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tinkerbel
post Oct 14 2018, 12:09 AM

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QUOTE(chiahau @ Oct 13 2018, 09:54 PM)
And don't buy her a MYR 20,000 bag along the way if you can't afford it!  biggrin.gif

I think there's a stigma here being established that people are just not willing to date average or less than average individuals while I could say, it's not the case some of the time.
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TBH even if you can afford the RM20k bag U shouldn't be getting it for her, not until I approve. And yes, let's please get back to the topic - when one is in a particular crowd, he'd normally date someone from the same circle (and this usually also means if the fella is poor, he probably wouldn't end up going out with someone from the upper class, etc.) Of course there are exceptions to every rule.

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 13 2018, 11:09 PM)
What if she expect do buy a RM20k bag at least once a year on her birthday, is that alright?
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If she's got such expectations, is it because you've spoilt her along the way, or is she just hoping and expecting? I don't know if it's healthy to have such an expectation?

QUOTE(chiahau @ Oct 13 2018, 11:23 PM)
If you make 30k a month and have no issue dropping that dough, go right ahead  biggrin.gif
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Even at RM30k p/month, I would have an issue dropping that kinda dough; because when one earns that kinda $$ his expenses are probably also high! #Lol So, I shall expect an annual RM20k gift from u? wink.gif

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 13 2018, 11:59 PM)
Oh man...

So what can i do in this situation

She expect something like 20k gift like once a year

Anything is equivalent that precious but doesnt need to spend until 20k?
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What have you done for her to be expecting an annual gift of RM20k?
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post Oct 15 2018, 11:16 AM

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QUOTE(Quazacolt @ Oct 15 2018, 01:57 AM)
Well, it's actually far worse than 30%

However, second part thumbup.gif
That's Mazda's tagline and I never had a Mazda ma

Though truth be told I wanted a Mazda MX 5 (ND), but recond market is rare and during the time I gotten my car they haven't released the facelift that had much improved engine and suspension lol.

Anyways!

Ah well, that's pretty much reality
A guy earning 24k/monthly isn't everywhere, and when there's one, what makes your friend thinking that the guy is ok with her?

If he can get so much money, chances are any amount the girl is earning is the least of his concern. And the reality is, any person's capability and capacity is limited. A high paying girl (or guy) may or may not be a good house wife (or husband)

I'm not saying never/impossible, however the reality is that it will be difficult for your friend, and time waits for no one. Females definitely have it tougher in regards to time.
Still got la
But it definitely isn't my main car and I couldn't afford it being main.
Aiya Iswara windscreen is cheap yes (rm300 to 500 maybe? Or more, but hey)

My other car is about 4k lol
And it's just a stupid glass without any electronics/sensor.

Touch wood, it seems like a very sturdy glass as I've had damn many stone chips (for obvious reasons) and so far the screen still haven't gotten a streak of crack.
notworthy.gif respect bro
And yeah definitely proud of my Iswara (especially after gotten a trophy for a grassroot time attack event with it hehe)
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She ended up with a man faster than I did, and to think I never had such a requirement. Maybe it's time for me to start having that 3x income requirement and see where it leads me? tongue.gif But you are right about what you said - I got fed up arguing with her so I decided to just shut my gap and well whether or not she did end up with someone who earned 3x more, I don't know and can't care less. She's not really a friend la - met her at some party so she's merely an Associate.

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 15 2018, 04:36 AM)
She will be out of my league if continue like this
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You haven't told us why she's demanding such a gift from you? Also, if you're complaining then yes, she's probably out of your league; or well, maybe she's just not the kind of wife you're looking to spend the rest of your live with?
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post Oct 15 2018, 01:05 PM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 15 2018, 12:20 PM)
Because of my sweet talking.
Im regret now

She rmb my words

Thats why she said “i not always ask u to buy, just 1 year 1 time, is it that hard?”
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Ah so here's where the story is developing; it seems like you sweet talked her and made some promises; so who's at fault here? Y make empty promises?
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post Oct 15 2018, 01:29 PM

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QUOTE(chiahau @ Oct 15 2018, 01:22 PM)
Coz it feels cool to promise people a 20k bag when you don't know that it's opening a can of worms  tongue.gif
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Empty promises makes woman fly into rage vmad.gif vmad.gif
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post Oct 15 2018, 01:33 PM

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Can I ask how much U make to promise her a RM20k birthday gift annually?
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post Oct 15 2018, 02:51 PM

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QUOTE(chiahau @ Oct 15 2018, 02:01 PM)
And that’s why women don’t want to settle with man coz they make empty promises.

