do we have such a place in this part of the lowyat.net forums?

if not ...

let there be light!

errr i mean tered!


experienced gamer dads:
Darkz01
ChcGamer



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This post has been edited by Deimos Tel`Arin: Jan 27 2015, 11:29 AM

summoning gamer dads that i know of.

Darkz01
ik3da
Highmax ?
talexeh

before dad hood,
last game i actually played on my home pc is ...
hunie pop!

after my princess spawned few days ago, i have not really played any games in my home pc ... well, i did manage to play a few founds of hunie pop on my net book while still in the maternity ward room accompanying my wife ...

wah 4am still not yet sleep ah

reporting in lol...
2 kids (4 and 3 years old boys)
and 1 is on the way (next month, this 1 i think is girl because yesterday scan still cannot see itu burung lol)

also...
congratz unker deimos...

1st few months baby came out its hard to find time to play any games...
still can play games but only on the light one...
MMO or competitive online is a big no...
when my son came out...
that was the time i retired from TF2...

once the baby sleep time more teratur then you will get the time to play...
but dont expect to have the same many hours you poured into games before lol...
previously i can finish any games within 2-3 days...
now 1 games would take 2-4 weeks depending on the game storyline...
and expect more backlogs lol...

most of my friends stop playing games after their son/daughter came out...
reason cant find quality times to play games so they have to abandon that hobby...
but some of them still continuing play games like me...
some even manage to continue where they left off in MMO or competitive online...
for me i left MMO for good...
but for competitive online i seldom play it as sometimes i need to afk...
like last night play grid autosport online...
was in top 5 among other players...
but at the end result i finished last because i was away for a moment while racing lol...

best time to play is when the baby/kid is sleeping...
like in payday 2...
me and my team usually do heist only above 10 or 11 pm...
because that is the time when my kids are sleeping...

This post has been edited by Darkz01: Jan 27 2015, 09:28 AM

2 of my friends (dunno they here on this forum or not)
also a gamers even after become parents...
but cannot include in here as they are mum not dad...

one of them is a mother of three...
she even play games while in maternity ward lol...
but on vita lah...
and she still active in gaming till now...

another one is a dota mom...
even with kids and babies...
it doesnt prevent her from playing dota actively...

owh i forgot got another one...
this one is a best couple as they both are gamers...
now still playing games even after their daughter came out...

This post has been edited by Darkz01: Jan 27 2015, 09:45 AM

2 kids here. My eldest girl just started kindergarten this year

Well, i stopped playing MMORPG completely(WoW) due to the required time commitment if you want to be good in MMORPG you need to spend a lot of time in it

I've been playing mainly Hearthstone, Marvel Heroes, Heroes of the Storm or any Single Player game such as Dragon Age Inquisition

I had to force to myself to change to games that requires less commitment where each game of Hearthstone/Heroes of the Storm takes less than 30 minutes which is why i quitted DOTA. It's really hectic when you playing such a long game and suddenly your kids are crying or wife calling you

I sleep very late nowadays at least after 2AM because i still make time for gaming once my kids are asleep. It's bad for my health but deep down I still have the passion for gaming and this will not go away

EDIT: Forgot to mention i have the advantage of playing in office as well Uncle Deimos will know why haha

This post has been edited by ChcGamer: Jan 27 2015, 10:11 AM

same here same here...
previously during lunch i will use it for sleep to cover back some of my sleep time loss lol...
but now no more as i come to office around 10-11 in the morning...
no more 8am punch in the office...

ah well actually i woke up 4am, cos baby forgot to feed.
we woke her up to feed her.

waaa thanks!
congrats to you in advance! 3rd child coming soon!

thanks for sharing your experience!

hobby is very important!
if not, one day, old liao, kids grown up, left, then dunno how to spend time.

waaa! actually i was thinking whether or not wanna put steam gamer mum / dad since i dunno any mums who actively play games.

i go edit the title now.

aaaah demit sorry i forgot about you.

aye, thanks for sharing your experience!

oooo but still, we must jaga our health ooo!
live long and healthy, so we can keep on gaming until our last breath!

Zomg ur a dad already wow
What's the average age group here

Any of u play mobile games? Like ff on phone?

This post has been edited by fujkenasai: Jan 27 2015, 12:26 PM

Deimos Tel`ArinBoss, don't wake up your kid to feed, in most cases sleep > feed. Plus if she's hungry, she will wake you up instead =D

My baby (6 months+ now) is often 'kidnapped' by my mom-in-law lol, so most of the time she will be the one who takes care of my son.

