I guess you already given the solution

I am a father of two, and like most of us, I am working too. I do not earn 20k per month. I finish with my Master and looking forward to PhD (currently preparing my research proposal and IELTS).  Besides all that, I am UN Online Volunteer, supporting a non-profit organisation from Papua New Guinea in their research paper on sustainable development. Of course, I can see my daughter throwing tantrums sometimes, and I believe I am not perfect. But at least, when I am around, in the evening I spent time with my kids gardening and walking. I always travel outstation, Johor, Sarawak, Pahang for work. The weekend is a big no-no for me to work. It is either family time, or if I am rushing on my thesis, I will work on it for a couple of hours. Sometimes, we spent time going to have a walk at the park. In my daily routine (If I am around), normally after dinner, I will prepare my kids to bed, around 9pm, my wife will let my kids sleep and I will continue on my study, personal me-time until 12pm. I try to ensure I get 6hours of sleep daily. Very rare I sleep later than 2am, and honestly, sometimes, it does happen when I did not sleep at all and straight go to the office. But it happens a couple of times. If you are wondering what is my age, I am in my mid-30s. My rule set for my family is - All meals must eat together at the same time, especially dinner. On the weekend, normally I will work on my personal stuff after breakfast with the family. For 2-3 hours after breakfast, I will work on my personal stuff. After lunch, I will spend an hour or two with my kids on their activities. Then continue on with my personal stuff again.

And yes, I do not watch TV (or netflix nowadays). I no longer watch football. You have to sacrifice something. There is never a work-life balance. It is how you juggle in between the load. When you spent time with the kids, you have to do something together with your kids. Drawing, painting, Lego, Playground, heck, I even bought some science puzzles and match them together with my kids. When I am accompanying my kids to bed, I chat with them, asking about their friends, food, schools, etc. At your kids' age, I guess they are entering teenage, getting rebellious. But you should be able to salvage your relationship with them.

I do not know how heavy your workload is, but for me, the work in the office will never end no matter what. No matter how well I perform or spent time on the reports, there will always comment and negative feedback on how they should be written. So, nowadays, I spent more time on my personal goals rather than on the company. After all, the day after I quit/die, the company will have another 100 people queuing up for my position.

Best of luck.

ok, now I see your problem. So, is there anyone in your mind to get married again? Perhaps, if you do not mind; may I suggest:

1) Doing laundry once a week, or every 2-3 days once.
2) Train your kids to help
3) Cut out tuition if it is not helping financially.
4) Meal - perhaps can do some simple meals or train them to help you cook rice. Daily can buy some additional dish. Can cook extra for tomorrow. Or kept in the fridge, tomorrow can fry rice. Housechore wise, maybe once a week cleaning?

I am sorry you have to go through alone, but stay strong. You do not lose interest in many things, it is just that fatigue sets into your mind. Try to have a break. Go to the park with your kids, spend a day on weekend having a walk and breakfast nearby. You may feel refreshed. Or you can join some classes, or clubs, or community service. By speaking to different people, you may feel relieved.

I think you are doing an excellent job as a single dad. back to your initial question, i think it is more of them becoming evil at heart?
I dunno what you mean by that so I cant give you any feedback because i dont understand the full picture.

I would sit them down and bash them up (kidding), but I do believe communication to tell them what they are doing wrong (you as a father to them) and what your children think?

vice versa, are they evil or acting evil because of something/? get their perspective, are they purposely doing that to put you off? i think once you can settle that evil thingy, i think it will be easier for you and them.

If you mean directly near Old Klang Road, I guess it is hard. But if you expand your range to further around Klang Valley, there are many places to go. I do understand financial may be a problem for you, but most of the place with animals charge a small fees such as Zoo Negara, Taman Burung, Taman Rama-Rama or Selangor Fruits Valley (Bestari Jaya). I know an Orchid Nursery at Ulu Yam do have some koi and ducks, but that is primarily for people to buy orchids. If you like dogs, Desa Park City's park, there are fish in the pond and people bring their dogs around. I am sure more dads around can tell you better.

i just wanted to say that it seems you are doing a great job and working hard to ensure your household is running! respect bro.

It does not matter what you do, relatives always look down on you to boast their own ego. Ignore them. Try get those with same mindset together.

How do you measure the lack of response?

how long has this persisted? since kindy? have you spoken to her teachers about how's she doing in class?

how's her interaction with classmates? does she go for extracurricular activities?

got siblings? cousins? how does she interact with them?

i had 7-8 in each kidney. haha. 3 is ok lah. just do the shock treatment thing. will piss blood for a few days though. hopefully got some insurance coverage. if not just keep drinking ural/utix lor. good luck.

I appreciate the feedback. Both of you seem not to get it. I am not an idiot who thinks with his dick and treat women as sex slave.

This has been on going for about 4 years or so. And no - it is not about SEX. Intimacy - holding hands, hugging, watching movies together, discussing things, playing monopoly or something etc etc. Please understand what intimacy actually means.

We've been together for close to 17-18 years now. We've never had such issues before. I do agree and understand pregnancy changed a lot of things. Yet without fail I tell her how beautiful she is, text, voice notes, verbally.

Foot massages - also yes, very frequent except when things are too cold between us.

Despite explaining, the comments are still swerving towards the female. Can no one see it from a male's perspective?

I need advise to be a father. I want to have PIV with my wife but my p*nis does not get hard enough when she is very simulated. Which forum can I use in lowyat to discuss more?