Hi everyone

So my mom was diagnosed with mucus pass in the ovaries during 1st week of july 2p15
Took her to the hospital, HUKM/UKM at selangor
and clean the stomach from the mucus pass and removed the "exploded" ovary(total of 2 surgeries)
Rested in the hospital for 1 week
And was sent home to rest for 3 week while waiting for the report on the medical research of the ovray to detect any cancer
Good news is that there's none
Bad new.....

After 3 week, near the 1st week of August
My mom felt a pain in the stomach
And she drive to the hospital @ Pantai for check up
And my dad got a call from her asking him to visit her

So he bring me and my sibling to visit her to know what happened
And my mom was looking dreadful, face green, weak body
My aunts visited
And the doctor said she need to undergo surgery ASAP
My aunt asked why(i wss at home while they stayed back)
The doctor does not gave a solid reason
And while my mom was resting
One of the nurses was talking about packages promotion on surgeries (WTF man? Patient ady sakit kuat kuat lagi bagi promo?l
My aunt just scolded her and hurriedly sent my mom back to ukm

And ukm checked and they feared that it might be cancer and started surgeries(3rd surgeries)
And is was cancer, Colon cancer / bowel cancer (sorry got mixed up, gonna reread the report when i get my hand on it)

The doctor removed the entire big intestine and make a hole on her stomach and put the small intestine as a new excretion system with a donut bag(a bag with a hole that shaped like a donut for the small intestine to excrete)

And after a month, my mom lost 30kg in a span of 2 month
But she been eating healthy(fish, rice, white noodles, vege, acidic fruit[lemon & orange from what i saw])
and we received the report
And the doctor suggested doing chemotherapy

But with my mom condition of losing body fats, 4 pint of blood lost during the surgeries, and she has a bad case of depression/lack of moods

I honestly don't think she should take chemotherapy

But i don't know what else to do to help her
Anyone know what else to do beside doing chemotherapy?
I heard the sideeffect is terrible and dangerous
Anyone has these kind of experience?
I feel really insecure and helpless and worried about my mom mental well being.

Sorry for the long posts
Just thought it best to write out everything incase of specific information needed :sweats:

Thanks everyone for the advice
Just posted two days ago
Never though it'll get so many views 😱
I'll try to reply to everyone ASAP

Thank god today is break day 😂
And thank you for the advice !
Please give me sometime to reply OTL......

Thank you 😆
I hope so too
Mesti mao powderful dalam masa ni 😂

Ya, i underatand what you mean
Not only the physical that matter
But the emotional as well

The first week of her surgeries
She none stop scolding and having a bad mood(as bad as girls during menstruation 😂)
But we tried to tahan it
And try to take care of her wellbeing

At first we don't allow anyone to visit her
As it might be tiring her
But we allow people visit her later on
As it lighten her mood
Still scolding but at least there's someone to "pei" her
Someone to talk and entertain her
Instead of her dwelling in negative thoughts(whom she very good at)

Your wife and my mom same same 😂

The most difficult part was not the medication(as of now)
But her emotional wellbeing

And i read that your emotions has a part in your immune system
If too negative, you immune system might work worse(sorry, hard to explain this but i hope you get the point)

But for now we're deciding whether to allow her for chemotherapy
We worried it's too much for her body

But thanks for your experience of your wife's chemotherapy
May i know what chemotherapy method did the doctor used on your wife?
And how's your wife if i may ask
Ignore if you want as it's a personal question

Thanks for the advice and in depths experience! o7o☆

Yes, we're being precautions on her eating
Though she sometime steal a snack
But luckily she stopped stealing some,
Maybe she begin to have bit of hope?
Idk, I'm still worried about her mental state as she tends to overthing and thinking about the worst case

I'll try to google more on natural therapy !

Alrifht I'll search on metformin
Currently she's eating mainly white rice, white mee, home cooked fishes, vegetable and yesterday just brought her a plastic bag filled with oranges and lemon

We tried avoiding oliy food
Or tried to reduce the oil consumption(home cook)
But is coconut oil and virgin olive oil ok?

We're worried that the oil might "stick" onto her intestine and dirty the intestine

We use asian style 😂
We done almost all you stated
And it's working
Or at least body fats starting to increase 😆

Hii icehart
Thanks for reply and comment on my post
Sees your name almost every post 😂

The doctor have to chop it off due to the cancer grow too large in it; about 8 cm?

We currently tried to avoid chemo
Due to being low rate of success rate and/due to
The weakening of the body and killing the healthy cells(not all, but worried might be more than the targeted cells)

Now her diet consists of mainly vegetable and fish as only meat source

Thank for the vid (òuó☆)

At times like this i regretted not studying biology during SPM :cried:

hi janson
my condolence to your mother
i know how it felt when seeing your mom in that state
it's really scary as you might not know when

the fear of the unknown

when i heard it was cancer,
instantly i thought of the worst case scenario
just keep crying n just wanting to bang my entire head onto a wall
hoping it just a joke
or a dream(once i literally dreamed it, cold sweat and too scarred to went back to sleep)

it's scary having this thought
everytime i see my mom,
i felt happy and scared
and when i bid her goodbyes
i just have to hold it in
not to cry in front of her
but eventually i cried lol

but i really admire how strong you are

and will do

is herbal life suitable for a cancerous body ?
cause i had a classmate whom drink that before
he gotten skinnier
but once he reached his desire body weight
he fat up again(even though he keep his exercise and eating)

what chemotherapy did she went through?

arigato / thank you/ terima kasih

i agree on the chemo is harming your body

Quotes from wiki

"Hyperthermia therapy is a type of medical treatment in which body tissue is exposed to slightly higher temperatures to damage and kill cancer cells or to make cancer cells more sensitive to the effects of radiation and certain anti-cancer drugs. Techniques that may bring local tissues to quite high temperatures"

"Radiation therapy is commonly applied to the cancerous tumor because of its ability to control cell growth. Ionizing radiation works by damaging the DNA of cancerous tissue leading to cellular death."

and it's side effect ( the picture)


maybe one day my mom might do chemo
cause i think it's inevitable

but only maybe after her body get stronger
and her mentality is more positive

and from what i heard
the doctor has to cut the large intestine due to the cancer grow into a shape of a crab without it's legs
it grew go big that it jammed the large intestine


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i heard many cancer stories over this 3 month
and here's my thought on chemo

chemo is good to some people
while it's bad to some

it burn and kill cells regardless of good or bad

some became cancer free
but some was fatally wounded

so it's kinda hard to say "Without chemo, confirm die"

but thank for you viewpoint
i think chemo is good
but maybe not at this time where her body is horribly weak

and thanks for the heads up on the age 50 precancerous

will ask on her next check up
which is around nov and when she going back to my house

Thank you for the advice /
and thanks for the wishes

okiee

i'll ask on her next check up which is around nov

and is not that we're avoiding chemo
but ya actually we are but it's because having 3 surgeries + massive loss of body fats + bad mentality
we decided to no chemo first
until it seem ok to proceed

that was the biggest mistake that me and my relative took
we were so worried and scared that we forgotten her mentality/emotional needs
honestly, i felt like shit that it took me 2 month to realize that
but now i tried to listen and understand her more openly :>


that's good to hear !!
and chemo sound ok :I
but the radiotherapy give me some worried
what dietary did your wife have? :B

hmm
betul pun~
i'll ask that on the next check up

time to studies l

*sign* trust issues



THIS IS WHAT I MEANT ABOUT CHEMOTHERAPY

my mom lifestyle b4 cancer
coffee x 2 pack + cigarette + lack of sleep + over stressed + lack of appetites + stubborn to check up