if you are so weak and lost, how are you gonna take care and provide for her even if she was yours....?? come on man, there are plenty of fishes in the sea... prioritise your life. she may just turn out to be the wrong one at the end of the day...

Throughout the 6 years, were you guys together?  was it just one sided?

wow! what a tenacity.  it's never going to be easy until you are willing to let go.  you dont depend on someone else to make the decision for you.  you have to make that decision, feel all the hurt you possibly would and then move on.  i can say this because i been through this

whatever it is, i just hope you dont go around looking for comfort / building that coping mechanics by making innocent people fall for you and then you just ditch them so you could just some sort 'revenge' / make a point.

it is not fair for the other person, and it never will.  at the end of the day, you didnt just break the person's heart but you break the faith as well.  and that, is the most horrible thing a person can do.

the accumulated one sided love is about six years, so give yourself a sizeable amount of time to dissolve the feelings gradually.
can't just delete the memory or feelings just like that.

I suppose you were friends with her  for past 6 years. Tried to tell her or told her but she does not feel the same way but you decide to stick around and she allowed you.

Does it sum up your story.

If yes, welcome to the Friendzone..

As a former veteran of the Friendzone, I salute you for sticking around so long.

But I do hope she did not treat you like am ATM or doormat during these 6 years.

So this is what you need to do.

Take a step back and make evaluate your situation.

6 years in and still no progress... Do you really want to invest more time.  If you want, it's your choice.

If you think you are never going to win the her heart then you need to gradually wean yourself from her.

Unfollow her from FB

Go and hang out with your other friends

Try some new things

If all else fails... Just burry yourself with work for next 6 mths and no contact at all with this girl.

Build your self confidence.

Woman do not want men with no self confidence or esteem.

Build your self confidence before trying to woo other girls.

...okay.. One question, did you guys ever dated?

I just try to hate her. It has helped me forget things. Way easier than letting time heal.

Out of curiosity... She has been single for past 6 years?

What feelings u r talking about? What did u guys do to develop feelings?

TS, you're feeling the pain coz of: (1) the hurt from rejection & (2) denying that you still love her.

I was in unrequited love. We were almost there to become lovers, but coz of some misunderstanding (I thought he liked another girl & he thought I didn't like him anymore), we didn't get together. I still loved him though I was in emotional pain. Tried to forget him by going out with different men, or events & gatherings, or substances (drinking alcohol & smoking), but just wouldn't work. Seeing him changing one gf after another over the years and thinking what I was to him...well, maybe I was just a nobody.

Decided to have a closure after 8 years. Asked him out, because my another friend told me he actually had feelings for me. Sadly, he didn't wanna see me. He said he didn't wanna hurt me again, and he didn't love me anymore. We were almost there, but the relationship broke, and we're never the same again, so he said just let go.

Loved him for 8 years till I was 20, then I decided to focus on rebuilding my self-esteem and confidence. I accepted that I still had feelings for him, but I knew I could live happily without being with him.

Been single all my life, thinking I could never love again... till I met my current bf at age 27. He's my first love and first man. I am amazed that I can love again, and love so much more deeply than I once loved that unrequited love. My bf and I are happily together for almost 2 years now. He's the love of my life, and we'll be married soon.

I don't think we can ever forget our unrequited love. 17 years has passed, and I still think of that unrequited love sometimes, looking at his pics with his gf, but it's more of memory and nostalgia, no love feelings or jealousy or anger etc. My bf mentions his ex-gfs sometimes or his first gf, but I'm okay, coz I understand we all have our past, and it's okay to live with it.

Accept that life isn't perfect and no one is perfect either, and you'll be happier. Some things are just not meant to be, and it's okay... as long as we tried.

to get over quickly is to stop giving yourself false hope and know it in the bottom of your heart that over is over. the end. and start focus on something else in your life.

In my case, I held on for two years.

As long as she is around you, you will never be able to let go. You may try to avoid contact, but whenever your eyes made contact with hers, all the feelings that you have tried so hard to bury will erupt to the surface just like a volcano.

So, in my humble opinion, the best course of action is:
1. Recognise the fact that you will never be able to touch someone who never had any feeling for you and give up. There is no Korean drama or fairy tale in real life.
2. Totally cut off any connection with her.

Meanwhile, make effort to build yourself up, physically (gym maybe?) and mentally (work, hobby, part time, whatever just to stop you from thinking about her).

Welcome. Most people will tell you that you can forget someone over time; it's partially true.

However, if you've loved someone deeply before, and then decided to have a closure and let go, the strong feelings and memories will fade slowly over time.