When he's around, I skip games like Payday 2 (my heisters kaki all too farmed up nowadays), DOTA2, CS:GO, or any other online games that require continuous and immediate attention. I will usually play SP games like; Civilization 5, Divinity: Original Sin, FTL, FM2015, Rome 2 etc. These games can be stopped/paused and wait for me to get back from making milk, washing bottles, washing baby's butt etc so it is just perfect.

Wife has been telling me to quit but urgh, I can lower down the gaming hours but to quit gaming entirely is just impossible...

On health-wise, pick a day or two to do some sports and eat healthily (more vege/fruits/water and less oil/sugar/fast food) to balance it a bit. We will definitely lose sleep and HP over taking of baby, best to do something to counter it else we will really game over early.

*Used to play Brave Frontier on mobile but quit recently as I am too busy at work to play on my mobile... New job is hectic, urgh... Only spam Fun Run 2 from time to time.

This post has been edited by ik3da: Jan 27 2015, 12:41 PM

Even for me now, competitive games and MMOs are a huge no now.

I used to take 2 days to finish an SP game or maybe 1-2 weeks for a RPG. Now, i need at least 3 weeks to finish a single player shooter like Wolfenstein or give up half way for longer games like Valkyria Chronicles. I just cant find the time to play through long games these days but I rather have games that I can control my time and able to finish it in less than 2 hours. At the same time, after working for the whole day, I just want something to relax.

Looks like sim racing might be what's left i'll play in the future.

The only time I can play games now is on Friday and Saturday from midnight until after dawn. Or only weekdays (except school holiday) where I'm on MC. No time of course for online games so all SP (TW series and now M&B).

In any case I have been gaming long before the monitor comes in color back in mid 80's so there's no way I'm going to stop gaming, kids or no kids. As I told my wife, better have a stay at home gamer husband than away from home dangdut husband.

This post has been edited by aliesterfiend: Jan 27 2015, 01:09 PM

LOL...

I got summoned...

Dad of a 2 y'o son and 5 m'o daughter.

My game... mostly SP game which can be paused and saved at any point of the game.

Coop/Competitive MP is a huge no since I'm gonna AFK the game once in a while... haha...

so most game I play now is SP game, game that I can finish overnight before this also took few weeks to finish.

gw2 still can what unker lol

Ekeke unker finally a dad eh. I'm a father of 2 girls (5 yrs and 3 yrs old), another one is coming in April. I was always a single player type of game most of the time so no problem there. When I play destiny online its usually after 11pm, my kids and wife usually sleep already, or most of the time I sneak upstairs around 10pm when my wife felt asleep in front of the tv downstairs haha. Nothing to it once you get the routine of fatherhood. You develop your style soon enough, guys always find a way to survive with there hobby haha

Father of 3 year old daughter here. Gaming definitely scaled down but still can find time when she sleeps.

Wah thought still young..
Fuh to think that you carried me when I started playing DayZ last year...
Hebat

My boy is now 1.5 years old. The only game I play these days are YNAB, which is on the way to set a record as the "game most hours spent on".

I still touch Hearthstone once in a while but not much interest. My boy clings to me more than his mom, even though he's a breastfed boy. Sometimes I even fell asleep while lullabying him to sleep & if I didn't fall asleep, I can't play computer games for long since my wife is a log once she goes into slumberland. Therefore, I need to be on the lookout for my boy's cry, either due to hunger or nightmare.

Heck, don't even mention games, finishing a movie can sometimes be a challenge. Last last year, I 1 shot applied for long annual leaves to finish up Breaking Bad.

Anyway, everyone has their own will & way to keep up with their passion. At the end of the day, I'm just trying to get myself to involve as much as possible into my boy's daily life. I've left him with babysitter for almost 12 hours daily so I make it an effort to spend the remaining few precious hours to bond with him. These days, I can't even dedicate my evening to him due to teleconference meetings with counterparts from US & Europe so I'll feel really guilty if I managed to find time for games after he sleeps.

My eldest is 20 and in college. Youngest is 2 and there's no way I can sit in front of pc while sh'e awake because either she'll pull my hand from the mouse or just push the start up/shut down button.

Lol exactly this. My daughter wants me to play with her every waking hour. So no time for myself when she is awake.

I play games with her on PC sometimes, mainly Scribblenauts. Made a mistake playing Fallout NV
with her. After she watch a guys head explode, she doesn't want to play the 'man game' anymore.

