Its not that bad lah, I wouldn't say DUMC has gone to the point of corruption and sinful. Its just that they completely neglect fellowship and joyful experience in the church. I just got this gut feeling something is not right going on at the church. But you know, it all starts with good intentions just City Harvest, if no one dares to question, no check and balances, that's when the church starts to get proud.
I acknowledge the need to evangelize and serve. But its not the all in all when it comes to spiritual disciplines of a christian. We need to experience joy in worship and serving. I really hate it, when people say that a person is not experiencing joy, they choose to blame who? The person, and give all sorts of reasons like he is bitter lah, he is sinful lah. This and that. These are just excuses to peel away the need to connect, the need to relate, giving one right to be rude and nasty to one another. Saying that we are just sinners, so we don't have to improve ourselves, we don't have to admit our failures. Of course, there is a limit to admitting failures, we cannot be saying we are wrong all the time, but there are times we are wrong, that's for sure.
But if they go on in this direction of preaching serving over everything else, then they will be doing something worse than stunted growth. Burned out christians ! I see a lot of them. They get disillusioned after serving and giving so much, left the church. Its just sad to see some were there for 10 yrs, 20 yrs, more. Just get their soul sucked, thinking that serving would blessed everything they ever wanted. But its not true. I see people losing jobs, not able to find life partner, not do well in business, feeling empty, divorces, etc. If it is said to be sin, then I agree, to use this one, WE ARE ALL SINNERS. So what's up with that? Just because a person is not blessed its because that person is not working towards it. For instance, how does one find a life partner, if one spends 80% of his or her time after work in ministries? Would you think that someone will find a special someone while serving? Maybe but not all the time. I've seen fellas serving 20 years, and still not find a life partner. Is that because they were punish because of sin? Of course not. Faith without works won't work. If you want to be a doctor, you need to study hard and pass your medical degree. Not serving all day long, praying that you become a doctor when you aren't going to medical school.

Not that bad? But you complaint alot la.
Anyway, I cannot foresee the future so I'm hoping that maybe one day I would like to do mission trip or something. Setup a non profit school for under privileged kids.
Teach them engineering or IT skills, etc..
Well, I got friends who are contented with being single in church. Seems that they enjoyed serving in ministries. Of course I'm just generalizing. We all want to have a life partner at some time of our life. But alas, life is not easy as pie.