Hai lowyat members. I 'm new here, I actually just want to use this account to get infos of things but now im interested to make my own post

i think ths is the right place to post this as peple wont know my id

im still a student, second year at a chinese uni
first year i have many friends
then second year i have vry few friends,then on this sem all my friends slowly avoid me

i think i know why, bcos im different with them. one of them actually said im annoying. but actually i just wanna entrtain them by not being so quiet and always advise them to be better lor
ya lor i admit i always say things like old people and advice them to strive for their dream like i always encourage them to speak up n dun be shy

i know they are intro, but i used to be one and i've actually experienced everything myself. many ppl reject me and talk bad about me cause im very shy and never speak. so i just dun want them to end up like me later in work place.
maybe cause my family is very strict, my grandpa know no such thing as intovert, if you dun greet people nicely, you are just plain rude.
so i oso considered by him as a very rude person (no good behaviour) coz last time i was intro

i know im annoying, but i actually want them to be better ony ma

btw they tend to stick with one person as their bestie while i don't have anyone to stick with as bestie, i just go everywhere alone, want to find help oso cannot because my so call friends are not close to me at all, they mostly like to avoid me by not reading my text, whatsapp, or sometimes ignore my call when its urgent

i am that bad that i cannot have friends le..
i sometimes travel alone too, seeing others go wif their friends make me sad for myself

and?

Chinese uni



Fark you la



Get yourself new friends.

you yindian/melei/alien is it? wai jew feel so different?

we all different in k/ actually.

they can get friends, why cant i?

You need a friend?
Pm me.

Stick to fapping okay?

im chinese, i study in chinese uni ma

is ok one, i like to hear ppl's opinion and sharing

coz who are u to teach them when they didnt even ask.

It's because people think u act pro. Nobody likes ppl lidat lol. Even if u have good intentions.

This post has been edited by MustyBalls92: Mar 16 2016, 09:19 PM

wtf is chinese uni??

How about you just go flirting girls( if you are a girl, then flirt boys). You're pain will slowly fade away .
I'm serious.

then fuck it mate. no friends better than having bad friends.

you've got k/

most students n lecturer here chinese, even the uni logo is in chinese writing, you never heard of one?
also it is built by mca lorr

tarp.

If they wanna be introvert, it's their problem lol. You're not their parents.

tarc?

xiamen uni?

I know where is it..
TARUC...
I know how you feel.
Friends are important.
But it's good to be yourself than fake yourself to fit in.
Eventually the right person will come into your life.
Like me.

Ts.


Stop going to school and start joining MLM


Make some real friends

TS so extrovert but no friend topkek

tarc manada logo in chinese..

annoying, pls go away

maybe u smell ler,...

try different soap,.. maybe it can make people luv to smell ur ketiak like the ad do..

really ah?
so bad leh, that means i cannot be myself
what does friends for when i cant be myself around them?

taruc manada uni logo in chinese?

sorry boss. gua london U grad.

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This post has been edited by qazhang: Mar 16 2016, 09:34 PM

not taruc laa
but same type one
i am confused, want to be myself or fake myself.
i m no good actor in real life, i cannot fake myself le

gua stay in cave?

Chill...

Just be yourself...

just imagine some1 keep telling u this kenot that kenot....lik dis better lik dat NG...how will u feel?

most important is be yourself lor......
no point pleasing people
at the end they will backstab you 99

Bro I'll be honest. A LOT OF PEOPLE PUT UP A FAKE PERSONA IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE to get friends. Serious I'm not lying. Up to you if you want to stay alone. Some pipu count school friends as real friends only.

If you want to stay as you are just wish that you find people that think the same way as you do lar.

taruc logo dont hv chinese writing..

If not mistaken... is it New Era College?

im not alpha people will never appoint me as leader
how can they appoint me as leader when they dun like me

ps..
it shud be utar

u mean UTAR

what course?

eerr i suppose you are demonstrating me?
if yes, well im not like that
what i do is when i see my friend want to ask lecturer but too shy, i just tell them ask la, she wont scold you wan lol
or sometimes i share my personal experience, saying hmm ya lor, i remember last time i kena this n dat..i learnt my lesson not to do that weyh

so indirectly i tell them the values they could learn from my experience, of course if you tell them u cannot do this n dat it's very unpleasant la

see got chinese logo right
actualy many oso has the same problem as mine but they dun go here la, they go to utar confession to speak

hehe secret la

which utar u went to? sungai long or kampar??

annoying

really ah
some of my friends are besties with ppl who are being themselves but very bad lah
means like to use ppl, never want to learn, selfish, sometimes two faced (i know bcause they sometimes two face to me, act kind in front of public but to me very arrogant)

i think i have to act like bad lazy stupid person then only i can get maany friends

i go kampar one

Kampar utar nice a? Not very ulu ulu ?

u must be that annoying asshole. even over college so many years already. the conversation that he started already pissed me off.

now is total complete ignore

oh..kampar..such a nice little town..u definitely need some friends to make the most out of it...

oh..if u still cant make friends..try joining those christian fellowship group....they tend to be very friendly..

Exactly. You have to be okay with the stupid shit (according to you) that they do and do it too. lol. Along the way you will find ppl that have the same world view as you if ur lucky.

kampar is a small little nice town...nothing much to do...great for yam cha and go cc at night...

i think nice le bcoz of the lake hehe, but walk in school very far la

Be careful about replying to SadSoul... Just joking...