Bwahaha last time with DayZ, normally I play late or when afternoon when she either sleeping or with babysitter.

Manyak father ni..

I can't even for 10 seconds. Last night after dinner she sits on my lap when I try to play M&B. Can't do anything because either's she hits the keyboard or pull my hand away. When I put her down she shut down the pc.

Apa lagi.. Tutup lampu.. Jom tidur !

This post has been edited by aliesterfiend: Jan 28 2015, 06:14 PM

Haha yeah. No way my children let me play the games I want. I let her play Scribblenauts though since you can create anything, so she quite happy got dinosaur, robots, princess etc. But I boring la, sit down there play Scribblenauts for 1 hour.

*reads*
.... as a father to be (in a few months) this scares me, haha. after married, had to stay aways from mmorpg, too grindy and time consuming. now only able to play those arena based/round games, world of tanks for example.. hopefully i can still play games pc/console when the time comes (wishful thinking) ^^;

*edits* eh unker deimos, you're still playing gw2 ka?

This post has been edited by dezz: Jan 29 2015, 12:14 PM

u sudah jadi mum ke belum??

Belum

Masih couple life. Hope for a miracle this year.

good luck and ganbatte ne!!!...

thanks everyone for sharing!
good feedback all!



haha yeah just very recently.
daughter came out last week.
i'm 1981 so that makes me 33.5 and turning 34 after birthday this 2015 year.

as for mobile games, well, i got buy errr final fantasy dimensions on play store
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?...ay.ffl_gp&hl=en
but no time to play also haha.

aaah, my wife worry baby not eat enough so we woke her up to feed her.
but after confinement lady came on this tuesday is much better liao.
my wife have more time to rest, since confinement lady will help take care of baby girl also.
as for me, i get a bit more hours on my pc haha.
finally got to play a bit of huniepop for the last 2 nights.

yes, i still can log in for daily rewards.
maybe i can sneak in a few hotjoin rounds tonight later.

ahahah yeah, very recently, last week wednesday baru jadi babak.
hahahah yeah, from what i read, once our child gets older, it gets easier to find the time.

hahaah congrats! seems like i'm faster than you ehehe.
as for gw2, yes, i have been playing casually until dotter came out.
after dotter came out, i can only log in once per day, to get the daily log in rewards.

did not really play gw2 after dotter came.

gambate! mesti ada miracle one!

No la unker, once they older it is still hard to get time. The thing that changes though, as they got older, you become more skillful at finding the time needed more gaming (my wife would called it more sneaky but I prefer skillful haha)

Hi,
I have a girl attending kindergarden and one more incoming new recruit. I stop mmorpg completely after I realized with a kid you cant really be top of your game and it is sad to see as your friends climb higher and higher then you in levels and armor, so I kind of stop it entirely. Dota and starcraft type of game is more appropriate. I play counter strike for a quick gaming fix, clocked 1300+ hours shamelessly. My whole family is gamer, so at night most of us will b e staring at the computer screen. My daughter have 3ds, ipad and her own laptop. I am currently playing h1z1 actively.

Comparing my friends, I am lucky to have a gamer wife, it makes a big different. Cheers

WAHHHHHLAUUU SO MANY OF U FAMILIAR LYN NICKS ARE FATHERS ALREADY ZOMG ZOMG!!!!
NAO IM FEELING VELI T3H OLD

I guess for my age and the kinda games that I play really suite that age also la.
Totalwar, starcraft, even mmo like WoW and guild wars have been around for 10 years more or less, time flies. Young teens these days play only dota no longer quality games like us which is kinda sad.

I guess when your sons get older they will have a great mentor to guild them through their e-games and E-life. 2nd gen of gamers


Just wondering while you all were dating do you all get much time for gaming or does your partner complain every time you game?
I guess it depends on the partner also if she is a clingy type or not. So how do you all deal with it?


I mentioned mobile gaming on phonese cos thesedays everyone carries it around and you get to play when you are commuting or lunch breaks then u save n continue next time.

Do you all have problems keeping awake with so little time to juggle around. Cos with PC and console you cant play it when ever you are waiting for stuff like a friend, mama in law etc

But one thing for sure guys, once your children grow up there is no turning back not like you can save all these moments and load back. So please treasure the time with your children, maybe you can try to incorporate more family annotated games with them after all they are all real noob that need your coaching.

