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TSyuannee
post Dec 15 2014, 03:24 PM, updated 7y ago

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post Dec 15 2014, 03:29 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 03:24 PM)
Girls, do u guys realize there are some guys always try to lift their elbow up and sapu your chest when they walk pass  u especially at crowded place? i dont know they are accidentally or intentionally so most of the time i will just ignore.

I went to adidas warehouse sale at a mall last week. Met a guy did this to me twice. First time we were passing by a narrow aisle, i try to give way by turning my body side way then he just walk pass like normal but with his elbow protrude from the body rub against my chest from left to right.

Then second time i met him again at the very crowded cashier. This time i totally didnt aware of him because i was standing there looking at something high and all the sudden he tries to squeeze himself in between me and a lady and his arm is lifting horizontally in front his chest and he push his arm against my chest with force, my cloth is thin and my bra too, i feel his arm heavily. he pretend looking up high also for few second.

He is wearing the uniform of one of the shop in the mall, i know the shop. Should i go to report police or what i can do.
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Sounds like a deliberate act of an @$$hole... but very slim chance to lodge report as he may very well claim that as an 'accident' or unavoidable circumstances in crowded place... poor you... and good luck... icon_rolleyes.gif
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:32 PM

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You can file report but i'm not sure how the PDRM is going to handle this case.....don't expect too much.

You can be more vigilant the next time you see creeps like this guy. You can try to protect yourself by holding your bag close to your chest. If they're forcing their way, you can always scream for attention.
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:32 PM

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personally, i think that is one of his "moves". but it all depends on his facial expression. im sure u can tell if it was an honest mistake or it was purposely done.



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post Dec 15 2014, 03:32 PM

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U can complaint to the shop manager if got cctv around.
He did it so i guess this is not his 1st time doing this.
Let the manager give him a warning.
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:34 PM

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ya, i guess TS has been taken-advantage-of.....cause the second time he tried harder to grope.........btw u can always say something like this (what i heard from singporean girls) " excuse me, u r too near"

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TSyuannee
post Dec 15 2014, 03:41 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Dec 15 2014, 03:29 PM)
Sounds like a deliberate act of an @$$hole... but very slim chance to lodge report as he may very well claim that as an 'accident' or unavoidable circumstances in crowded place... poor you... and good luck...  icon_rolleyes.gif
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It was like accident to me too until i think twice. thanks anyway

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post Dec 15 2014, 03:44 PM

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QUOTE(tensaiboyai @ Dec 15 2014, 03:32 PM)
personally, i think that is one of his "moves". but it all depends on his facial expression. im sure u can tell if it was an honest mistake or it was purposely done.
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I didnt really have the time to react or see his facial expression. I even suspect he did it more than twice on me on the afternoon

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post Dec 15 2014, 03:47 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 03:44 PM)
I didnt really have the time to react or see his facial expression. I even suspect he did it more than twice on me on the afternoon
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Well, if you feel violated, you should really just verbally make it known.

But of course if you're unsure, dont create a scene where it may embarrass someone potentially innocent.
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:47 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 03:41 PM)
It was like accident to me too until i think twice. thanks anyway
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Were you alone or with someone at that time? If you have someone with you then, you should have convey with that person immediately after the incident. Now may be a little late... If I were there with you, I'll notice it immediately. smile.gif
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:50 PM

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may his hand swollen for a month if he did tat on purpose
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:50 PM

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QUOTE(MechaLEE @ Dec 15 2014, 03:34 PM)
ya, i guess TS has been taken-advantage-of.....cause the second time he tried harder to grope.........btw u can always say something like this (what i heard from singporean girls) " excuse me, u r too near"
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I have the same idea, but what can i do now? I wasnt have time to talk to him. His arm came so sudden , stop for few second then he leaves, i just wake up after that.
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post Dec 15 2014, 03:54 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Dec 15 2014, 03:47 PM)
Were you alone or with someone at that time? If you have someone with you then, you should have convey with that person immediately after the incident. Now may be a little late... If I were there with you, I'll notice it immediately.  smile.gif
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I was alone, with 2 handful shopping bags. I felt like i have been targeted
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post Dec 15 2014, 04:01 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 03:54 PM)
I was alone, with 2 handful shopping bags. I felt like i have been targeted
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u r not very wise by carrying shopping bags like this, ppl can easily rob u too especially in car park........ so just treat it as lesson n be more smart next time : dont wear clothes which are so revealing n dont carry too many bags n make ur self a sitting duck......... or u can wear like this - lady gaga fire shooting bra!Attached Image
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post Dec 15 2014, 04:06 PM