Intensity level will drop from 100% (miss her every second, even dream of her during sleep)
to 70% (miss her every 2-3 days)
to 50% (miss her every 2-3 weeks)
to 20% (miss her every few months)...
then slowly to just less than 5% (only think of her once or twice a year).

You won't completely forget her (unless you have amnesia or some brain damage), and it's okay coz it's part of your past memories.

As the intensity drops, you will have the capacity to love again (either love yourself more, or care for other people, or ready for someone new).

I've been through this phase, so I'm sharing with you. To be honest, I'm actually happy that I didn't get together with that unrequited love, coz many years later, I find out as I change and grow in life, the unrequited love and I are not compatible anymore. I don't like his lifestyle and I disagree with some things he does.

On the other hand, I find out my bf is highly compatible in terms of personality, values, goals etc, and we love each other very much. My bf is like my mentor + best friend + confidant + activity buddy + lover in bed + many more. Had I not decided to move on from this unrequited love, I wouldn't have had met my future hubby who's just so perfect and right for me.

So for you, have the confidence that life will get better as you move on gradually, and fate will bring you the one meant for you. Cheers! 

Actually what I did is the 2 steps above, I did not mean for it to be available options to choose.
If you agree that whenever your eyes made contact with her and your buried feelings will resurface, how to move on if you maintain contact with her?
I never believe you simply can be "just friends" with someone you truly love.

Anyway, I wished her the best and hope that she will meet her right one, said my goodbye and totally cut off connection with her.
Sounds harsh? How to ignore her totally when I said I loved her? Well too bad, when I chased her I do so wholeheartedly, and when I decide to let go I do so wholeheartedly too. I did what I could, she made her choice and I don't look back anymore.

If it's one-sided, and for six years, i wouldn't call that love.

Sounds like an unhealthy obsession.

She ignores you, that's why you still feel like you can do what you want still. If she decides to lead you on and doormat you, do you think it will be the same?

Six years. You don't think that's unhealthy?

I know and understand, r u chinese? If yes then this song for u, one of my favourite song last time, he waited a girl for 6 years also.

https://youtu.be/LTzy8NF3BDo

I waited a girl, from friend till being a couple, but still break up in the end, wasted time to wait her for another 2 years, i have finally found another girl now, might not be someone i love the most, but probably more compatible and happier partner for me

What my friend told me before, u might not marry the one who you love the most, but the one who most suitable - i always belive the right person will appears at the right time

I feel you bro , I'm going through the same thing but not as long.

TS, if you can't handle unrequited love

not sure how you can handle a break up, it would be devastating for you

you need to toughen yourself up

understand that people do feel sad when rejected, we human after all. But 6 years ?

You need to get over with it.

there are some people here in LYN who know me in person, and a few of them may know this story. for you guys and girls out there, y'all know i have a somewhat complicated past.

anyhow, i fell for this girl sometime ago by surprise. spent some time together, but we actually live thousands of miles apart. that last night we were together back then, she asked me if i liked her. i said yes, a lot. she said she liked me back but only half way (dafuq she meant by halfway?).

years have passed and we have lived our own lives, but we contacted each other from time to time but not very often. somehow, i never really forgot about her that i started missing her. realized after all these years i never really gotten over her.

sometime after, she invited me to her wedding.

so, 8 years after we first met, i flew to her place to attend her wedding, to see her family and her husband. somehow, after that wedding, i truly felt it's over. it's not a feeling of loss or defeat, but more like i felt happy for her. that it was time for me to make myself truly happy for myself.

so, TS, i don't know. maybe you may go through an experience that may shake you up, a certain feeling that you need to feel, then maybe - just maybe, you will truly get over her.

lol i don't really have any helpful advice for you. i just wanted to share mine.

stop feeding urself with passed sweet memories of you both . then slowly you will let go of her .

i liked a girl for past 10 years , she's living in UK , she knew i like her all the while , and yet we remained as friends , during this years apart , we did not contact each other , just once a while through whatsapp msges to wish her HBD n all .

during this past 10 years , i been feeding myself with past sweet memories of us during college times , all those sweet moments , i recalled our sweet memories almost every day , just to carry-on the love i had for this girl .

this love is just like a COMA person , u know that person is no longer there , it is just the OXYGEN that carry the life of this person .

Better question to ask if how to grow stronger and focus on your goal.

Besides, someone that's "weak and lost" ain't sexy. Probably that's why it's unrequited.

wow, you love her for 6 years one sided or in a relationship for 6 years.

Did she found out you have a thing for her for the past 6 years? if so after she knew, she said no. What year was that?

Ah I see. I wish you the best in the healing process.