WoW even you are a father already some more one of your kid is already in college ZOMG

I always had an impression of you being around 30

haha make a closet and put ur pc ontop la
can imagine 1/2 way in battle in atila winning already poop now powder lol

guild wars 2 not mmo arr?
have time?

ur waifu like mai mum lol
y need to wait for waifu to sleep? does she not allow u to play games?

carried u how old are u? haha

never thought ur a dad already since ur so active in steam after sc2 hype
Wah your boy already 1.5 so after sc2 hype u became a father, so how did u manage ur gf/wife when u were bz gaming doesnt she complain that u game so much and not paying enuf attention to her?


how old is your daughter? hahaha

how come? I thought when they get older they have homework and skul to take care of

CONGRATS CONGRATS. what game does ur wife play? So i guess u no longer play SC2?

This post has been edited by fujkenasai: Jan 30 2015, 10:25 AM

No MP, only SP unless you got a boy then maybe in few years time can do coop together. If girl, dunno la. My missus used to play the Sims (Sim 1 & 2) but by time Sim 3 no more time.

ya gals are boring when it comes to this gaming topic, but i guess rpg genre are still ok. I know lots of gals into rpg, dota and some rare ones into fps but RTS and turn base is like 1/1000 or more

My wife when she have the time (meaning when her phone is not snatched away by my daughter) only play candycrush..

ohhh ya those cheplak mobile gal games

how can i forget

Hmm... IIRC, I still got a few years of couple life after the SC2 hype died. Perhaps the hype died a little sooner in me compared to you hahaha.

Anyway, I'm kinda lucky as my wife didn't stay with me until she's late into her pregnancy. She was working in the mainland so she rent a room there while I stayed on the island. She only came back during weekends, so everyday after work was gaming time for me until around 1am or 2am.

Anyway, she knew that I was a gamer so she didn't make too much of a fuss when she moved back unless I stayed up past 12am, in which she would nag me to sleep.

Of course, I still need to dedicate some hours for meals & shoppings with her once in a while. Keyword here is to treat & treasure her like how you would expect someone to do the same to you.

Daughter will be 4 this year. I do have mobile games, but all kids games for my daughter, I'm good at it because she likes to watch me play to see "how far the minion can run" etc. But I don't play any other mobile games.

I'm kind of jealous of you guys with gamer wife. Mine is definitely not a gamer but she tolerates my hobby. Last game I actually played with my wife is Farmville on Facebook when she was into it. Now she lost interest in games already.

This post has been edited by Skidd Chung: Jan 30 2015, 01:01 PM

atleast she is not a talexeh hogger she leaves talexeh to steam too

ahh some are not only gamer but hawt gamers too cant jelly too much just eat the jelly

btw are any of you gaming dad gonna get homeworld remastered? have time arr?

This post has been edited by fujkenasai: Feb 1 2015, 05:36 PM

Probably gonna get it in a sale or something. Not really itching to play yet.

its already on sale 15% and its only 55.25 ringgit

I'm a dad. My son is going to be 4 months old soon. Yes... he wants lots of attention, but I do my gaming at night. I get my time when he's sleeping or my wife is with him. It's even more difficult for me since I actually run a video game blog and I have a tonne of games to play for review.

I try my best to get in one hour a day, of games I'm reviewing and weekends I play longer. But I always have time for my son. So much so, my wife thinks I'm spoiling him by carrying him too much or playing with him too much

Also... congratulations Deimos

aaah thanks frags!
congrats to you as well!

wow even u too congrats to you frags.

damn this thread makes me feel old

game review isnt ur main job right?

like ur not an editor for some game magazine or site rite?



This post has been edited by fujkenasai: Feb 4 2015, 01:52 AM

It's not, that's why I have even less time to do everything. I'm not in publishing. I'm a copywriter in an advertising agency. So pretty busy.

ahhh so guess if ur in the us or japan u can be doing copywriting in just games

sad la our market

father reporting here.. 8 years old son and his sister 5 years this year.

build a 2nd rig for my son, we sit and play next to each other. but he only can play on weekend. lol

fujkenasai It's not that my wife stops me from playing games, she actually stops me from "Curi tulang" taking care of the kids by sneaking up and playing games when she feel asleep and leave her alone to hold the fort against 2 very destructive and rampaging daughters who loves to jump on top of her . And it pissed her more when my 2 year old actually said to her " Taba mummy, taba" (taba = sabar).