1. What you can't change is doing/saying things that make you more popular if are not natural at it.
2. What you can change is be more accepting of people around you who might want to be more friendly, so that they can be your friends.
3. "God grant you the wisdom to tell the difference". I'm not religious, I'm just repeating a good line which applies even when you are not religious.

hmm what do you mean? what kind of conversation?

yes ah...
i might want to try next time if i got chance to get new friends

The truth is TS no money. If TS rich, sure will has lots of friends.

friends like me?

ok i will shut up afterwards

but smart conversation, why?
i started it before with few ppl and only one can understand me but she also hates me

i dunno how to socialize, so confuse

try posting in chinese forum.

i am no money but I like to treat friends, example when they birthday, i will buy them cake, make a surprise

but what to do, some people maybe just dun remember others good will n not being thankful, maybe bcause im so annoying that wtv i do, is all wrong

got chinese froum meh?

/K is not your uni counselling room

Also TS, I used to be more...weighty...then after I lost weight due to depression and basketball many girls and people talk to me lol. I'm not kidding haha

Just goes to show face/body problem plays a role also

yes ah..
I'm also ugly n not wearing nice clothes, i think thats why oh

I only stick to those for practicality purposes. I pretty much distanced myself from a couple of "friends".....Idk..I just don't feel happy and actually feel myself when I'm around them even though I know they are not shitty people. theres so much more but yea....

youre so lucky, got many ppl like you
maybe you just like to be alone la, some ppl are like that

yea man. But some things, regardless whether personality good or bad, deserve to be hated. eg. bad hygiene etc. If u have stuff lidat den dun complain when ppl dun want to be your friend.

even if we have good personality, ppl will still dont like us?
i'm so confused worr
cn u pm me what's acceptable and unacceptable ones?

no one likes me la lol.. i give off stay-away-from-me vibes to ppl

> giving a fuck about friends in uni
> not working your ass off

You stupid cunt.

Find new friends

why do you say that?
i do care about my unhappiness by not having a friend but at the same time i dont complain about my study coz i can handle them and like it or not, work is work

lol dun think i have hygiene probs la... i like to believe that im not disgusting.

no waaay
what did you do to make them stay away?
you don't feel lonely sometimes?

inb4 yuxiong

no im not saying that you guys have it

im just saying if one has it, den dun be shocked dun have friends

Aiyaaa no offense

im mysterious lets just say that. id rather deal with my loneliness than forcing myself to be with people who make me feel insecure and useless piece of shit. Life is better for them when im not around.

smells like a tarp with his replies~

u sound like that 'ah boy to man' that nerd always 'geh kiang' wan to be number 1.

hmmm I see

lol lol i dun want to b number 1 laa, just want to get degree and make my parents proud. I dun use ptptn, my parents work hard to pay my tuition fee, so i have to really work hard lor
I just hope i can achieve my dream, that is all

You are annoying

ya, my friends are all agree with you

dont jump 14th floor ya ts..imagine all the pusseh u can get with ur determination.

i actually wanna do that, honestly
not seeking attention, but everyday i struggle to find reason to live and reason to die
more reason to die than reason to live, is very painful

Ppl go uni wan enjoy student life u go and bug them with your mlm kind of story no wonder pipul dun wan fren u lar

Wan help ppl do something make yrself success and work through yr dream first den only advice ppl lar dont just advice advice advice like tok cok sing song only

i said the things I've really been thru for example changing myself from being shy to no more being shy,
to me its a big success, even 3 yrs ago i can never imagine myself out there doing sales and score thousands of ringgit per day, but i did it now

so is it wrong for me to share my joy to others?

must be TARC

Xiamen uni got prc hot chick offer masat serbis yo!

ya lorr, they said it straight to me, and they are serious aabt it cause i think they hate me that much

i think la, i talk like old ppl, cause why else they would say im annoying, many young ppl dun like old ppl cause they like to give advice ma
actually i like old ppl cause their advice is very sincere and they usually have good intention in scolding me i just dun know why many of my friends hate old lecturer cause they are annoying when they all want the best for us

ya la, i am too long no friends ady, i think i have to stop being so desperado

xiamen is very new, sure no student has any kind of problem

should have avoided this thread, tldr

Xiamem no ppl offer masat?

I got a piece of advice, got it from a book I read called "How to talk to Anyone?" by Leil Lowndes. If your problem is with conversation, listen well. If not, still listen well.

When you are having a conversation with a person, make the person talk more than you do.

People like to talk about themselves and have someone to LISTEN and engage in their problems. And then, whatever your response will be, make your response lead to another conversation.

The only way to make sure the conversation continues is to give fucuk and give your full attention to the person. Use the info you LISTENED in your next response.

TLDR; Be a listener in conversations

Because friends are developed by going through ups and downs together. If you keep telling them as if you had experienced shit and this and expect for things to work like some faggot TVB romantic drama you will likely not get the results you expected.

Try taking them to do drugs, cheong raw, smook weed, snatch bags and do arson.... You will surely have many friends.

If ppl run away from you. For sure you are the problem. (Annoying + maybe face problem also)

Go change university now.

perhaps your friends avoiding you cause you speak too much, next time just talk what is necessary, like in lowyat forum, dont post anything that make ppl feel dont want to read. remember this isnt a place to improve your karangan.

Just like talking to your friend, summarize what you going to say in a few sentences, dont "once upon a time. ..." and bullshit for half an hour.

It's good that you not shy anymore. Keep it up. However you have to stop keep talking about the same thing. It really sound like a sales/mlm/dream seller talk. Some even think it as boasting.

Try talk something else. Something fun. Spend more time in /k and you'll see how these ppl Tok cok troll and have fun lol

This post has been edited by Vinci777: Mar 17 2016, 12:30 AM