I guess a lot of girls here are sticking to their own female perspectives and refuse to see things from the guy's point of view. In other words - selfish.

For a guy to be rejected by his gal, is a painful blow. It is only natural for a guy to feel unloved because unlike girls, sex to guys is an important thing and most guys see it as a method of expressing love. Similarly, when a guy is rejected, most of the time the guy will see this as a form of love rejection, and will be hurt because of this.

Not that this behavior is right or wrong. It is simply the way an average joe perceives sex in a relationship. Now before you scramble for the moral high ground, think about this for a moment - a healthy sex life has been proven again and again in various researches to be one of the important factors in sustaining a marriage. While the guy in this scenario can be blamed for taking the wrong signals from the rejection, the girl should also shoulder the blame for refusing to find a way to make things work.

Pain can be averted by various means - lubricants, better foreplay, and even sexual therapy. It depends on how much the girl understands the guy's needs and how far the girl is willing to satisfy the guy's needs. To say that she wants to refrain from sex just because she is afraid of it is plain selfish.

So the verdict here is, don't get married. The guy doesn't know how to communicate, and the girl is too selfish to develop a relationship of mutual satisfaction. So this relationship is doomed from the start.