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TSTeddysaur
post Jan 6 2015, 10:23 AM, updated 11y ago

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Hello. first and foremost, thank you for any helping hands.
I had been an emotional person since I was young. But despite so, i am a person who hardly share anything I've gone through especially my feelings to others. I usually keep it to myself. But I'm always afraid and insecure of telling what I've gone through and why I'm feeling sad to other people. As I am sure, no one will understand and doesn't take it seriously. Which made me even more sad of my life. I had always been struggling with my life and to reach out to people regarding my life. And it's getting worst when my parents divorced at my teen age. Life has not been great. With family, my education, and relationship. And I'm constantly had failure as a result on everything I am trying to achieve. It's taking a toll on my health now. I am as depressive as I can be. Self hating is my game. And I had been isolating myself from people now. I don't find anything happy anymore. And I always prefer to be on my own. I couldnt find any joy with activities. Which made matter worst now as I only think about ending my life and let go of everything. I understand despite what I've told here, no one would understand or even bothered about it.

So please let me know, will befrienders help? And how does it work? I've heard people suggested them for this kind of thing. Will they understand? What would they do to help? Will they judge you? Will it be confidential? Do I have to pay for anything? My financial is not stable either. Thus why i could'nt afford to seek professional help. Besides i am afraid of medication for this.

If any kind soul can help and share their experiences with befrienders, would be appreciated. Thank you. Looking forward to hear some warm replies.
SUSMatrix
post Jan 6 2015, 10:25 AM

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Well, good for you, at least you are seeking out help. I don't have experience with them, but i am sure there's no harm giving them a call and seek help. Good luck.
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post Jan 6 2015, 10:26 AM

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Teddysaur

So, no experience to share other than to urge you to call them and just talk it out.

Every boy is somebody son right - you must have people around you who love and care about you. Perhaps its just not expressed in the right way.

Always remember that and once again, just call them.
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post Jan 6 2015, 10:27 AM

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Maybe you should post your location, any kind soul maybe will be your friend and can talk about it ^^
lawsh
post Jan 6 2015, 10:55 AM

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just like here, MOST of us are strangers to you BUT you are telling us your issues/problems

it's the same for befrienders, studies have shown that telling strangers your problems may help relieve some of the stress/tension instead of just keeping it in
based on experience, they will just normally listen to you and maybe provide some advices

cheers, if it helps just type a wall of text and those concerned enough will give you good responses, just filter out those nonsense and not take those to heart smile.gif
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post Jan 6 2015, 05:22 PM

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QUOTE(Teddysaur @ Jan 6 2015, 10:23 AM)
Hello. first and foremost,  thank you for any helping hands.
I had been an emotional person since I was young. But despite so, i am a person who hardly share anything I've gone through especially my feelings to others. I usually keep it to myself. But I'm always afraid and insecure of telling what I've gone through and why I'm feeling sad to other people. As I am sure, no one will understand and doesn't take it seriously. Which made me even more sad of my life. I had always been struggling with my life and to reach out to people regarding my life. And it's getting worst when my parents divorced at my teen age. Life has not been great. With family, my education, and relationship. And I'm constantly had failure as a result on everything I am trying to achieve. It's taking a toll on my health now. I am as depressive as I can be. Self hating is my game. And I had been isolating myself from people now. I don't find anything happy anymore. And I always prefer to be on my own. I couldnt find any joy with activities. Which made matter worst now as I only think about ending my life and let go of everything. I understand despite what I've told here, no one would understand or even bothered about it.

So please let me know, will befrienders help? And how does it work? I've heard people suggested them for this kind of thing. Will they understand? What would they do to help? Will they judge you? Will it be confidential? Do I have to pay for anything? My financial is not stable either. Thus why i could'nt afford to seek professional help. Besides i am afraid of medication for this.

If any kind soul can help and share their experiences with befrienders, would be appreciated. Thank you. Looking forward to hear some warm replies.
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bello I was the same as you and also lost interests in many things I used to enjoy. My parents just divorced 3 years ago...however I can still remember clearly how my dad walked out of house sweat.gif Let's be friends....

I am improving a lot now all thanks to my lovely pastor...

This post has been edited by Cherryx: Jan 6 2015, 05:29 PM
TinyPumpkin
post Jan 6 2015, 05:34 PM

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QUOTE(lawsh @ Jan 6 2015, 10:55 AM)
just like here, MOST of us are strangers to you BUT you are telling us your issues/problems

it's the same for befrienders, studies have shown that telling strangers your problems may help relieve some of the stress/tension instead of just keeping it in
based on experience, they will just normally listen to you and maybe provide some advices

cheers, if it helps just type a wall of text and those concerned enough will give you good responses, just filter out those nonsense and not take those to heart smile.gif
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Teddysaur Please do not think of ending your life. You have people and family who care about you.

Just call the befrienders; they are trained to handle people with problems. It would be easier to talk to strangers about your problems. tongue.gif
Blindspot61
post Jan 6 2015, 09:02 PM

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You dont hv to pay anything to talk to befriender. They are set up to help/listen to those people who are depress or having any problem at all.

I am sure you can post whatever you hv in mind or anyyhinv borthering you here and those forumer are willing to listen or gv you any suggestion.


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post Jan 6 2015, 09:09 PM

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No harm in seeking someone to talk to
ah_suknat
post Jan 6 2015, 09:11 PM

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you are not alone

its normal to have the low of your life

but we have the power to change it

its all in the mind

start life a new, let by gone be by gone

if you have the courage to end your life, have the courage to start a new life.

its never too late

find a purpose, find an interest, work for it.

you can live your life again

I wish you all the best
jeckyl
post Jan 6 2015, 10:08 PM

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Befrienders can be just to listen to you. Sometimes its easier to open up to strangers as you have no emotional attachment to them. They will not interrogate you. When you call, they will listen. They will be someone you can talk to; you can stay anonymous if it makes it easier for you. There is no fee or obligations.
You need to open up to someone. It will help to take some of the emotional baggage you're caring around.

Phone Calls
You can contact Befrienders via hotline phone calls at
03-79568144 or 03-79568145 we are available 24 hours a day.

E-mail
You also can reach us through e-mail at sam@befrienders.org.my .

Face to face
If you think you need to meet us face to face, you can call us at the above phone number
to make an appointment.
Befrienders Center
No.95 Jalan Templer,
46000 Petaling Jaya.


 

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