need help from the fathers here....especially chinese fathers

how to choose baby chinese name....not sure where to start....cant ask my parents coz they unable to assist.

To everyone who heard me, and responded to me - a million thanks. I did not have any outlet to share my feelings. Here's an update for everyone.

Things have drastically improved. I guess my patience, and persistence paid off. I feel like I have gotten back the women I loved, and married after almost 5 years. What changed?

I guess my wife finally realised that I was drained, and I am putting in a lot of effort in not only raising our child, but also with the house chores, and in providing for the family. And she was being cold for selfish reasons. She certainly took her time, and we did have a talk - like a proper talk where she finally opened up. The combination of being a career driven women, and then having a child did not sit well with her the last couple of years. However, she has come to realise that she is not only punishing herself, but also those around her.

And of course, I have been putting in more effort than before in being a husband and father. It was not a smooth journey, but it is slowly healing. Our intimacy is there and I appreciate each moment I spend with here, although it is not frequent. I have come to terms that it may not be ideal, but I am glad, and happy to have my wife back, and my family together.

The thing I learned is that, being silent, and not talking nor sharing things nor seeking help makes things worse. My wife has her regrets, but boy are we glad we stuck together. End of the day, child is our priority.

Not sure how many daddies/men have been through this, or going through this. But if you are, just talk to your fellow brothers, siblings, or trusted ones. Do not suffer alone. Society sucks as it says men should not whine, complain or cry. Seriously, screw them. Not all men are a-holes, and these good bros really need a shoulder to lean on at times.

Again, thanks to all who listened, and responded. I truly appreciate your feedback.

Hi all.. not yet a husband and not yet a father but currently engaged and planning to have kids in the future.
I don’t know who to turn to about what I am facing and I hope that sharing it here will help to get some opinions and perspectives…
Whenever I did something wrong (no cheating, could be me not being thoughtful enough, said the wrong things, somehow I’m always at fault and I blame myself), my fiancée will stonewall me.. she will ignore my texts and calls and I will have to go over to her physically to ask her what’s wrong. Usually I can only guess what I did wrong, which meant going through all my actions and words that might have led to the stonewalling.
Even when I’m with her physically to ask what’s wrong, she will continue to stonewall me. She will scroll Facebook on her phone, ignoring my questions and sometimes will tell me that we have nothing to talk about…
What do I do in this situation?
I admit I made some mistakes. I know I’m not perfect and I blame myself every time. I thought that two of us should be able to discuss things out rather than giving me the silent treatment.
And as times go by, these things happen and slowly adds up to the mountain of pain I have deep within me, unable to share how I feel when she does that.. I’m lost.. 😢

Hi everyone, I am a new soon-to-be dad (fingers crossed). We just knew about it yesterday night after we did two tests to confirm.

So much mixed emotions right now, happy, scared, excited etc just named it. I just hope I am ready for the next phase of my life.

Just wanna check with you guys a few things for the next step.

1. Where should i register for the prenatal checkup? Private or gov? (I stay at Jalan Ampang, KL)
2. How do I register if I chose gov? Weekend or weekday better? (online/walk-in?) - I assumed private is much straight forward.
3. Any recommended materials or books I should spent my time to read up?
4. Any life advice for what should I expect during the pregnancy period and maybe also on my next stage of my life?

All replies or recommendations are much appreciated. Thanks a lot

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