Nothing to do with wealth or what if you can’t keep your words.
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Exactly! So it's really got nothing to do with all the riches in the world. What's the point of him promising you heaven and earth when all he delivers is ZILCH?
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post Oct 17 2018, 04:19 PM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 16 2018, 02:09 AM)
Your point is to frighten the gf?
I never thought it would lead to this disaster

What should i do? Just ask her to forget about it?
7k-8k
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Y are u making empty promises? Man up, apologise and tell her you really cannot afford it - I've a feeling she probably knows you're all talk but is making life difficult because she wants to see if you'll come through.

QUOTE(chiahau @ Oct 16 2018, 02:51 AM)
Word to the wise, I make  a little more than you and I think 20k gifts are still overkill laugh.gif
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Chanel is coming this Dec right, darling? wink.gif I haven't been a good girl so I deserve it, right? devil.gif

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 16 2018, 11:17 AM)
Ya, when i see the price tag gives me a huge jumpscare, i think i dont care & opt for somewhere less between 5k would do. Then act and tell her sorry i this month really struggling lol
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If the price tag gives you a jump it only means you cannot afford it!

QUOTE(Aztec @ Oct 16 2018, 11:24 AM)
Lol I earn double of what you do and the most expensive thing I bought for my gf was a 3k shoe. Wtf are u doing promising such expensive items "once" a year.  doh.gif

grow up. If u promise something make sure u can follow through on it.
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Ditto! "If you promise something, follow through on it" - do NOT make empty promises.. U heard that Ghostfrog. And stop trying to use $$ to quantify your relationship with the girl. Do you really need to splurge on her to make her stay?

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 16 2018, 10:16 PM)
Then what is the rational amount?
Lols i dont have that much why would i step up that much? If i fail how?
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If you don't have that much then don't even go there! #doh
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post Oct 17 2018, 04:21 PM

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QUOTE(adeline84 @ Oct 17 2018, 12:16 PM)
Well the most important that guy is hardworking loh, if no hardworking ,straight away say gdbye
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Yeah but must also work smart la... I don't want to be going out with a total workaholic who wouldn't have time for me! cry.gif
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post Oct 18 2018, 09:20 PM

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QUOTE(adeline84 @ Oct 17 2018, 04:41 PM)
Well currently our economic is getting worst , if you dont want to suffer ..then sacrifice oo
video call also can wat hehe...
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If he's a workaholic and is working till the wee hours, you'll probably be asleep by the time he can find the time to video call you. Also, it only means work is his #1 priority, I'm not sure if I want to compete with that, amongst the many other things in a man's life? If I'm going to end up always being alone then why not just remain single?

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 17 2018, 06:52 PM)
If i cant means i didnt buy it

So will she leave me? Fml for makig such promise
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You obviously can't afford it if you're making so much noise and complaining about it here, right? Am not sure if she'll leave you because of it - I don't think I would leave a man just cause he didn't buy me a RM20k birthday gift, but him making empty promises, that's a different reason altogether. No matter how I see it, and whichever way, you f-ed up.


QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 17 2018, 09:31 PM)
She has from previous ex but just that wants more as a collection...
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Collection? Diamonds ah? Well maybe she also loves collecting exes?
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post Oct 19 2018, 09:34 AM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 18 2018, 09:42 PM)
She likes to collect handbags those top tier one
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If you disagree with that habit, you shouldn't be fuelling it. I say you just man up, apologise and tell her you're sorry you said things you didn't mean and don't do it ever again. See what her reaction is?
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post Oct 19 2018, 04:17 PM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 19 2018, 12:04 PM)
Ok... prepare for some commotion
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It's going to come but there's always a new dawn smile.gif Good Luck and tell us how it goes.
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post Oct 20 2018, 08:10 AM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 19 2018, 06:09 PM)
Alright
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Out of curiousity, which particular bag is she looking for?
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post Oct 21 2018, 10:04 AM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 20 2018, 11:12 AM)
Chanel
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RM20k for the Chanel sounds like a pretty good buy if it's the Classic Collection; not very expensive ah... #nudges chiahau

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 20 2018, 05:31 PM)
Dont understand why woman use this expensive stuff as a hobby collection?