In fact when my in laws are around my wife encourages me to go upstairs and play games instead of hogging the tv to myself haha. Clash of movie genres preference (I prefer Interstellar sort of stuff whereas they are more towards Maharaja Lawak kind of stuffs )

And kids tends to follow and mimic your behaviour actually, so have to be mindful of the words that are coming out of your mouth and what you watch so I have toned down a lot on games that have too much violence and swearing words ie Gears of Wars, Sleeping Dogs etc.

watch more animu

then they learn another language

Well copywriting is related to advertising. Writing about video games... well yes... there's not a good precedent for that in Malaysia. Case in point PC Gamer Malaysia.

yeah

hope all u gaming dad can change the next gen

Lets fly over then

Here's an interesting story of a gamer dad/ married guy.

Yesterday I went to an exclusive Sony preview event (Bloodborne and The Order: 1886... I know console games, so I won't talk about it). My wife called and asked me whether I'm coming back for dinner. And I said I will have dinner here since there is food. Long story short, basically I was eager to try out the games and I told her, "I'll talk to you later, I've got games to play".

She was probably pissed. Ah the perils of a video gamer husband/dad.

Gamer dad reporting

How i settle wife. Sponser her weekend trip with friends to anywhere as long dont kacau me. Lol

play it when your children are asleep.

once they're bigger quit gaming altogether. don't be a bad influence to your kids please!

This post has been edited by Davidtcf: Feb 7 2015, 10:26 PM

quit gaming?

you're kidding right?

moderate gaming (hobby) while not forgetting priorities is not bad influence.

Gaming n tech enthusiast goes hand in hand.

Only way to test ure hardware
N immerse new fidelity

Thinking back now laughable how long it took for 1080p,1200p,1440p&1600p to finally be conquered with min 60fps

Dx12 should push that further.

If they see u game they will also wanna game? Unless if they don't see and don't know...

My plan is to quit when my kid reaches 5 years or so.. Then only come back to gaming when he's big and attending college. Play all I want that time.

This post has been edited by Davidtcf: Feb 8 2015, 10:52 AM

Hey grats on your little bundle of joy!

1st 6 months is relatively easy as all they do is eat, poop and sleep in whatever order they feel like. You may feel at that age that being a gamer is an advantage since you have an excuse to stay up late to look after them while their mother sleeps. However, as they grow older, and they start getting more mobile then you actually need to pay attention to them to prevent any preventable mishaps.

My kid will be 4 this year and it's definitely not as easy as it used to be - there's definitely less time. Don't know about frags, that's why I spend a lot less time on lowyat and why I've been demoted from mod status!

I don't mind my kid becoming a gamer as long as he has a balanced lifestyle virtual/non virtual. I'm also looking forward till he gets older so I can minecraft/Disney infinity or whatever with him. No GTA for him though!

I like the fact that there are some good games that are suitable for kids these days. Little Big Planet, minecraft etc. Love to play with my son once he's a bit bigger.

PS: I asked for demotion. Just don't have time to moderate the forums... especially since some forumer got so worked up I didn't answer my PM. But seriously though, I'm sure the new mods will do a good job. Need to pass on to the new generation.

for me gaming is a huge gateway to more hardcore addiction to it in the future. We can say "oh nvm he/she will game responsibly" but in the end it's really a hard thing to control with kids.

my parents and sisters believed in responsible gaming. in the end as I grow up they /facepalm and knew they made the wrong decision in buying that Intel Pentium 1 and allowing me to play occasionally on it. As a kid I lost self control as i gradually had more access to the PC. By teenage years I'm a full-blown addict often shopping for Jack Sparrow game CDs at the mall, often playing at anytime when i'm doing with homework etc... using my hard earned ang pao money and buying them.. till mum have to pulled me away from it last time.

finally my gaming couldn't keep up.. games require much higher end specs and I just gave up till reach college.. then that is when addiction came back as i coerce my parents to buy me a new rig to use at college.. downloaded a lot of games from FTP of other students and i know full well later on that I could have done better at college if i did not entangle myself with games. Played Dota 2 like crazy too during that time only to quit it few years ago.. all that wasted time.. Steam clocked me at 300+hours in Dota 2.. in the end what for? what's the point? what do u gain from it? nothing...

it affected my social life.. made me more lone-ranger type of guy and failure to respond correctly in social situations (with friends etc - dad already didn't taught me much so this worsen it). Only growing up I started to learn more by my own. Workplace taught me a lot about the reality of life.. and gaming is truly pointless anywhere in it.. just used to kill time and feed the dopamine addiction in your brain (search up how gaming and dopamine hormones co-relate and u'll understand).

