Hi all, I'm not fluent in bm.. id like to know if its ok for a girl/female to call her bf "sayang"? I know wives use the word "abang" but we're not married. Or maybe there's other malay terms to use.. affectionate ways to call him?

And what is the difference between "sangat" and "banyak"
saya rindu awak sangat OR saya rindu awak banyak?
which term is sweeter?

He also said that he wants me "manja" what does that mean specifically? any examples?

Thank you

i not want to kepo but, are you Chinese and your bf is Malay, hence the manja manja thing???

and none answering. LOL

calling bf or gf as sayang pretty much normal nowdays. alot of women still use the word sayang tho. u can use darling, or nickname.

rindu sangat = really miss u

rindu banyak = miss u alot

kinda like that. he wants u to be manja2 with him. he wants u to be clingy or acted cute with him. pretty much it.


to be honest, if u going too deep and thinking about marriage. be prepared. be really prepared.

Thank you uzer85 for answering. Much appreciated!

I was simply asking some questions & I don't know why some people want to make a problem of this. Is it wrong to be in a relationship with someone of different religion? -itekderp

Be prepared? for converting to islam?

lol don't angry, but does he treat you nicely??

i not want to discriminate, but according to meleis female friends,most of them considered dating Chinese or Indian guy rather than Malay, because they say Malay guy don't know how to treat them well.....

This post has been edited by Kanan Jarrus: Jul 4 2015, 05:49 PM

Oh I was angry at u or your comment. I was referring to someone else.
He does treat me nice... really good. I actually find that malay guys are more caring & sensitive than Chinese.. but diff people have diff preferences.

lol at the bolded part, anyway forget that...

i see, good for you then. because my meleis friends said based in their bad experience with meleis guys, but you lucky to find a nice one.. did you both have a relationship for more than a year already??

if you feel comfortable with your relationship, then by all means, go ahead with it. not many people can maintain an interracial relationships because of society pressures and so on, but lol just do what you want and mist important of all, no matter what you do, be it in relationship, work or studies, make sure you choose the right path and never regret about it

This post has been edited by Kanan Jarrus: Jul 4 2015, 10:40 PM

Nothing wrong if you want to date outside your own race. But I honestly believe you should date with the same race. It would be easier to date one who UNDERSTAND you. Your own CULTUREs and Religious.

I think your your Chinese boy just concern bout you. You might having trouble with him especially Religious part.

How really deep your relationship with him? If you really commit with this relationship and both of your parent ok if it, just go for it.

This post has been edited by TengkuHaadi: Jul 4 2015, 11:08 PM

It isn't a problem, assuming you understand what you're getting into and agree to it. Are you? It's kind of boring yeah, but sometimes you have to be practical especially with what the other posters are deducing. There are some mistakes we can't undo.

sangat = very
banyak = a lot, as in a quantity you can count.

korean girl once said this to be bofore she graduate

"Saya cinta awak"

imagine how good will your offspring look
yea... shouldn't be a taboo for dating out of your race... we are Malaysian
come on...

i have a Malay friend happily married to a chinese girl... i was their driver during the wedding
they are still a wonderful couple... happy as ever

This post has been edited by BRC: Jul 8 2015, 12:46 AM

Ini Malaysia lah bro , multicultural society since the day we were born . Its a pity if we really dont understand the culture and religion of our fellow msias.
Honestly if its not compulsory to convert , we could have alot of interracial marriage in this country .