Hey guys! Glad to see a thread for LGBT in Lowyat. I'm Fikri. Nice to meet all of you!

Last 2 weeks I've decided to come out to my mom via a phone call. Prior to the phone call I've been avoiding calling her for months because I promised myself the next time I called her I will tell her that I'm gay but I never had the courage to do so. During the conversation I told her I knew she would be disappointed in me because like most parents she wanted all her kids to grow up, get married and have a family. Not to mention she's very religious and has made extremely homophobic comments in the past. But I reassured her I have to come out because I don't want to lie to everyone anymore and most importantly, to myself. I'm already 26 and if I'm not being honest to myself now, I'll probably never will. Towards the end of the conversation, my mom started to understand and hoped that I will take care of myself well. I called my mom a week later and she said she already told the rest of my family.

It felt like a huge burden off my chest and I'm so glad that I was able to do it. Next I hope I will be able to come out to my colleagues and friends.

Mind sharing some of the things that happened? I think it's okay to take some time off from dating because dating in general is overwhelming. For us, however, it is 10x harder.

This post has been edited by internaldisputes: Apr 21 2018, 01:16 PM

I subscribed to this thread so in case there is any replies I'll get alerted.

How are you?

I'm good! Yeah, there isn't a lot of us here. Even if we are out, I don't think many are looking for relationships for whatever reason.

I see. That's great. I need more friends too especially since I'm such an anti-social in real life.

So which part of the abbreviation are you? L, G, B or T? I'm G lol.

Lol sure. Can't say I ever have a lesbian friend before too. How old are you?

Hey, welcome to the thread! I'm in the same boat... I have a crush on the manager of the gym that I frequent. He's very nice and always helps me with my lifting form. He also compliments me on things which makes me so happy sometimes. One day when I finished with my workouts, I said goodbye to him and suddenly he pulled me aside and gave me a card. I asked what it is and he said it is an invitation to his wedding. I was crushed.

I'm pretty straight-acting and I'm thinking of leaving hints like rainbow flag in my social media and piercing my ear or something. I'm super shy and my preferred approach to dating is to wait for guys to fall on my lap instead of actively seeking for them.

Anyway, there is a new Malay insult for gay guys and it is called "kunyit" (turmeric). Not sure how long has it been around but I just recently heard about it.

Pretty hurtful but at the same time kinda funny.

This post has been edited by internaldisputes: Jun 13 2018, 10:19 AM

I was told because turmeric looks like poop and we are known to have anal sex. It's a very creative insult, I have to admit.

When you said he knows you're gay does he said it to your face or he started to act weird around you? It's gonna hurt but I do support your decision if you're going to distance yourself from him. Being in love with colleagues often leads to a mess in the future.

Oh I see.. So you're lesbian right? That's really odd. I think you should talk to her about it... She might be having other personal problems for all we know.

Hi. Thanks... Yeah, I'm pretty lucky judging by my family's reaction but when I came back for Raya last week I can sense them having a bit of reservation. I guess it will take sometime before they completely accept it.

Sorry that it happened. But kudos to you for being firm with your decision. Are you and your partner still together?

I see. All the best! At least they know she exists. So it's not like you have to introduce a stranger or something.

Lots of LGBT issues/controversies appearing lately. I'm pretty upset.

I know right? I feel like the reason people are against LGBT is because they haven't met any LGBT person before. I'm the only LGBT person in my big family and I feel responsible to provide them with the right perspective and all but I don't think I'm good enough to debate with them. I feel really helpless.

My daily quota of homophobic comments is full for today but I can imagine what are written there.

Yeah I was interacting with said forumer but once he said that I realised he is already a lost cause and I shouldn't waste anymore energy trying to reel in.

In an era when overpopulation is a widespread problem shouldn't the society be embracing us more?

Police raid Malaysian gay bar to ‘stop the spread of LGBT culture in society’
Source: https://www.msn.com/en-my/news/world/police...6zI3?li=BBr8Hnu

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They start raiding LGBT establishments now.

This post has been edited by internaldisputes: Aug 20 2018, 01:25 PM

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/as...s-a8520751.html

First public caning of lesbians in Malaysia... This is disheartening. Our community is definitely in danger now.

https://www.nst.com.my/news/nation/2018/09/...-mahathir-nsttv

PM disagreed with the caning.

https://www.malaymail.com/s/1670012/after-b...r-more-gay-club

All it takes to raid a gay club is filing a complaint to the authorities and they will round our people up.