For me, i only like perfume and pokemon games. But all these will not cost me a bomb like 20k and above.
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You think gaming ain't expensive? You just don't realise it; when you accumulate all the spend, U probably will realise that you've spent quite a bit.

QUOTE(fearless_kiki @ Oct 20 2018, 10:14 PM)
Guys also like expensive toys like cars, gadgets, watches... like catch pokemon lol. Don't blame this as a girls thing.

Why you go court a high maintenance girl in the 1st place? Then blame girl is high maintenance. Hello, this is her lifestyle since you met her. Lagi shake head is that you go make empty promises. Zzzz.... Like go buy BMW tapi expect MyVi maintenance
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Exactly! There's no excuse for you not to know she's "high maintenance".

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 21 2018, 08:17 AM)
So u are saying i shud opt for lower maintenance girl? Well who knows she will turn out to be like this
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No, but there's no reason for you to be making empty promises. So have you already told her you were saying it for fun and that Chanel bag ain't coming? How long have you 2 been together anyways?
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post Oct 22 2018, 11:43 PM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 21 2018, 03:58 PM)
Not yet, because her birthday is 2 months later. So probably wait till few days before her borthday?

Next month will be a year together
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You want to wait till a few days before her birthday? And all this time she thinks you're getting her the Chanel in the end, you're gonna be getting her a Channel instead? You're in BIG trouble dude..
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post Oct 23 2018, 02:57 PM

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QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 23 2018, 12:12 AM)
Tell now?

I worry she will break up with me ... sad.gif

Currently we are on a rough patch cos of my busy schedule, i hardly spend time wif her, i try not to cause any argument
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Hmm... and the outcome won't be the same if you tell her a day before her birthday?
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post Oct 23 2018, 02:59 PM

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QUOTE(chiahau @ Oct 23 2018, 07:44 AM)
And that's why girls won't settle with ANY guys.... PERIOD.

You don't dangle a roast pig in front of her and serve her with a small slice of roasted meat instead.

That's looking for trouble!
She will definitely leave your ass because you can't give her that Chanel.

Not because you can't pay for it. It's because you can't be a man to your word.

Time to move on, bro. Before it's a Hermes.
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Last night at KLCC, Ferragamo shoes RM2.9k & the bag to go along with it RM10k. Girls didn't endorse the colour of the bag #phew

Ghostfrog If she's stopped talking about the birthday gift then maybe got chance.. but you definitely should.. and if it does get brought up, u should just clear the air. She'll be upset but I doubt she'll leave you because of it!

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post Oct 23 2018, 09:23 PM

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I totally agree with both chiahau & Aztec.

GhostFrog Eh forgot to ask.. so how old are u?
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post Oct 24 2018, 09:40 PM

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QUOTE(kaneki @ Oct 23 2018, 10:16 PM)
Yes if she is rich girl dont care about money u just need smart and handsome to get her heart
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Unless she is mega rich, she is always going to care about you having $$

QUOTE(Ghostfrog @ Oct 23 2018, 11:10 PM)
Alright. I will make an excuse. Economy not good, i opt for lower tier brand but its 1k-2k, which is within my budget
24, she 28
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If it's a Chanel that she wants, U think a sorry ass Coach or Michael Kors is going to help ease the whole situation? Oh please... don't... don't even go there! She probably won't even use it to carry her shoes tongue.gif


QUOTE(ViktorJ @ Oct 24 2018, 04:36 AM)
Choosing between BMW 318 or Mercedes Benz A180, entry level Teutonic Luxury Mobiles, while you are having financial problems and talking about RM20k bags?
you were 21/22 in July 2018, but now you are 24 by October 2018. Time flies fast (in your head)
Have problems buying your current gf a (hella) expensive bag because you have ego issues, so now you have to be a gold digger to fund your lifestyle is it?
And I do not even have to bring up the countless 'complain about gf' posts by you. I am afraid to find out if it was all about this same girl or not.

You even have a long ass ranty post about a gf here in Cupid's Corner posted in June.

Take your delusions of grandeur elsewhere you silly troll. Go back to /k where you come from, Ghostfrog.
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You & chiahau absolutely right - seems like TS is trolling us and I'd fallen victim to it sad.gif

 

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