Is it normal that a guy suddenly kiss a girl but still haven't confess his feelings. I have no idea..

On the first date, we just had dinner and movie.
2nd date, he begin to hold my hand while shopping.
3rd date, he kiss me in the car

What do u think?

he treat u friend only...u think too much.

TS:
I'm a guy..i think he treats you as friend only too...don't think so much.

What's all this confess confess? Seriously. Actions speak louder than words.

This.

TS do you randomly kiss another person without feeling? Lol

on the 4th date, he will invite you to his house for coffee and ice cream with warm barley

be careful if you're not ready - don;t want headline news the next day

This post has been edited by cfa28: Feb 5 2015, 09:12 AM

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TS, you allow him to hold your hand and kiss you and you are waiting for him to confess? If you don't want him, then don't let him do those things in the first place.

you let him hold your hand already... action already shows it TS

TS want a verbal confession only can declared official..... Action doesnt represent confession for certain people

Obviously TS likes him, and anticipating for the confess...

+3

The guy should publish their relationship on the news then.

Or TS can always start with the whole confessing thing as well. Who says it must always be the guy who confess first?

wow...that guy got some "speed", kind of early for a kiss and hand holding don't u think?i mean atleast he should ask for yr "permission", i won't kiss and hold a girl's hand that i just dated...i respect all boys and girls, we all have our pride right?

Hahaha.. this confession been brought from ancient where always guy must confess while gal waiting....

Until now i still dont understand why gal cannot confess first.......

This makes me lol'ed so hard. Seriously?

Anyway, if the chemistry at that moment is right, actions could do more than words.

3rd date already kiss? n u let him?

most probably kena t-n-g

Looks like the guy has read 'The System' by Doc Love. He played his cards right alright. Rather than getting friendzoned and heartbroken after playing doormat, he has TS on the hook already. Here is a good lesson and example to all you guys out there. Like Doc Love says, there is no truth but truth in the system brother!

So we shd assume that u are not rejecting him and have some feelings on him? By the way, u shd reject him for these "couple actions" to protect urself.

Quite agree

No confess = not official = no commitment

Ntg lose as a guy to kiss u n hold ur hand. Always girl rugi 1 from these physical contact. If he ia serious, he sure will confess coz he respect u.

and guys..this is an example of a whiteknight foreveralone.

if the situation is good, just take the action. girls will never reject if they feel its the right time. maybe after that at night she will think and regret...but usually never at the point of the moment..

better than asking permission like a DB and looking all noobie. normally i kiss the girls i got out with after 3 dates. if she rejects, den bagi ayat manis sikit. basically they are not scared of kissin but just scared of the impression the guy will think of her. if got alcohol involved, sometimes first date also can sapu like one of the tinder girls i was out with.

asking permission is so high school dude. the only confession u need to do is when u wanna marry her.

could i atleast tell her that i love her before kiss her?different people has different play style, my style is i respect the girl i dated, if we are now bf and gf, then we can kiss and holding hand like other couple does

do you tell out loud that you're hungry before eating? lol. sometimes its better if you said nothing at all. let action dictate the situation. ofcoz some girls are old school but most girls love the thrill of things suddenly happening. if the girl likes you, she will agree to kiss you without u even mentioning a word. if a girl doesnt like you, u tink ur iloveyou words will change her decision? haha... play the game well bro...

I know a girl who kisses but says got no feeling also, because a kiss has no meaning nor value to her, used as a non-verbal message for the guy to step up his game.

If a kiss means something to you, and nothing to him, reject further kisses from him. No need to crack your brains about it.

He is taking the initiative. If you reciprocate, he will get the msg.
Confession of love isn't necessary, sometimes it is unspoken.

Yes, I tell the whole world Im hungry before I start eating, and it's really giving me more appetite and love towards the food Im going to eat.

then go confirm with him la by saying : u like me ma ?

FIRST OF ALL

What kiss he give you inside car?

Cheek kiss or french kiss

You could land yourself in the friendzone if you do that for long term.

French kiss.. but I avoided him after that coz I saw someone looking at us

if no feeling him, just tell him straight... let him know what u think about him...
if u got feel for him, just don't go too fast. not sure if he just want to "taste" of u..

bu the way , how long u know him ady?? 3rd date Kissing liao...

so 4th date u will go hotel with him?
he is not even ur bf yet but u let him hold n kiss u?
learn how to protect yourself.

I already knew him about 4 years (seldom meet) but just recently we meet up again... All these years, he tried to chat with me but I have been ignoring him coz of my studies. Just recently, he asked me out after I back from overseas

This post has been edited by mckyminnie: Feb 5 2015, 01:52 PM

4th date, he will be in ur bed.
..and he will still not confess to u yet.



ask him lar...wad he really feel or want.
mana tau he really treat u as fren aje? or sex buddy?
also u also need to learn to judge whether u can trust him or not...

Just take care of urself lah....... think before u speaks or act...

kiss liau need to confess?
next time ask him.. y he kiss u

LEL

Deep's got a point, this ain't high school no more. When your opponents have seen the same moves over and over again, it gets boring. Plus skipping these unnecessary steps allows you to speed through the whole woo-ing process, and get to the main point much faster - which is whether you two are compatible.

