Hello, I got a story to tell you guys about my game addiction. I'm turning 20 next year. I'm jobless and a college dropout. I spend way too much time on playing games, like Dota 2, MMO or any online games that has anything to do with socialize. I'm also an introvert which I don't really like to spend my time outside and making friends. I've lost a lot of friends recently due to staying home 24/7 and yeah, I'm at the stage where you depress and full of anxiety. I spend around 17 hours alone on computer, and another 7 hour on my bed. I'm getting skinnier each month and lost appetite all the time. Also I am a heavy smoker, a pack a day, usually U2 or any type of cheap cigarette. Yes! I'm lazy as hell, you could say. I'm never motivated to do something and no will to live. I'm afraid whats going to happen to me for next 5 years. I tried my best applying jobs online, like MauKerja, Jobstreet and etc. I never get a call or a chance for an interview. I always think that I'm so good at playing games until I kept or dreaming playing for esport, which is a very risky move honestly. Without a 2nd plan of career in my life. I might as well be homeless for next 5 year. I can't keep asking for my parents money and should start earning by myself. I'm anak haram for sure man, yikes. I would be grateful for some encouragement and advice on what should I do next, or steps in order for me to get back to my normal human life. I'm very jealous of my other siblings and friends earning their own money without help from their parents.


Hope you guys can understand well what i'm writing, especially the grammar. Sorry!

What are you scare of, I'm turning 30 next year and in the similar situation (except I don't ask for money and I don't smoke.).

I'm in no place to give advice to anyone, but if you got the tiny bit of motivation to work as freelancer, try ask friend or relative see if got anything can help.
Online freelancing & job search is usually very tough due to very high competitive.
Motivation is very hard to come by, I know. I had been sitting here in this condition for over 5 years.

Don't spend on things you absolutely don't need to in this kind of situation, like smoking and alcohol.
The thought of "do i have enough to pay bill this month? do i have enough to eat next week?" is going to be surrounding you all years.
Sooner or later it will turn into anxiety and depression, until you have stable income enough to survive.

I don't even know if I will have money to eat next month, I'm dead, I'm really dead.
Floor 14 soon?
Just being casual about it and pretend nothing wrong in front of people.

This post has been edited by digitalifelesss: Dec 27 2017, 03:51 AM

WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT? both of you guys gotten skinnier by spending hours in front of monitor?!

i must have done something wrong... i spend almost or even more than 12 hours in front of monitor but why my body is growing side ways...

1. QUIT SMOKING!!! in order to curb your financial outflow down, quitting this habit is a must (i mean... it's 20+ per pack mang...). if you spend 1 pack per day (say 20 per pack), 10 days is 200, 1 month (30 days) is 600. the $$ you managed to save by quitting smoke IS YUGE!!! (drops the donald trump act). try coffee!!! you can drink like 5 cups a day and let those caffeine flows into your blood and feel those sudden rush of energy, adrenaline and feel your heart pound faster and faster... until you get side effects like heartburn, sudden panic, nausea, vomit... OMG I NEED TO QUIT COFFEE!!

2. set more than one alarms to wake you up. each alarm should have different volume and the loudest should be place furthest. if an unmotivated dude like me would climb up from bed and turn them off, you should have no issues climbing up from bed to ensure your 3 alarms dun tick people off... (the fury from people whose forced to wake up at 5am, 5:30am and 6am are next to hungry people)

3. try leaving your comfort zone, like going for a 30 minutes to 1 hour walk in the park (ya ya, i know... URGH!!! SUNLIGHT!!! I'M MELTING!!!) and see lengluis "boing boing" while they jog. dun feel like running? then walk!! dun feel like walking? then sit at the bench!! feel bored? then walk more and think of game stuffs other than games like the "boing boing" jogging gurl. sweat yourself out!!!

4. try and involve into something that is more interesting to do like indulge yourself with cardboard crack... oh sweet, sweet MtG.... fyi, like the addictive MtG i mentioned, there would be few open house events where game stores distribute FREE basic starter decks for people to learn the game (and the chance to interact with people). the next open house event is around 14-15 jan 2018 so set that date to visit few card shops near your location that are holding the events. you main goal is to talk to people, being newb in a real life game sometimes is a requirement for people to approach you, just dun get hooked ok?

being introvert isn't a reason to shut yourself down, you need take the initiative and make the 1st move. i found myself shut from the world few years back, then bought a psp and took my 1st leap. the point is to get away from the computer and to find a distraction from the addiction. once you get game (and ciggies) off your addiction you'll be more in control of your life

I'm tiny since young age... probably not eating properly when was kid.
Generally I'm staying around 40kg all time, no changes ever.

At least I'm fine to be outside, but must have a purpose (buying something? fetch someone? lunch?), otherwise I will feel really annoyed.

https://movieweb.com/gaming-disorder-mental...alth-condition/

i feel you

okay take this srsly...

no.1 priority : stop smoking (this is your no.1 problem, and the main reason ur burning cash so fast you wont even have enough for food)

no.2 : what kinda job did you apply? what is your strength aside from gaming, there is always 1 strength you have for society, if you dont, start looking for answers

no.3 : stop staying at home, walk outside, near your house, the nearest office area, why? so that you stop getting your arse stuck to the monitor, so that you maybe by chance see a vacancy, you can walk in for interview, dont be picky, you need income for survival.

you know you are lazy, you are asking for help, the only help for laziness is stop being lazy and take things srsly. if you are not gonna make the first move to get that arse out moving, no point we give you so much advice.

