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 Slow down or keep trying or move on?[FINAL UPDATE]

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Spawny
post Feb 2 2018, 11:22 AM

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My personal advice, I believe you should hold the pendant for now cause your not officially a couple yet and it will give a wrong impression if you give it. You don't have to ask her to be your gf, just treat her how your treating her, and be intimate with each other.

I don't believe in opinions saying that never confess to a girl, there is nothing wrong saying to a girl that you find her attractive and you like her, its hard to believe but girls like to hear that.

Time is your friend here, if your intimate with each other for a period of time you will notice she will act like your gf even if you didn't ask her to be.

Good Luck
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post Feb 3 2018, 12:25 AM

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QUOTE(SomaCruz89 @ Feb 2 2018, 10:53 PM)
CNY is coming and she says something like if she manages to come back from her hometown (Perak) on time, then she will accompany me to visit my relatives/friends houses...I was quite surprised and never expected this from her though.

Is this a good hint or just another grey hint?  rolleyes.gif
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This is excellent news! If she wants to accompany you and visit your relatives means she wants your family or relatives to be aware of her existence which is a good thing.
I think your heading to the right direction, but need to keep it slow and match her flow biggrin.gif
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post Feb 3 2018, 12:55 PM

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QUOTE(SomaCruz89 @ Feb 3 2018, 11:31 AM)
This morning she suddenly texted me and asked how I will introduce her as when she visits my family. Then I casually and straightforward said as my gf for sure then I ask her the same question back. She was shocked and she said she will introduce me as a friend to her family. I sent her a sad emoji and she responded the same. Then, I said I'm being sincere here and if it's too fast pace then I will follow your pace. She replied back by saying normally she will bring the guy back to see her parents before decide to become life partner. Then I told her i don't seek others' opinion or approval to decide my life partner because I believe in my own evaluation. She said this is her traditional way to involve her parents in big decision and I responded that I will follow her way. She ended this topic by saying this is just a normal chat not hinting you something then I just let it slides and end it.

Introduce as friend first before as boyfriend to parents is normal nowadays?

I definitely need to slow down but for me meeting parents is only when both are official as a couple though...
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Easy to counter this bro, yes you can mention that she is a friend but your dating her for some time now and still getting to know each other.
After meeting the relatives found out what they think about her, if mostly positive let her know about it and she will be glad to hear that.

Like i mention don't say to anyone that she is your gf yet, say your still dating her for now at least let everyone know that your trying to build a relationship.

Don't bring up the conversation about being her gf until she is ready or hinting you on it, if your having a smooth ride now she will naturally be your gf later.



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post Feb 3 2018, 12:58 PM

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QUOTE(TankerGadget Store @ Feb 3 2018, 12:33 PM)
she is hoping to jump ship ... maybe as she is repeating the process of texting someone but to the different person this time (u)... so u also have to prepare for the worst that she might be temporarily using you ...

example : iPhone 7 hilang, so temporarily use u, the iPhone 5
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Bro I think your over exaggerating, depending on the girls age and maturity she will be not be doing stuff with TS if she has second thoughts.
If a guy feels paranoid and insecure all the time that spells disaster.
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post Feb 5 2018, 11:02 AM

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QUOTE(SomaCruz89 @ Feb 4 2018, 12:10 AM)
Just a small update:

She still uncertain about whether I'm the one based on our conversation just now before she sleep.

As usual, she says she scares she will hurt my feeling because I'm being too nice to her and this will make her feel bad if she doesn't reciprocate the same feeling.

She also said because of timing and if she didn't experience past bad relationship/breakup, she would have already accepted my protection and pamper.

I told her let's go for a short getaway trip on March and she agreed and went off to bed.

Timing is off and I should wait the right time then.  rolleyes.gif
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This is exactly what did with my gf as well, have a short gateway to get to know more each other and be more expressive during the trip.
Whether she is uncertain that your the one or not, this is completely normal for girls to think that way as my gf thinks the exact same thing before our gateway.

She just need to be 100% sure cause she just recovered from a breakup, so just be there for her and treat her well and she will fall into you one day.
This is what love feels like smile.gif

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Spawny
post Feb 11 2018, 04:18 PM

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QUOTE(SomaCruz89 @ Feb 11 2018, 08:42 AM)
Yes she still in touch with her previous ex as a friend according to her. Last night, I chatted with her and she said she knew nothing will happen between them and remain as friend at the same time praise her ex is not bad if he willing to change but she won't demand only observe. I told her the only way to let go is you can't erase memories instead accept the truth and move on. She said already accepted and moving on but sometime will miss her ex.
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Damn i the saw update.... there is a big red flag that is noticeable which is having dinner with her ex with a sexy attire? Wtf is wrong with girl is she trying to play mind tricks with you? Now this girl reminds me of my ex and I didn't regret that I dumped her and luckily I found a person I love now.

Final advice......before it breaks your heart please don't play as the kayu tiga or spare tire, her actions is the final nail on the coffin IMHO.

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