I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that

This post has been edited by alexsukri: Jun 8 2016, 12:27 PM

You mean doctorate or practitioner?

What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now

Maybe they all think about the time when she needs to work night shift and they can't meet up?
Or perhaps it's due to the mentality that docs have a different life than non hospital staff.

those men have inferior complex. i dont. date me pls.

In b4 hantaran 100k, a car and at least a house
why? my dotter is a Dr.


joke aside, love known no boundaries

This post has been edited by Sadru: Jun 8 2016, 11:15 AM

Because guys also think for future, long term relationship. some joke but true like below

if a guy doesn't like you because of your occupation, it means he's not into you.

there's nothing wrong to be a doctor, what wrong is some people's perception in this society.

I myself find PhD is nothing much of a concern...
You just research study more on a particular topic...
Medical doctor? Never seen or date one before...
But when they have the money and pretty I think it drills down to attitude...
Heck, I wouldn't mind a bit if my gf or wife is rich and nice...

balls starting to drop when heard doctor title...hahahha...

perhaps you both have been meeting with the wrong type of guys?
perhaps she is not even looking and thus don't have any, perhaps she is waiting for someone like song joong ki
who knows?

to my knowledge, my doctor friends are not so free to keep on trolling forums like you
so that is making a lot of people doubtful of you

Maybe she is dentist or something

And why opening thread is trolling? Yes I HAVE a LIFE outside of hospital

Hi it's me again

Ok, on a serious note now...

Sometimes, people of higher social status (financially, family background, academically and/or career-wise) can UNKNOWINGLY exude an air of arrogance (hey, I'm a doctor/lawyer...hey my dad is Dato whatever...hey I live in Bangsar... ), which turns people off. Perhaps it's due to their upbringing, environment, or network of affiliates.

I myself is a qualified accountant. My usual hangout? An old school kopitiam, talking c*ck with old uncles. Some of them are rich retirees, some of them are big bosses, and some of them are nobody. The conversation can range from about food, the economy, politics, hamsap stuffs, anything, you name it. Swearing is routine, we talk loudly, and some of us sit with one leg on the chair.

Can you mix with people like us? Would u find our conversations and habits offensive? Mind you, we are all decent people with kind heart, not robbers not thieves, not rapists, not corrupt politicians.

But if you ask me to sit down and chat with my colleagues about office rumours, talk about which fancy restaurant is nice, which mall has LV bags etc, I find that uninteresting, please spare me from that.

This post has been edited by Pink Spider: Jun 8 2016, 11:55 AM

Identified the problem, yet keep repeating it. There's a word for that.



Disclosing your salary on the first date, do you consider such meetings as a job interview?



I dunno, doctors are on call for very long hours.



How did he become your boyfriend in the first place, unless he had a different interview process?



The woman who thinks no man is right for her ... is usually left.

If you are always interviewing guys, expect them to earn more than you, be taller than you, and have more status:
you'd better be "better than the competition" ... because HE IS ATTRACTIVE TO MANY OTHER WOMEN TOO.

normally guy will have inferior complex toward their partner but another reason is the girl attitude itself.

Cause I don't earn as much as you.

Doctor wont attracted to me anyway.

no...

not insecure.. maybe you just havent meet the right one...

your prince charming on a white horse is waiting somewhere, sometimes.. don give up..

Ok saje.. im surrounded by doctors and medical practitioners in my social circles and i dont see any problem with that... also most of the female doc friend's i know are long taken. And most of them did not date guys from the same field either

you and your friend perhaps have something beyond your profession that you have to worry about for chasing away potential dates.

Huh? U dated then only ur bf know bout u r doctor?