My wedding dinner event completed last week, very successful, me and my wife are very blissful and everything is just nice and perfect

But somehow, someway, there are certain group of people (which i could expect) that will suddenly pop up in your phone messages corner and tell you "i can't attend due to ....blah blah blah"

its fine because forcing people to come is a crime, organize event like this are meant for blessing each other but not cursing each other

So what is the most creative excuses i got during this span of time?
Its actually just 3 days before (not even a week or a month before) where these people come to me (message) and say "NO, count me out"

1st (3 days before, very good friend)
- hey, my son is sick, i don't think i can attend
**excuse me, you can even foresee that your son will sick for 3 days

2nd (3 days before, colleague)
- yo bro, my car broke down la, i think i cannot make it to your dinner
**grab , uber, taxi or can even ask other colleague to fetch what? right?

3rd (2 days before, friend)
- hey, my who who who who passed away, i think cannot la, later you bad luck
**who is your who who who? LOL, she can't even know the relationship

4th (1 day before, good friend)
- yo bro, i am outstation tomorrow, sorry ya
**what else i can say?

5th (3 hours before, good friend)
- hey, my leg is pain, i have to do treatment today, sorry ya
**wow, just pain for today? yesterday no pain?

Finally, most epic one, on the time the wedding held (good friend)
- aiyo, i forgot to tell you, i fly to xxx country already, sorry ya

is it creative? it is so laughable for me

for their seats, sorry, they don't give any angpow, they just assume they are virtually there and support me, so its empty and i have to imagine myself that they are there

sorry bro cant afford for your wedding angpow

your face problem.

they come means they give you face.

they dont come and find excuses means they dont give you face.

Therefore i can conclude is your faceproblem, for them who dont come.

maybe those reasons are legit one le #bersangkabaik

legit or not legit, its fine but does it make sense to you?

just remember these people.. do the same unto them next time...

some also pack 100 for 5 people per family, i accept it also, angpow is just bless tool, not an entrance fees
you shows up and enjoy the moment with me is all i care

that's why i put a hashtag of bersangkabaik there... move on and don't think much on this already and maybe you can directly say no to their invitation in the future.

last time I also hope some people like my ex boss and coligs can come to celebrate my big day but in the end they no choi me at all... from that moment you can see who are your real best / close friends and who are not.

Well you cannot expect people do come to your wedding dinner if they can't even leave because of the issues that they have.

My gf father has no choice but to skip a close colleague wedding last weekend because of his wife (my gf mother) gotten very very ill and keep throwing up everything she eats.

Just let them be since you mentioned that your wedding is very successful. So why bother?

did my post sounded like blaming them? hell no
its the excuses that makes them ugly, people who face REAL problem will have that kind of urgency where they will do things in proper manner but not creating stories
those people that i mentioned in my post are damn active in social media
none of it shown up which is in sync with what they have told...lame
I am still so kind heart-ed and ask people around about their situation, those people who close to them can't even know what is happening to them
so? still...don't want to come just inform me earlier, i don't beg for that stupid angpow OR present as i have earn decent amount of money for living but at least don't waste my seats and food, i would rather donate that empty seated table money to charity

You are earning decent amount of money for living. Why bother?

Since you are so kind hearted, why don't you move on and just dabao those food and give them to the homeless?

maybe your wedding took place at somewhere exclusive. thats why people think better not to go rather than give small ang pow

Send the debt collector to collect on the missing red packets 🤣😂

damn, you are in the point, i did dabao up those food, but not to the homeless but to my neighbours

regarding the bother part, did i? i just share out their creative idea , is this considered as bother?

its fine, i don't force them to come neither if they think angpow is an obstacle for them but at least let me know earlier la, either be busy or blah blah blah but early a bit can or not? not this kind of few days or few hours earlier....

wah, those premium paid to the collector will be even greater than their lousy red packets

later those small gas people post it out got viral and suddenly become public enemy pulak....haha

i am just inspired and impress by their idea...nothing to do with money or hate

There are tons of people giving such reasoning these days, it is a norm already

Just turn it into a prank like a soap drama. Someone unfamiliar acting as debt collector, capturing the expression on their faces would be priceless.

you must be very experience on this
for me, its still looks like an innovative stories

This post has been edited by Wonder Guy: Mar 28 2018, 10:34 AM

I've had an interesting one.

Before the wedding, the guest said he'll come..
On that day, MIA..
After the wedding, asked for our bank account to bank in the angpow..

still, at least your guest have that sense of responsibility for his empty seat

Guilty as charged but did he really bank in the ang pow monies or just ask for shows sake? Not being money faced here, but based on credibility and honor.

What can I say? he never fail to amuse us

Well that I wouldn't know cause we didn't gave him the bank account number

You should have given him to see the end result.

Maybe it's because of my profession. I shoot weddings for living

So I get to see these reasoning and stories thru their phone calls on wedding nights very often. But sadly the dabao culture is not practiced by most. Most of the left over food just went into trash.

LOL.....yeah you get to experience listening to real life drama events unfolding right before you.

Dabao culture only prominent at Malay and Indian weddings. Such a waste of so much left over food.

Malay weddings yes. As for Indians, have to depend on their wealth.

There are some really rich Indian families that I have shot before totally give no damn on those left overs.

Go to other branch of restaurant. My wedding Moon Palace Cheras, he go Moon Palace Puchong

That is clear a case of blurrness.

btw, few days before my wedding, i YC with him to pass him the invitation card at a cafe shop below that moon palace restaurant and told him it was just upstair

Chinese Wedding Dinner .....

The most boring and stressful dinner to attend.

Wish that I am ask ahead whether available to attend instead of passing the card straight to me.

To a good friend ... Is your wedding ... I want to sit together with you to eat, drink, sing and laugh .... not sitting with some strangers. Not not your wedding day of course ... but can be earlier or later.

Sigh.......people these days just impose and invite every tom dick and harry without giving a second thought.

Over the weekend I went to my regular car grooming shop. I saw so many people in the shop, so I thought business was so good. Turns out, one of the customers came to wash and groom his car for his wedding reception that night. After he left, the lead technician told me the story and that the groom actually invited him to attend his wedding dinner reception as well. I just face palmed myself.

Asking ahead normally will have less absentees. People who have confirmed normally will turn up. More work calling up each and everyone but better than those not turning up and a seat allocated.

Empty seats and tables doesnt reflect well on the host.

This post has been edited by mini orchard: Mar 28 2018, 08:38 PM

"Eh? Not next week ah?" - And this guy pulled the same trick twice.

Ur friend who is leg pain sounds legit.
He could have hurt his leg on that day itself so of course lah yesterday not pain.

Some people could be really want to share their happiness with everyone.
Or he could have really consider the technician as his friend but too bad the technician dont see it that way.

Sadly, that might be true. Each to it's own I guess.

I had a friend, sry bro i going lokap for attending bersih

Wah! This one is new and quite entertaining. He knew before hand when he is going to be incarcerated.