i'd rather they grow up.. become a successful person.. then they decide for themselves. Would hate if they'd end up like me, losing greater potential in what they could have become.. better they use all that time in school activities, studies, and building up their social skills.

what your parents/sister didnt teach you is self control/discipline...
thats all...
i also gaming since kid...
my 1st owned PC was AMD K6 due to cemerlang in UPSR lol...
and that was like nearly 18-19 years ago...
but i dont have any problem with what you faced before...

anything in this world if 'berlebihan' it will bring more cons than pros...

i gave my 4 years old son a pc for himself as his birthday present...
but he can only use it on a weekend with specific limited time...
sometime he does merengek want to play games during weekdays...
but no is a no...
have to teach him discipline since young like what my parents did to me...
i still remember what my father said...
'esok dah kerja mainlah game sepuas puasnya...'

This post has been edited by Darkz01: Feb 8 2015, 11:18 PM

It's true that if you have no self control, you will not do well in studies because of your gaming habits. If it isn't gaming it would be something else. At one point I think I spent most of my time in front of a PC not for gaming but more for MIRC chats. Gaming is just another activity that if not controlled or used with discipline, you will lose yourself to it due to it's addictive nature especially the online games.



Wah 4 years old get PC already?

My daughter gonna be 4 this year as well. She is good in using tablets but not used to Keyboard and mouse yet.

So far she likes to play Scribblenauts on PC so that is normally what I'll play with her.

I don't think she will be ready for PC at least until she starts her primary school.

I also agree that teaching control and discipline is more important. What we don't show or let them play, they will just get the same thing from outside our control like from their friends etc.

Lots of parents don't allow their kids to use tablets but I really don't mind. I actually find they learn a lot from the games I install for them. My daughter learn her ABCs and 123 from tablet games. Her counting of objects, recognition of animals and food stuff are all from tablet apps. While educational books are also partly responsible, somehow tablets games are responsive to their actions and they can know if they are right or wrong. Unlike books which require us parents to tell them, tablets automatically read it out to them when they just touch it. It's really fantastic how much they can learn.

Isn't this thread like getting derailed.

Gaming is simpler now. Can't game on comp..
Stream to my Nvidia shield tablet..

Well I only sleep 6 hrs a day so lol loads of time to game.

This post has been edited by cstkl1: Feb 9 2015, 09:59 AM

yes you do loose time on gaming while you can improve on your social skills and physical development, but most gamers like us know where to buy PC parts and assemble our own PC format and install OS. These are skills of trouble shooting and being resourceful, you learn as you play not like our education system where learning has to be boring and suffering.

There are lots of games that are educational, like the total war series especially the realism mods they teach you about real history and what people from that age experience and went through where you can never get from books battle ships model, army formation, architecture models.

Then for aircraft simulation games you get to experience driving different models of plances from fighter jets to commercial aircrafts, how much do you need to spend to actually get those experiences?

Do you know economic professors acctually study and research about economic models from MMORPG like world of warcraft . The topic is called Virtual Economy.

University of florida(an ivy league university) has a honors class in starcraft
http://www.geek.com/games/university-of-fl...-class-1278434/

RPG gaming is the new human literature of the 21st century. Classic final fantasy are the Shakespeare of the gaming world.

you make them miss out so much.

yes teaching kids self discipline is very important in life its much more effective than controling them using physical punishment, let them know the consequences of gaming addiction, and how to gain balance life at an early age.

how is it derailing its about parenting

Dude I doubt anybody here is bothered to listen to a total stranger abt parenting.

It's more of ranting/bitching as far as I can tell ...so far all are talking abt quiting/ y they quit/ n future aspirations for their children..

As for the enrichment of ones mind.. Any mature person can tell you ..anyone can learn from anything by just changing you're prespective on it be it gaming or baking.

Back on gaming. Hmm so far looks like SOM & DYING LIGHT were good in the last few months.

So many AAA titles were bad. Totally gonna boycot ubisoft. Techland really up their game on support. N Warner games are somewhat reliable so looking forward to the new batman.

2014 awards SOM took a few categories but hmm dragon age inquisition was bad yet it won .

This post has been edited by cstkl1: Feb 9 2015, 10:55 AM

nope...
still running strong on track...

parenting is only part of being a lyn steam gamer dads & mums, the topic is lyn steam gamer dads & mums sanctuary

So whats wrong with people here talking about prenting while they game?



however this part is

Dude u guys are mainly talking about quiting gaming. N nothing on gaming.