Hi,

First of all, it's good that you realize that you are having issues and want to change. Secondly, I know it's hard to discuss these kinds of issues with other people, since you identify as an introvert. I would know, since I'm also an introvert. It takes a lot of courage to face your fears, and the fear of failure is the one you fear the most.

I went through a similar phase in my younger years. I played a lot of videogames, avoided contact with other people outside of school, preferring the comfort of my own room instead. In those days though, I didn't have Internet access, so it was just really me getting lost in video games instead. But that was enough for me. What was the point of getting involved with others, when I felt so helpless, inferior and weak all the time? It wasn't helping that my grades were also bad. So my parents nagged at me as well. There goes my room privileges, I thought.

I at least graduated high school and university, but it didn't do much to change my outlook on life. I still felt like the sole idiot amongst my siblings, and I was unemployed for almost 24 months after graduation. My parents stopped the nagging, but I still felt miserable. I slowly passed the time playing games and browsing the Internet every other day, just like I have done in the past.

But I realized that I'm no longer happy just playing my video games. Which was odd, since I've always seeked comfort in video games. Then the games didn't matter anymore. My mind went to dark places, which I'm ashamed to admit, almost made me want to end my own life. And I didn't know how to escape that miserable feeling. Today though, I would like to think that I have a good career in IT, doing network infrastructure, which I couldn't have seen myself doing. I surround myself with family and friends, and I've been happy with my life for many, many years.

I'm not a very religious person, so it's not like I suddenly found renewed faith or anything like that. I embraced change, because I wanted my life to have meaning. It wasn't easy though. When I was on my first 2 jobs doing customer support, I already knew I didn't want to spend the rest of my life doing something I didn't enjoy. The hours were long, our customers have no trouble being mean to us, and I hated getting up everyday just to endure the same miserable feeling over and over. This is where I turned my life around.

On my off days, I did self-studying on computer networks, enough so that I can talk comfortably about the subject. My chance came when a close friend of mine asked me if I'm looking for a job, which I said yes to. I got through the interview, just barely, thanks to the self-study I did before that. Then I started my new job, which had a really high learning curve, since this was something that I never studied in depth during my university years.

This story could have ended differently if I stuck to being my old self. The old me would have just moped as usual, getting lost in my problems at work, keeping quiet about it at home too, then quit. And most likely stayed at home and played games again.

I started talking to the people around me. I asked for advice from my team leader, who helped me hone my skills. My partner on the job, who was very good at network, always helped me without complaining. It wasn't just these two though. I also had my manager and my other team mates. After just one year in that job, I realized that I have a knack for doing technical work. And it started with the time I spent working with other people. I am forever indebted to them for helping me find my own voice.

For now, I would say that you do need some life skills or education to kickstart your way. In my case, I entered a program called Graduate Reskilling Scheme, which is meant to prepare graduates for working life. If education is not really your cup of tea, perhaps you can consider learning other things, like cooking, making coffee, or even crafts and arts? Sometimes we don't know our own strengths, until we stumble upon them.

There is no magic to help us get through life. Ironically though, I remember something from Mahou Sensei Negima, which goes something like "A little bit of courage is the true magic". Find your courage to begin your journey to life. More often than not, you'll find that the journey is reward itself.

You can start by working part time.

Try to work as cashier or other customer services to improve your interpersonal skills.

All the best.

Only you can change your life.

Just try to start.

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I also kind of introvert. Even now I like to play video games and watch anime/TV series rather than go out socializing.

But I am glad I have few circle of friend from childhood and high school(even though I am a high school dropout) that like to lepaking, camping, cycling, watch movie, traveling or shit like that la.

Even I reluctant to go, I go for the sake of friendship and try to enjoy it, and even though not always, some of the moment is quite enjoyable.

Just try to mingle, do not afraid to be embarrassing yourself, explain yourself properly, know your bound, that's why it important to build your social skill at the part time work.

Just try and error. Just start.

No amount of advise you seek here, nor from a psychiatrist will help you.

The world doesn't revolve around you and I don't need to sugar coat the situation to you, you are fucked.

If you think that you can spend your young days plating video games and do nothing, and now you suddenly feel like changing and the world reforms around you?

Kid, you have a fkin mountain to climb. Even degree holders have a mountain to climb. Look at the chinese flooding into the country, look at how efficient and how capable they are. Look how AI is going to sweep the floor level employees in the next decade. And imagine your situation now.

The good thing is - you have zero debts. Start there. Start somewhere.

Don't aim for the underachieves, take small steps. Improve your life first. I have been preaching this for some time now, if you cant manage yourself, you cant manage your life, you cant manage your job, you cant manage a team, you cant manage a department, and heck you don't deserve to manage my company.

Wow the last post is kind of harsh

Thing is, 20 is still young, and for you to realize this and write about it now, means you're not too late to adjust and adapt.

baby steps my friend, conquer problems one at a time, you can and will do it