Hello guys, so recently I just met a girl from tinder and we’re going to have our first date around lunch time in KL,
I was wondering besides having lunch what else can we do?


I heard some said movies is bad for first date as we doesn’t get any interaction.

Can someone suggest some activities and any good restaurant choice?

Btw, I can’t drive, car maintenance 😑

We’re around 20s, my budget can be more than few hundreds

Bring her eat Mamak at Dataran Merdeka
Then go to nearby Museum there

Google YouTube ...date Elizabeth Tan with RM 50

First lunch date more than few hundreds? I suggest not even going over RM50.

This post has been edited by xPrototype: May 1 2018, 03:23 PM

But we're both working person, not students dy, doesn't RM50 sounds a bit stingy?

Good luck bero once she get used to that few hundreds meal on every date.

I understand. But it's just the 1st. If 1st already so heavy, she would expect more on the upcoming dates if there is.

Nothing wrong with testing chemistry in real life over a coffee date.

Maybe we are from different background so there's a difference in opinion.

Anyways just suggesting. Most importantly, do what you feel comfortable and enjoy the date.

maybe less than 100 will do? should be more than enuf. dont regret later if things not going well.

Yeah it is, just spend the few hundred.
nothing wrong if it didn't work out, just treat it as knowing a friend.

few hundreds is abit much for first date. Its true what others said about setting the bar high. You need to manage her expectations well. Not too high (Fine dining) not too low (mamak)

Rm50 per Pax should suffice.

If both of you are from wealthy family then spent away.

Movie date is okay if you ate before or after the movie . use this if both of you havent watch Avengers

Bring her to a place that serve good (not necessarily expensive) food.

Do your research and find out what she likes.

One of the best first date that i recall having - He brought me to an average seafood restaurant that i bet serve the best butter prawn in town - simple as that (He figured out that i like seafood)

But most importantly it's not the place but how everything flows - conversations, connection etc.

Movies on a first date if definitely a no no - how can you get to know a person sitting in the dark not talking for two hours. Waste of time.

That's a good spirit. While you don't have to spend few hundred ringgit on a first date to impress, just don't limit it to RM50 like some of them say. They were just EDIT: joking when they said Mamak

Bring more cash just in case, but a decent lunch in Cafe usually will do the trick. It's more relaxing, the lighting is good and you can both hangout a bit longer if things are going smoothly.

You can easily wrap up the session in cafe for less than RM100

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: May 2 2018, 02:04 PM

shopping mall would be a good choice if you don't drive. try avoid fast food if can.
window shops will get your pretty much interaction with her about what she likes in sense of fashion, food etc. and when tired, get a nice coffee to continue conversation. btw you don't have to spend much to impress someone on the first date. just a thorough preparation in arranging the itinerary will do. and the flow of conversation base on your choice of topic.

I saw someone suggested mamak and u called them a troll?

There are ppl out there who go for interesting dates without having to spend much and girls might find it more attractive that way rather than the usual 'expensive lunch date'.

Mamak date / Coffee date is troller? Okay then I let you be this time. I don't care if you're a moderator. But calling someone a troller just because of budget date is disgusting.

This post has been edited by xPrototype: May 2 2018, 01:29 PM

Sure mamak is more comfortable in shorts and sandals and a more casual environment, but first dates is where both parties want to meet properly, so best to choose a restaurant or cafe.

Cafes are not expensive. Don't want to pay for a meal? Then how about asking her out for tea instead? A coffee/ cup of tea costs say, RM15? 2 cups at RM30. This is below RM50 budget in fact.

Also, there are /k trolls around the section.

Ah edited because don't wanna hurt any feelings my apologies, you're not a troll.

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: May 2 2018, 02:10 PM

Actually a simple date can suffice.

Like going to a tourist attraction eg. Bring a camera and taking her to a tourist attraction, a zoo or something, street art location, etc and once that's done, go over to a mamak or kopitiam. Been there, done that and it works. And yes for a first date.

If a girl finds that cheap, it's good so that the guy would know it earlier the character of that girl.

If the girl finds that interesting, all the better.

This post has been edited by Blofeld: May 2 2018, 02:20 PM

I think materialistic girls show their characters quite easily enough (pretty soon and in time) you don't have to bring her to mamak to test her. In fact, take first dates as making a new friend and trying to get to know someone better. If you mentioned you're going somewhere eg an attraction then mamak, ok that makes sense. However it's really out of the blue to call to meet up for a meal (as a first date) and it's actually mamak.

Note: some girls do tend to put up make-up when they're out and using eye liner is pretty common. You might see them melt under hot air/ outdoor mamak

This post has been edited by sweet_pez: May 2 2018, 02:24 PM

Yeah this, sometimes people have different living standards and going to cafe is actually normal to them girls and to most people. E.g Students of private unis.

Its actually pretty special if you bring a girl to Nobu on the first date on certain definition.
If you ask her to go to a mamak, how would you personally feel?
Proud to bring here there? No right.

This post has been edited by D-Frog: May 2 2018, 07:10 PM

I would suggest a meal at cafe, and then followed up with a coffee session. Like what other forumer had suggested. I think this is the normal approach in working life dating?

Of course during the meal you should get to know her, her background, etc, if you find her interesting, suggest a coffee date for continued conversation.

and please don't watch movie at first date, save it for 3rd or 4th date.

After lunch you can feel free to grab a coffee, dessert around the same area. So do some research on the place before going. I know some cafes offer class to let couple learns about small terrarium. It's an interesting thing to do and I am sure you will have a lot of interaction with her.

Usually sightseeing is good as some suggested going to the zoo, aquarium and street art. You can even rent O-bikes to cycle around the street arts area. If she is someone who happens to like sports, you can go hiking, swimming, or bowling (make sure she doesn't have any manicure on).

Don't plan so hard for first date.

It doesn't have to be a whole day thing or whatsoever.

The purpose of first date especially the gal is from social app, is get to see whether both of you are compatible not behind the phone. And also to verify the person, as in how different that the person look compared to the profile picture.

So, a simple coffee date is fine also actually.. last time I did lunch/dinner plus movie also no issue also ie got second date lah.. but that's really depends on the first date whether got alot of moment of silence or not... So long you can keep the conversation going, a short meet up is good enough.

And even you have seen her before by having video call prior to the date, do some activity instead of having meal lah. This approach is to spend time together only.. lol

I am not sure till which level, on the conversation between two of you in Tinder.
Nevertheless, it is good to set proper expectation to both parties on knowing the existence of chemistry between two of you.

In my case, I met my wife in a cafe located in a mall after office hour.
We had a chat for few hours, and ended with a pleasant impression between us.

As for you, you may want to plan to have 2 to 3 stops of activities in your first date, such as meal > activity > cafe.

Good luck my friend !