Pretty sure you've heard plenty "I chased for 2 years but we broke up after 3 months" stories, stop being the main character, be the next guy.

ive been into countless rships la bro.. more than 10.. i now how it works.. my final rship also started with me piaping her without any confession.. from there feelings develop and we became an item thru paham2 method.. we learn tru mistakes. but i still havent mastered the art of maintaining a rship past the 3yr duration

all this iloveyou uloveme confession very noob. iloveu uloveme shud come after the initial flirting stage, not at the start. haha..

Relationships are like gambling though. You get worse at it with experience.

Couldn't agree more. How much does one even know the other enough to love them just by a few dates or even a few short weeks? Chemistry yes, sparks yes, love - NO. Funny how the girls craves to be lied to, and the boys gladly grants their wishes.

The way I see it, TS is gonna get an invitation to a game of bedminton sooner than she thought. (just like your last relationship)

TS, prepare yourself. Ready your answer as to whether you wanna stand your ground or go for a friendly match. Please don't base your answer off whatever confession you plan to get out of him, it will only make his job easier. Slow down when you feel uncomfortable, it's a mutual thing. Sometimes guys make advances expecting a guard, and feels weird when the gates are open.

When a house has no alarm system, no fences, doors unlocked, the only logical thing for the burglar to assume is that it's not worth getting into. Should nature calls, he'll take a leak before leaving.

Do remember though, we enjoy poisoning the dog, prying the fences and hacking the alarm system. But nobody likes houses with a football field as their lawn.

This post has been edited by KingDamo: Feb 5 2015, 03:12 PM

its quite normal for a guy if u let them do that to you...

so TS u allowed him to do it to you right ?

are you fond of him ?

if not u better clear up the dust or it will be quite complicated later for u

look like TS macan tak pasti or have true feeling toward the guy??
if like that consider molest liao.
go report pulis.

hahaha. well that was my stories too. mine one was even greater. she rejected me flatly. Until i forced a french kiss she become my gf and today my wife. All happen in a month after i known her.

Actions does speak louder. So your case is not strange at all. Now it is up to you to accept it or not. but do make it clear to him either you like it or not.

Mine, she just clicked at the moment i force the kiss.

not worse but with every failed rship, u become even more heartless... eventually u just wont have trust on anyone or the institution of rship anymore.

Remember everything comes fast, end fast. If you so fast give in everything to him, the sooner you gonna regret.

-Just a piece of advise

TS, what do you have to lose if he is a good kisser? =D
Just enjoy the moment. Not many men has the courage to venture into PDA and not feel uneasy about it.

Some people wants to have it said out loud. Even break ups!

Is that why it's called the 4th base because of 4th dates?

Is that speaking from your experience?

When the same shit hit you twice. You will say "Not again!" and probably moves on faster.
It's not really heartless. You still do all the crazy stuff that gives you butterflies and fall in love flat on your nose.
It's just less emotionally invested over some spilled milk. You get back in the game sooner.

even now im talking to a few chickz.. not a problem actually. still interesting but gettin into a rship, now ill think twice. u try for 10..ull hit atleast 6 with 3 rejections and 1 maybe type..

but the feeling of being in love etc really has been soured. now its like apa2 jadi means jadi la... no emotional attachment in terms of love..but the thrill of flirting ada kot...

why u let ppl hold ur hand at the sec time?
for i wont going so easy on ppl lor
i sure slap him back gao gao
i guess the 4th time = on the bed time

next go hotel sleep together, then tomorrow still ask whether he love me or not coz he haven't confess yet

Lol someone been watching too many taiwanese or korean dramas. 3 dates only kiss? TS may want to check the guy's testosterone level.

hes already treating you as gf

if you dont want to engage into the relationship then tell him

if you wan to continue den ask him whats the relationship now

I agree with this.... Dont have to wait for confession.. All these confessing just creating unnessary pressure and tense in the initial of a relationship.

ts have low eq? i mean what kind of girl doesnt get what is happening?

i bet shes underage. prolly still in secondary school...

she mentioned 7 years not in a relationship, and the last time was in high school. so i am guessing ts is probably at least above 25

Actually, why would anyone wants to "officially" get into relationship if you already have the all benefits of relationship from multiple female companions?

its about the exclusivity which will eventually lead to marriage for a guy at my age.

And what good does this exclusivity do you?

on the 4th, he will try to touch and
on the 5th date, he will ask for 'IT'.

tell you what, try disallow all physical contact and see if he still interested in dating you or he is all lust..

Girls like emotional feelings without physical commitments
Guys like physical feelings without emotional commitments
Get the idea?

Do u feel good after this kiss? if yes then whats the problem?

Da hell. Confession is important as it's a sign or respect towards the person.

What if he/she doesn't feel the same to what you feel to him/her and you have already taken the "advantages" of him/her so quickly without even asking for the permission, in here it's the confession" part.

Confession is like asking for his/her permission in my opinion, even worse the other part would be feeling ashamed of what you did and if the person is a mama boy/girl , then everything will turn into worse.

Just my 2 cents.

- Old School Boy