Fair point.

As for childcare tips there are other threads n it's more of hobby vs time spend with child. Gaming , baking lol n playing golf or even going to gym has the same common issue... Having time for your self. Productivity of each hobby is really a matter of perspective. If ure spouse/family has issues with it then in my opinion you basically misrepresented yourself to her. Hobby addiction nvr really goes away unless it's a financial issue etc.
Social aspects.. Come on. As we grow older friends etc all face same issue...not enough time for hobby n even sleep.
This hobby to me among my friends is cheaper n healthier than blowing few $k every weekend etc.

Raising a child in this era/country.. Gaming influence is the least of ure worries. In fact looks like one can earn from it either by e-sport/a degree in game architecture etc/ or even streaming on gameplay/guide etc.

I would think since everybody here is aged.. So they would be thrilled at where gaming is at in the last three years

Laughable at how last ten years even 1200p/1600p was a struggle. Or how screen ratios has change.
Btw has anyone here even tried shield tablet. Settles half of your woes.

N how game developers nowadays take ppl for a ride with bad product/dlcs/ season pass etc.

So really is more interesting is what games you all play rather than talking about not playing.

As u said. Steam Lynn mummy n daddy gamers. That means some financial commitment on hardware also.

Cause so far you guys are far from the avid daddy gamers I know. We talk about games n hardware. How ppl bitching 2k gpu now is expensive when we were all paying more than that n it only was good for 30fps 1440x900 etc.

As for time to game.. Shield tablet is ure answer. There is always time but not so much as sitting infront of your computer since we have to mobile.

With Nvidia 980m .. We finally have a laptop graphics that's on par with desktop.
Or maybe I don't belong in this group of daddy gamers.
Hence my last post till somebody in common ground shows up.

This post has been edited by cstkl1: Feb 9 2015, 12:48 PM

well, i believe discipline and moderation is important.
any form of addiction is bad.

to lead an example, i must not show her that i am addicted to pc games.
that i am able to stop anytime in order to spend time on immediate priorities.

also, at age of 5 means can play pc games together liao.

thanks! aaah congrats to you too! wah! 4 years already!
no wonder i am not seeing you around on the forums! frags too!

ya ya. i think i need to hide all those small things (usb drive, etc) now.

and yup, balanced lifestyle, not addicted.

hmmm what other games on steam store do you think could be suitable for young kids?

i think talking about both parenting & gaming is okay lor in here.



a place for people to hang out together mah.
to share stories.


eh pls dun go away ah.
i enjoy reading informative posts like yours!
please do stay and participate oh!


actually, i think my main intention of this tered is to have a place for gamers dads & mums to hang out, share their experiences and all. i believe everyone is welcome!

casual chit chat gathering sharing experience tered mah!

Wow just found this thread. Father of 2 reporting in!

At the moment hooked up with Dying Light

However not much time for gaming left. My schedule is packed!
But last weekend got some free time so I managed to clock 12 hrs on Dying Light (played on Sat and Sun).

Like some parents here, I also bought a PC for my son (7). We do some multiplayer gaming together. But not serious gaming, I don't even use my keyboard and mouse for gaming anymore and opted for gamepads nowdays.

Main thing is to have fun

I started gaming since 1994 and my first game is GOD

The one where you throw axes right?

woah the platform game...
I played this too before

I started gaming during this period...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_vi...E2.80.931986.29

My first 'home pc' experience (not mine, one of my 'richer' friend got one) where it looks like some sort of cassette recorder an hook it to TV and took about maybe 15-20 minutes to load. The early games I remember was Summer Olympic and Lode Runner.

Of course my dad is 'rich' enough at that time to buy me a 'Game & Watch'. It's about saving people from fire by using trampolin or something. My first console game I guess.

