So recently I met a very open minded Chinese/Malay mix girl. Open minded here means that she do eat BKT, char siew rice etc and not a virgin. Basically she is living like a non Muslim life.

I'm a Chinese dude. Since she doesn't practice the intended religion, do you guys think that whether I should start a long relationship with her even to the extend of settling down with her together.

This post has been edited by Odysseus-X: Mar 1 2017, 09:03 PM

hahahahahaha

sabah or sarawak ?

lololololol

Give ppl come credit...

ts, if is for real, is for love, why not....
Not guarantee for marriage ma.

but still curious...need potong?

This post has been edited by taitianhin: Mar 1 2017, 05:52 PM

Orang KL

Depend on how u wnna live ur life for long term

Then I guess u are a Malay?
Really depend on how u can tolerate her lifestyle...

I'm Chinese btw

I wonder why most people like to think ''so far'' without enjoying the moments together

then later, u become abdullah aso..

why not????

BTW I think some Muslim also not virgin before marriage
not just mix Malay/Chinese

lot of ppl practice that way in real life. just u dont know.
thanks to the bolehland law. bring her out from lalalalalalland.

This post has been edited by Zhik: Mar 1 2017, 06:57 PM

the problem is to legally marry her, still need to convert
after convert, you dont want to practice and be like her, that is another story

This post has been edited by mabaw: Mar 1 2017, 09:09 PM

I guess u can try talking to her about the lifestyle u guys wanna get into?
Since she is practically okay with everything I guess...


This post has been edited by Freedom15: Mar 1 2017, 09:36 PM

i personally believe race and religion should not be an issue, but i think you should find out more about the legal stuff as well, how it might impact you.

you may be okay with it but most likely, your future kids will have to be Muslims, and it can influence their lives abit. for example, there are certain things they have to do such as must take pendidikan Islam for major exams (bcos this matter follow IC). last time i know a form 3 kid want to sit for PT3 cannot register for moral and suddenly need to learn PI, even though she was not raised as a muslim. so poor girl was very confused why she need to shift class (and teacher also cannot do anything because that is the law and right thing to do) because the mother did not even tell her about the situation. just sharing this example as it will be good for you to find out more before you get into a serious relationship.

virgin tu ape?

Yet she's down to be together with me without having to be married. Possible?

well, there be pros and cons. for me, marriage is a clear sign that both couple sudah berpunya, and for all the hassle they need to go through, they are less likely to split given that every relationship has its ups and downs. in our society if marriage can split so easily and family is seen as unimportant, things wouldnt be so good for our society as well.

but anyway. its you two personal choice, i'm personally not a fan of the couple but not marrying thing but i think if you two want, you two should have clear goals and expectations of the relationship you want to be together. i have met a friend or two who also dont like the marriage institution, but they seem to know what they want.

also i hope the cohabitation thing wont be a problem bcos she is half malay though, have heard of couples kena kacau by authorities before because for muslims cohabitation is illegal .

Ts still need convert

yea fac ya, why shud follow muslim way while her another half is chinese. mind ur own butt business

Don't confused love with religion...

God loves all human...

Only religious leader care for they own power !

+1

which is why law in Malaysia is shitty

if TS truly love her, marry her else where.

Is she rich?

Try the relationship out, get to know each other more first before think of settling down. I had a mixed gf and thought of settling down but she never thought that far. To be honest, people who are too open-minded do not have the audacity to settle down

In the end still need to convert.

Also when you die, need to buried as Muslim. Your parents okay with it? If okay then go ahead!

u virgin or not ?