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QUOTE(kuntilanak @ Dec 15 2014, 03:29 PM)
Sounds like a deliberate act of an @$$hole... but very slim chance to lodge report as he may very well claim that as an 'accident' or unavoidable circumstances in crowded place... poor you... and good luck...  icon_rolleyes.gif
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Even if no action taken now, if more and more people come to report same incident and the number accumulate then there will be time for management to take action since the reputation is more valuable than that single worker.

Report to upper management might be more appropriate I think shocking.gif
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post Dec 15 2014, 04:07 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 03:24 PM)
Girls, do u guys realize there are some guys always try to lift their elbow up and sapu your chest when they walk pass  u especially at crowded place? i dont know they are accidentally or intentionally so most of the time i will just ignore.

I went to adidas warehouse sale at a mall last week. Met a guy did this to me twice. First time we were passing by a narrow aisle, i try to give way by turning my body side way then he just walk pass like normal but with his elbow protrude from the body rub against my chest from left to right.

Then second time i met him again at the very crowded cashier. This time i totally didnt aware of him because i was standing there looking at something high and all the sudden he tries to squeeze himself in between me and a lady and his arm is lifting horizontally in front his chest and he push his arm against my chest with force, my cloth is thin and my bra too, i feel his arm heavily. he pretend looking up high also for few second.

He is wearing the uniform of one of the shop in the mall, i know the shop. Should i go to report police or what i can do.
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i lived in japan for 6 years, the capital of perverts...

what u shud do is be brave, shout, inform and tell people there what he did.

"Excuse me, why are you rubbing against my chest?"

he can say what he wants, but you have to speak out first.

the rest is easier.
you can even google what to do in this situations.... i too lazy to find out....
but the most important thing, the first step, is to make it known.

good luck next time.


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post Dec 15 2014, 04:13 PM

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QUOTE(Zot @ Dec 15 2014, 04:06 PM)
Even if no action taken now, if more and more people come to report same incident and the number accumulate then there will be time for management to take action since the reputation is more valuable than that single worker.

Report to upper management might be more appropriate I think  shocking.gif
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Who should i report to? the warehouse sales management? the shop the guy work at? or the mall management?
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post Dec 15 2014, 04:19 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 04:13 PM)
Who should i report to? the warehouse sales management? the shop the guy work at? or the mall management?
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I have no experience in this but perhaps others do. I would report to the management where the guy work so that if they think necessary will take immediate action. Depend on how they judge your story. Maybe few others already complained and the case is mounting. The management will have immediate access to any report involving their employee.
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post Dec 15 2014, 04:51 PM

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QUOTE(yuannee @ Dec 15 2014, 03:54 PM)
I was alone, with 2 handful shopping bags. I felt like i have been targeted
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If it's the same guy with borderline suspicious movement towards you, you can try complaining to the shop management since you were inside the shop when this happens and that guy seems to work there. Good luck. smile.gif

But the better option is, like others have pointed out, voice/shout out at that very moment to bring the matter to people's attention on the spot. smile.gif
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post Dec 15 2014, 05:07 PM

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QUOTE(petra34 @ Dec 15 2014, 04:31 PM)
i guess its case basis, this is a crowd place that you went to, and this could be diverted by points easily, for an instance by own experience, I am a Guy, went to this pureen sale recently, and if any of you guys know how the crowd wud be... gosh the ladies out there they just fall on on you, their chest was all over my back, hands fly everywhere, even if you try avoiding body contacts the ladies who was so enthusiastically grabbing the deals out there dont bother... so who do I complain to? if you see what I mean.

**** I dont mean to offend anyone here, even considering ladies in my families too .. if you are where sure of his intention I guess its worth enough to escalate it....
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I got your point. Also I know this is very common at such warehouse sale.
But from the way he push and the strength I know he did it intentionally. Anyhow I have no where to complain look like. Take it as a lesson

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