05:48 PM

This part I gotta day I salute her. She is very secured with the relationship with her fiancé. This part couldn’t be fake if the story that she met her here is real

Oh hi Mr fiancé, Interesting woman you are engaged to ya 😅

The thread still alive huh?

I actually believe most parts of TS story actually, especially when there’s regular who seem to know her

I really won’t call her gold digger. But I would like her to think about this - you know it’s a controversial topic before you even started it; and yet you expect everyone to worship you and agree with your point of view? A bit unrealistic for a self-proclaimed realistic and practical person don’t you think

When handling disagreements and conflicts, there are many ways, response in the heat at the moment is the worst thing you can do



Now, if only the fiancé let us know his thoughts if this whole drama. are ready to love and cherish this version of your queen?

*im usually not so evil 😈*

P/s: didn’t expect to be classified as T20; probably half the ppl working white collar job in Klang Valley with double income for more than 10 years can qualify that

Completely agree with the bold part, lacks depth too

Tsk tsk tsk, I thought after the hiatus she realise all these "debate" is bad for her image in front of her fiance and will come back milder.
Well, perhaps this is already milder by her definition.

My take on the original question
Yes, there are many roles that you can only contribute meaningfully in the public sector. For example scientists. In commercial sector, they would only be willing to invest in R&D on the mainstream stuffs that are not far from an end product. Would they throw money into a very new idea, answer is unlikely
This is where the gov uni or reseach centres comes in, to nurture some of those ideas that may not in the short term make money, but someone gotta do it. Otherwise we would have no internet today
Another example would be policy making. If we do not have good policy makers; we would be stuck with bad policies that affect our day-to-day life. So if these jobs are too dirty for you or your children, the ppl more inferior than you would be doing them, then don't complain when you have to comply with obscure non-sensical rules

All the TS thinks about is the surface $$ and fame stuffs
The purpose of life and contributing to the society is so much more.
If you look at Azman Mokhtar's send off, are you thinking about the money he won't be earning anymore, or would you be thinking that he must have done something right that his staffs adore him so much
For me it's the latter for sure

This post has been edited by Zero Correlation: Aug 2 2018, 12:22 PM