My son is 7 now but the only game he likes to play is that free Steam game Warthunder. Loves to fly airplane I guess. Ok lah. He only like to watch youtubes most of the time and play with Lego (actual one, not digital)

Yeah, GODS, not GOD. Sorry typo. Spartan warrior, or is it Hercules who threw axes. Lolz.

nice...
i started around that year too...
but my 1st game was prince of persia 2...

played it on my neighbor pc...
dat time i dont have any pc until 1997...

hmm i started pc gaming since 1990 (primary standard 3) i think, attended computer class in school back then. it was until year 1993 when my dad bought a 386 pc for our home.
first game in 1990 hmmm i can't really remember.
but the first few games that i got play that time was
CAT.EXE
DIGGER.EXE
NINJA.EXE

karateka
golden axe 1
double dragon 1
prince of persia 1

GODS was around 1993 or 1994 when we got a pc at home.

i think the spartan threw puny daggers first.
axe mahal yo. need to buy.

aye, awesome platformer, me and me bro, we spent many hours on it back then.
can play online here, i think.

https://archive.org/details/msdos_Gods_1991

walao eh, golden age is 1978 - 1986 !!!
1981 baru i spawn into this world leh!

aaah, 1997 i think me and me bro, our dad bought us our first pentium 1 166mhz

I'm already ancient one. I blame my pc gaming addiction to my father who first brought me to Ampang Park back in early 80's. Masa tu main game Space Invader and Arkanoid.

When I was in promary school (boarding school that time) surprise when balik kampung one time and saw a pc at my home. DOS base lagi at that time. Around 86-87 kot. It was the 'no color' monitor. Playing simple games like like Lode Runner and all. Got addicted so bad.

After that in early 90's got games like Dune II, X-COM (Terror from the deep) and Wolfenstein. Dunno where my younger brother got that games. All comes with disketts. I was in U at that time though can't afford my own pc so my gaming fix was in BB Plaza/Sungai Wang.

Only in 98 I can afford my own PC. It was Pentium II (or III ?) 500 Mhz I think. That time playing AOE mostly.

haha memang ancient since your eldest child age 20 liao and in college.
but why youngest age 2 pulak?
eeeeh how many kids do you have?


hmmm speaking about addiction, what should we do to take care such that our kids are not addicted to pc gaming, mobile gaming etc?

minta Darkz01 advice as well.

The oldest was with my ex-wife. My ex dun like me stay at home play games. She wants to to take her out to discos every night.

My wife now now love that I seldom go out anymore... Maybe once in a while to meet old friends once or twice a month.

I don't think we can or can't make kids addicted to gaming because at the end of the day it depends on whether they are interested in games. Like my son, he's a pc kid. Even if I give him tab or laptop to use he don't want. He's a mouse and keyboard kid, not like my 5 year old who's more into tabs and touch screens.

In any case, the more kids are exposed to something then the more they wont get hooked (I think, just my own opinion and observation, no substantial research that I know of) rather than we shield them too much from something because they are at the curious age lot. If we stop them playing games at home for example then there's a possibility that they may sneak out to play games at cyber cafes (which is worse in my opinion).

whatever happen kids usually will try to imitate us, so if you don't want to make kids addicted to gaming then don't show them that you're addicted. That's why now I only play games long hours after they sleep.

another father reporting in...have a 1 year old son that sleep late at night around 12am...

started gaming when i was around 6-7 years old? using those mini-tablet game...the game concept is just going left right and making sure u catch all the falling down from the sky or something like that...lol
then super genius came into the picture wif street fighter, ninja turtle, mario, etc
real pc gaming only started at my early teenager years wif pentium 166mhz - CnC, KKND, Diablo, etc...
touch a bit playstation1, gameboy, famicom or something like that...
i guess my childhood gaming experience is much less the same like u guys...

now as a working adult wif a once-casual-gamer-wife (whom i pulled her in during our dating times) and a hyperactive 1year old kid
, my PC gaming session has been reduced tremendously...mostly bcoz my PC is my at mother house, while i'm now staying at my wife's parent house (long offtopic story)
but are now awaiting for my new house to complete renovation...then hopefully i resume back my PC gaming life in full-throttle

still every weekend i do visit my mum's house and get to play one-two hours before i dooze off on the seat...
i guess my old age also partly affects my gaming session...
other than that - i do have 3ds, psv, ipad, handphone to fulfill my gaming addiction...

ohhh and i just bought a 960gpu, which i intend to install into my rig after moving into my new house and to enjoy witcher3 later on... and now that i'm back to upgrading my rig...i discovered many new techs that im not aware of for a long time...

anyway, in my new house i have dedicated a small private room just for my gaming session...
my wife knows about it and doesnt make any noise about it...yet.
really hoping my house to complete soon and i can move in and start gaming again....or not...

and for my son - at the moment, he is grabbing every 'shiny' gadgets i hold in my hands...if he couldn't get it - he'll cry and yell...
a problem i pray would not get worse as he gets older...

This post has been edited by karwaidotnet: Feb 10 2015, 03:58 PM