LDR is never easy even if you guys are in different states.

She is not wrong in mentioning in handling the family alone when you are in SG. i had that problem when i am working in KL and wife in Melaka. although i go back weekly, she is the one taking the kids for monthly checkup, taking care of household. my mum is there to cook and take care of kids but mentally, you need to be there as well... my wife had to bring my 1st kid to school while on maternity leave just because i cannot take leave to go back...

not forgetting about emergencies, who is going to be there when theres an emergency?